It sounds like he is struggling with the feeling of having found the right person but settled down too young.
Personally, I would recommend not bringing up the fact you read his journal, but I do recommend that you sit down for a chat with him. If you get comfortable together with a few drinks, chilling at weekend at home, after a while of casual talk you can move the subject to You & Him. And with so much stuff on his mind, you probably won't find it takes many prompts to start getting him to open up naturally. And when he does, don't hold stuff against him; instead, make him feel like you understand him by sharing that you have been picking up lately that things aren't quite right (which is true- if you hadn't, you wouldn't have looked at this journal in the first place) and start talking about what things you can do to make your relationship better. Communication is key- by working together, you can overcome almost anything in a relationship.
For example, although you can't do anything about him feeling insecure about his lack of sexual experience, you certainly can do stuff about things like living a more youthful and exciting life together, such as going out clubbing more often or saving up to travel the world. Your BF won't feel so cloistered and settled down in a bad way if he feels like he is having a very exciting, fun and youthful life with the person he's chosen.
I thought it could be assumed from what I said, but I guess I should have clarified that she’s been saying she wanted to go back for years. They didn’t just give her away, she was saying for a long time that after she was done helping to raise my youngest brother, she would go back, essentially to live out her last days at home. Now they finally had the chance to take her there, but after a month, she wanted to come back to the US because it wasn’t what she thought it would be.
As if asking people, “Who hurt you?” is any more mature. I just can't read your rant, but it doesn't take 2 brain cells to know that OP wants to shag her ex. She got called out, hence her deleting the post. I'm not sure what you're still defending here. However, if you're feeling so pious, use that energy and go volunteer somewhere. It will be appreciated.
Well then you should look into doing one of those research studies. They will pay big money to someone who never watches porn. The problem with the study is everyone they get into the program admits they are lying
Yet he’s still hanging out with her going to parties at her house WITHOUT YOU. She’s showing up to his house uninvited. CALL’S his sister like a stocker to see if he’s home. Those behaviors are not normal at all. If your boyfriend really wanted to get away from her he would of set boundaries by now.
Honest question why are you friends with this person? You say she hasn’t spoken to you since you got with your boyfriend………how the hell is your boyfriend friends with her? Please tell me you’re not that dense to not understand THIS IS NOT NORMAL BEHAVIOR?
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It sounds like he is struggling with the feeling of having found the right person but settled down too young.
Personally, I would recommend not bringing up the fact you read his journal, but I do recommend that you sit down for a chat with him. If you get comfortable together with a few drinks, chilling at weekend at home, after a while of casual talk you can move the subject to You & Him. And with so much stuff on his mind, you probably won't find it takes many prompts to start getting him to open up naturally. And when he does, don't hold stuff against him; instead, make him feel like you understand him by sharing that you have been picking up lately that things aren't quite right (which is true- if you hadn't, you wouldn't have looked at this journal in the first place) and start talking about what things you can do to make your relationship better. Communication is key- by working together, you can overcome almost anything in a relationship.
For example, although you can't do anything about him feeling insecure about his lack of sexual experience, you certainly can do stuff about things like living a more youthful and exciting life together, such as going out clubbing more often or saving up to travel the world. Your BF won't feel so cloistered and settled down in a bad way if he feels like he is having a very exciting, fun and youthful life with the person he's chosen.
Even when people have kids together?
I thought it could be assumed from what I said, but I guess I should have clarified that she’s been saying she wanted to go back for years. They didn’t just give her away, she was saying for a long time that after she was done helping to raise my youngest brother, she would go back, essentially to live out her last days at home. Now they finally had the chance to take her there, but after a month, she wanted to come back to the US because it wasn’t what she thought it would be.
As if asking people, “Who hurt you?” is any more mature. I just can't read your rant, but it doesn't take 2 brain cells to know that OP wants to shag her ex. She got called out, hence her deleting the post. I'm not sure what you're still defending here. However, if you're feeling so pious, use that energy and go volunteer somewhere. It will be appreciated.
Well then you should look into doing one of those research studies. They will pay big money to someone who never watches porn. The problem with the study is everyone they get into the program admits they are lying
The help avoid unpleasant smells don’t matter they?
Yet he’s still hanging out with her going to parties at her house WITHOUT YOU. She’s showing up to his house uninvited. CALL’S his sister like a stocker to see if he’s home. Those behaviors are not normal at all. If your boyfriend really wanted to get away from her he would of set boundaries by now.
Honest question why are you friends with this person? You say she hasn’t spoken to you since you got with your boyfriend………how the hell is your boyfriend friends with her? Please tell me you’re not that dense to not understand THIS IS NOT NORMAL BEHAVIOR?
He is immature. That’s really all it comes down to.
If he isn’t rational enough to know how to navigate this.. I wonder where else in life he is immature.