I’m not talking about boobs of random strangers. I have seen virtually every one of my women friends in states of partial or total undress from the time we were in elementary school getting into pajamas at a slumber party to going together as teens to the town pool and changing together to sharing fitting rooms to dancing around our respective bedrooms totally bare-asses to music while we got dressed for a night of clubbing in our 20s. All very innocent. Years later I’d still have no issue.
If a bf thinks something so common among platonic girlfriends is cheating then I’d suspect he has other unreasonable opinions. Remember also he is giving her the silent treatment over this which is SO manipulative. Strike two.
Because you enjoy the “little life” you’ve built together. It’s convenient, happy enough, and she must make your life easier in some ways. It’ll be annoying and painful to make a change.
You’re being extremely selfish in leading her on. She thinks you’re on the same page, when clearly you are not.
When you’re considering your life partner the most important thing is (because it sounds like you want kids): How will she be as a mother? Would you be happy to have a kid that’s a clone of her?
My spouse and I are the inverse. He did not want to stop trying for a bio kid (we're unable to adopt) and I really wanted to keep trying. We ended up in marital counseling where I was faced with the choice – my marriage or potentially having children. Not going to lie it's a hard choice. I'm glad I chose my husband. But your spouse also has the right to make a fully informed decision. Line up a marital counselor and explain that you cannot go any further towards having children. He needs to make the choice. Good luck.
The request for you made was kind of odd, and not really helpful in the long run. The thing to do is to decide to listen to her and then ask questions. Like, “How are you going to handle that?”, “How did that make you feel?”. And you can always say you love her but aren't really qualified to help, so she should find a therapist to help her work through things. And I'd also tell her I can't text all the time when I'm working.
If they ever have kids – how will Uncle Knobhead react then? Will he be pushing them in pools and making their lives a misery? You need to have a come to jesus moment with your wife, otherwise this will continue with all holiday/family events to come.
Walk away from this relationship. He straight up told you he doesn't see a future with you. He is wasting your time and you're nothing more than a place holder at this point. If he can't speak about a serious topic like marriage at his big age, run!!!
I’m not talking about boobs of random strangers. I have seen virtually every one of my women friends in states of partial or total undress from the time we were in elementary school getting into pajamas at a slumber party to going together as teens to the town pool and changing together to sharing fitting rooms to dancing around our respective bedrooms totally bare-asses to music while we got dressed for a night of clubbing in our 20s. All very innocent. Years later I’d still have no issue.
If a bf thinks something so common among platonic girlfriends is cheating then I’d suspect he has other unreasonable opinions. Remember also he is giving her the silent treatment over this which is SO manipulative. Strike two.
Because you enjoy the “little life” you’ve built together. It’s convenient, happy enough, and she must make your life easier in some ways. It’ll be annoying and painful to make a change.
You’re being extremely selfish in leading her on. She thinks you’re on the same page, when clearly you are not.
When you’re considering your life partner the most important thing is (because it sounds like you want kids): How will she be as a mother? Would you be happy to have a kid that’s a clone of her?
Just tell her. The longer you wait the dumber your going to look.
My spouse and I are the inverse. He did not want to stop trying for a bio kid (we're unable to adopt) and I really wanted to keep trying. We ended up in marital counseling where I was faced with the choice – my marriage or potentially having children. Not going to lie it's a hard choice. I'm glad I chose my husband. But your spouse also has the right to make a fully informed decision. Line up a marital counselor and explain that you cannot go any further towards having children. He needs to make the choice. Good luck.
What is there to “understand” about needing equal time to relax?
The request for you made was kind of odd, and not really helpful in the long run. The thing to do is to decide to listen to her and then ask questions. Like, “How are you going to handle that?”, “How did that make you feel?”. And you can always say you love her but aren't really qualified to help, so she should find a therapist to help her work through things. And I'd also tell her I can't text all the time when I'm working.
If they ever have kids – how will Uncle Knobhead react then? Will he be pushing them in pools and making their lives a misery? You need to have a come to jesus moment with your wife, otherwise this will continue with all holiday/family events to come.
Walk away from this relationship. He straight up told you he doesn't see a future with you. He is wasting your time and you're nothing more than a place holder at this point. If he can't speak about a serious topic like marriage at his big age, run!!!
Someone that can't accept responsibility for their own actions has poor character.