Your 'best friend' sounds very mature for giving you space. From what you wrote, it sounds like your connection is stronger with him than your ex. Also, two years is a long time. You may have grown apart with the ex.
But ultimately, you need to decide who you can live your life without. Either conversation will be a difficult one. We can't make that decision. But it needs to happen.
Never marry someone on the basis that you might only be happy with them if they change large parts of themselves. They never do, and you never will be.
If he wanted closure you two would have it right then and there in the chat.
He could apologize and ask for forgiveness in the damn chat!
Asking to meet up is him asking to weasel his way back in, to SEE if you are still in love with him, to see if he could covet you from your husband.
This guy is still in love with you and clearly hasn’t moved on.
Someone moved on but wanting to put to rest would have either left you alone or sent an apology message to help you finally put it to rest.
I say this about an ex at the start of 2021, when months after we broke up we stopped being friends because of another women, years later who eventually left him. He didn’t me to hate him for what happened and APOLOGIZED & took accountability in a DM on Instagram. And we haven’t spoke since.
Then set a boundary, tell her family, “this isn't fucking happening. If it does, you will be asked to leave the wedding, and when we are asked why you left, we will show the receipts of this message showing we warned you well ahead of time and were very specific.”
Your 'best friend' sounds very mature for giving you space. From what you wrote, it sounds like your connection is stronger with him than your ex. Also, two years is a long time. You may have grown apart with the ex.
But ultimately, you need to decide who you can live your life without. Either conversation will be a difficult one. We can't make that decision. But it needs to happen.
Not only is she manipulating you, she’s manipulating her kid and purposely making him sad.
Never marry someone on the basis that you might only be happy with them if they change large parts of themselves. They never do, and you never will be.
He has some deep anger and abandoment issues and needs therapy. You on the other hand need to leave, because he is abusive.
dont date men who cant take care of themselves. you dont want to be your partners mommy.
Who can help you? Do you have safety net or are you all alone?
No, do not.
He’s looking for away back into your life.
If he wanted closure you two would have it right then and there in the chat.
He could apologize and ask for forgiveness in the damn chat!
Asking to meet up is him asking to weasel his way back in, to SEE if you are still in love with him, to see if he could covet you from your husband.
This guy is still in love with you and clearly hasn’t moved on.
Someone moved on but wanting to put to rest would have either left you alone or sent an apology message to help you finally put it to rest.
I say this about an ex at the start of 2021, when months after we broke up we stopped being friends because of another women, years later who eventually left him. He didn’t me to hate him for what happened and APOLOGIZED & took accountability in a DM on Instagram. And we haven’t spoke since.
Op, this guy 100% has ulterior motives.
DO. NOT. GO. MEET. UP!!!
It’s a damn trap!!!
‘I told my husband’ is the first line of the last paragraph
Then set a boundary, tell her family, “this isn't fucking happening. If it does, you will be asked to leave the wedding, and when we are asked why you left, we will show the receipts of this message showing we warned you well ahead of time and were very specific.”
Pretend that your post is a friend asking you for advice.
What would you tell them?