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Date: December 2, 2022
That's right. Past is past, those bad memories should forget. Retain those who make you feel happy.
So you see your GF as some type of Angel on a pedestal? She literally wanted to open your relationship because of another guy and then went and fucked him all night.
I think the issue here is you. Sure you're a “Data” driven guy but you're a doormat. She knows it. Getting high doesnt make one suffer a lapse in judgement to the point she fucked another guy THAT SHE WANTED YOU TO OPEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP FOR SO SHE COULD FUCK HIM. You cannot be THAT stupid. Do you suffer dependency issues?
Sorry if that comes across as harsh but, JFC dude. I'll lay it out straight for you….I get the impression if you walked in on her being railed on your bed by him and she said “Its not what it looks like” you'd believe her.
There is nothing in your post that says you shouldnt leave her for this. She wanted to semi-leave you for it. Let him have her, unless being a chump is your bag baby.
For real. Also, a million dollars isn’t “fuck off and do nothing with life” money. If you wisely invest in yourself, you can pull yourself out of poverty and give yourself a real opportunity here.
If you are looking at this million, as a debit account.. you will be broke in no time.
Be smart. No one needs to know about this, especially women you are dating and not yet serious about.
I had a guy after a few dates show me his investment portfolio for advice.. over casual drinks at the bar. Cause I work in finance ?
He works IT in bumfuck-Ville making 45-50k a year. Which he oddly told me about within the first 3 dates, (I don’t care how much he makes.) Then shows this account that has 1mil. It was actually a huge turnoff. He tried to say that it was his money alone (which can actually be done if he was a savvy ass investor) but then learn it’s an account him and his mother split after his father passed. But like.. why even fucking tell me any of this?
Why even bring up any money you have in your account.. if you are not discussing marriage, assets and prenups?
It was obviously a “flex” and had the opposite effect he thought it would have on me.
What I’m saying is, there is literally zero reason for you to bring up your account balance.
Losing a child like that, has a huge impact. She obviously struggling with it atm.
My suggestion is to be there for her and to listen. She's likely to make mistakes, so try to be understanding and supportive.
I think he was an idiot for staying with you. should have sent you to the streets where you belong the moment he found out you cheated.
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I supported my friend group often and wholeheartedly until it became plain to me that they were never going to let go of their latant homophobia. When I got engaged to another woman, they offered prayers and little else, so I cut them loose.
But they didn’t chase me. Yours did. If they only chased you to chastise you for not supporting Sarah, maybe they’re not seeing the forest for the trees, but if they genuinely want to know how you feel and validate your feelings of loving/supporting Sarah but also feel hurt that you were shut out of the finale of her journey, let them know. The ones who tell you “the whole situation was not ideal, your feelings are valid, I know you love Sarah, and we love you” are the ones worth keeping.
OP, tell the truth. Be true to what you forsee as your choices, needs, wants, not only for yourself, but for her as well. That is the honorable and caring actions of a gentleman and friend. She has 4 grueling years ahead of her. Endless hours away from home, constant exhaustion, and pressure to perform at top level by the hospitals Resident physicians & surgeons in charge of her internship. Let her down gently if that is your decision. Shell be OK.
What makes her think just because it’s a woman that it is okay but if it were a man it wouldn’t be okay? That delegitimizes every non-heterosexual relationship out there.
I see possibke red flags. But, maybe he's not so sure himself and just will go along with whatever you say. But, it's not good to always flip things back on you, esp when having a serious convo.
Sometimes, people resort to humor when nervous or uncertain. Sometimes, people flip something back on you when defensive or to avoid the subject, which is evident when you stated he'll change the topic. Maybe he needs to think about it.
You can always throw out hypothericals to see what he would do or say. Or have another serious Volvo with him, but make him understand that it's okay if he's completely not sure yet. Then you can tell him yours and have him provide feedback on each point. Honesty and communication are impt. Whatever ypindo, I wish you both well.
Wait if you can, leave if you must If she isn't ready for a relationship now and you're “perfect for each other” there's no emergency at all, si just wait if you can, unless it's too hard, then just let it go
By playing it cool and letting her the space she need without bothering her about it, you'll also show that you have maturity and patience, and it will certainly play in your favor if she reconsider getting in a relationship later (but keep in mind that nothing is granted when it comes to relationships)
dude it's over. you lose. you're a loser. Perhaps in time you can grow up, maybe even be a man someday.
. I think that while she may have understood my position, she still expects me to convert. Not
You need to ask her explicitly. If she expects you to convert, then you're not compatible. This is something that will be a deal breaker. Your family might serve her with an ultimatum if you don't, church or you. You're 19. No need to rush these things. There's someone out there who's compatible but won't ask you to join a religion.
You don’t have a girlfriend anymore
he makes the same as her same job and everything, maybe 600$ a week but that’s not the point. Who spends almost 300$ on a co worker when you in a relationship that’s not sitting right with me.
In some cultures it’s normal to live with parents/family until later in life. Sometimes people do it so they can save on rent and purchase a house outright.
However, there are situations where people enjoy the comfort and easiness of living at home and don’t want to/are scared of being on their own. In this case, I’d be concerned bc it shows a lack of ambition to do better/have more in life and usually is someone who doesn’t know how to take care of themselves. I don’t think you made a mistake, you probably dodged a bullet from a dude who would have made you his new mommy once he finally moved out in his 30s
Therapy
He can keep that part time. Next to a second job
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Stop pretending that everybody deals with the lowest point in their lives the same way.
Stop pretending that spouses do not absolutely have a responsibility and obligation to reach out. No it does NOT sound like she tried.
She rattled off a laundry list of things she does with her friends. Partying. Traveling. Concerts. With her friends. Not her spouse. Her friends.
She did not list a single solitary thing she does with her husband except pressure him to clean up.
It's absolutely understandable why she wants him to do that.
It's curious why she never once asks WHY he doesn't want to beyond his flimsy excuses which she seems to just casually accept without even trying to peer deeper beyond the surface.
Are you his girlfriend or his mother? Stop falling over someone who doesn't give a shit.
You are going to have to make a choice. Seems like you got off on the wrong foot and now do not like each other. However she is going to be in your life for a long while now, so it is worth trying to mend bridges. Maybe ask her to go for drinks together and bond. It is not fun to take the “high road”, but sometimes it is worth it. At least this way, no one can say you didn't try.
OP, seek grief counselling immediately
Honestly, you don't need a PI. The only thing left to do is to straight out sit the guy down and tell him you are uncomfortable with his secretiveness.
Sadly, from what the OP writes, he DARVOs during such discussions. She says he makes her feel guilty and deflects, and makes it about HIS hurt feelings – when someone DARVOs you like that it's not possible to have any type of worthwhile conversation about problems, nor is it possible to resolve those problems. Since he's just tell her she's a bad person for hurting his feelings.
If you’re going to be at a party full of mutual friends and alcohol do you honestly believe that this isn’t going to come up in conversation? Would you rather him randomly overhear someone mention something about your sexuality and ex GF? None of this matters, as you say, so why would you not just mention it to him? I mean you certainly aren’t obliged to, but it would be nicer if he discovered it from you and not someone else.
Did read your story and a bunch of the top comments, there's nothing to add there everything's been said.
Why not tell your GF that she's entitled to lose weight in a way that works best for her and you're free to lose weight in a way that works best for you.
Why don't you both make a “date” for a nice restaurant meal in 90 days to celebrate your own and each other's weight loss! No 'competition,' just supporting each other!