Yeah you really don't have to deal with this. His addiction is one that happens, but not something that you are obligated to go through with him/fix. You both are very young and this relationship is fairly new. Ask yourself if it's worth it to put yourself through this doubt and insecurity, and go from there
You need to have a conversation and tell her that it is over. It has been for 4 years. She is using you to cover her expenses even though you earn the same. Stop being a people pleaser. There is a book called The subtle art of not giving a f**k by Mark Manson. I think you need to read it.
LOL, you're the one coming here to ask for advice. I'm sorry your ego is so bruised as to think someone might actually be not that into you.
He literally moved. He doesn't even open your messages (as you said he just got around to seeing it). He doesn't inquire about you or want to know you more.
But hang in there, everything you said in your OP sounds like it's ideal for you.
She’s had a pretty traumatic past so I think part of it her struggling to get passed her history and then I take the hit. It’s something I’m willing to work through with her, but she has to acknowledge that there is an issue with the way these disagreements have been transpiring.
They seem like they're critical people with no sense of boundaries – the fact that they feel comfortable commenting on their son's relationship at all and the fact that he listens rather than shutting them down tells you all you need to know –
They dont support their son, they think they should have influence over his choices and that he should seek their approval in his relationships (and presumably other areas of his life) – but this is his problem, not yours
You have a choice to stay with him and remain vulnerable to their criticism or decide that you arent interested in this dynamic and that you are willing to move on so that you'll be available to explore people/opportunities with people who dont bring that particular flavor of baggage into your life/relationship
It's your call – just be aware that you arent responsible for their feelings, you have no control over what any of these people say or do, but you can choose not to tolerate it
Was going to say the same.
Social workers at the hospital can help you navigate this. Ask them for help finding a safe place to go.
Yeah you really don't have to deal with this. His addiction is one that happens, but not something that you are obligated to go through with him/fix. You both are very young and this relationship is fairly new. Ask yourself if it's worth it to put yourself through this doubt and insecurity, and go from there
You need to have a conversation and tell her that it is over. It has been for 4 years. She is using you to cover her expenses even though you earn the same. Stop being a people pleaser. There is a book called The subtle art of not giving a f**k by Mark Manson. I think you need to read it.
Not your gf, dude.
Kick her out. Break up with her.
LOL, you're the one coming here to ask for advice. I'm sorry your ego is so bruised as to think someone might actually be not that into you.
He literally moved. He doesn't even open your messages (as you said he just got around to seeing it). He doesn't inquire about you or want to know you more.
But hang in there, everything you said in your OP sounds like it's ideal for you.
She’s had a pretty traumatic past so I think part of it her struggling to get passed her history and then I take the hit. It’s something I’m willing to work through with her, but she has to acknowledge that there is an issue with the way these disagreements have been transpiring.
Yeah, like what possible good could come out of that versus just having a normal ass party or doing some fun trip/event with your friends.
They seem like they're critical people with no sense of boundaries – the fact that they feel comfortable commenting on their son's relationship at all and the fact that he listens rather than shutting them down tells you all you need to know –
They dont support their son, they think they should have influence over his choices and that he should seek their approval in his relationships (and presumably other areas of his life) – but this is his problem, not yours
You have a choice to stay with him and remain vulnerable to their criticism or decide that you arent interested in this dynamic and that you are willing to move on so that you'll be available to explore people/opportunities with people who dont bring that particular flavor of baggage into your life/relationship
It's your call – just be aware that you arent responsible for their feelings, you have no control over what any of these people say or do, but you can choose not to tolerate it