Haha this view is also mine but I don’t want it to get to this point where I do leave because I love him and am happy. I think thc will help us have little breaks. But like others said we need to stop spending so much time together.
people don't get kicked off benefits for just marriage
While I guess this is technically true, if the practical effect of marriage is getting kicked off benefits in at least 70% of cases, I feel like you're drawing a distinction without a difference.
It won't matter a jot to me whether you listen to what I'm saying, like most Reddit advice it's just bullshit karma, but somewhere out there is someone willing to give you most of their time, not just your usual appointment, willing to go out of their way(fractionally) to make you life easier.
When I met my now wife I drove 100 Kms a day to spend my evenings and mornings with her. You're not expecting too much, he isn't wanting to see you enough. I hope you're okay with the personal trainer taking up more time than you, it may be just the insight you need into his priorities.
It's so odd you're able to simultaneously complain about the relationship as well as make excuses for it, how do you square that? Either you're ok with it, or you aren't?
You need to reconcile the fact that you care for him with the fact that your relationship isn't working for you, and no attempts to change it have succeeded. You explain, he ignores, status quo, you explain, he ignores status quo..
It won't matter a jot to me whether you listen to what I'm saying, like most Reddit advice it's just bullshit karma, but somewhere out there is someone willing to give you most of their time, not just your usual appointment, willing to go out of their way(fractionally) to make you life easier.
When I met my now wife I drove 100 Kms a day to spend my evenings and mornings with her. You're not expecting too much, he isn't wanting to see you enough. I hope you're okay with the personal trainer taking up more time than you, it may be just the insight you need into his priorities.
It's so odd you're able to simultaneously complain about the relationship as well as make excuses for it, how do you square that? Either you're ok with it, or you aren't?
You need to reconcile the fact that you care for him with the fact that your relationship isn't working for you, and no attempts to change it have succeeded. You explain, he ignores, status quo, you explain, he ignores status quo..
Just ask her to not mention her exes in casual conversation as much. It clearly makes you uncomfortable. You don’t need to make this into a big deal though. She isn’t doing anything wrong, and neither would you if you asked her to not do it as much. You simply need to communicate.
Haha this view is also mine but I don’t want it to get to this point where I do leave because I love him and am happy. I think thc will help us have little breaks. But like others said we need to stop spending so much time together.
people don't get kicked off benefits for just marriage
While I guess this is technically true, if the practical effect of marriage is getting kicked off benefits in at least 70% of cases, I feel like you're drawing a distinction without a difference.
It won't matter a jot to me whether you listen to what I'm saying, like most Reddit advice it's just bullshit karma, but somewhere out there is someone willing to give you most of their time, not just your usual appointment, willing to go out of their way(fractionally) to make you life easier.
When I met my now wife I drove 100 Kms a day to spend my evenings and mornings with her. You're not expecting too much, he isn't wanting to see you enough. I hope you're okay with the personal trainer taking up more time than you, it may be just the insight you need into his priorities.
It's so odd you're able to simultaneously complain about the relationship as well as make excuses for it, how do you square that? Either you're ok with it, or you aren't?
You need to reconcile the fact that you care for him with the fact that your relationship isn't working for you, and no attempts to change it have succeeded. You explain, he ignores, status quo, you explain, he ignores status quo..
It won't matter a jot to me whether you listen to what I'm saying, like most Reddit advice it's just bullshit karma, but somewhere out there is someone willing to give you most of their time, not just your usual appointment, willing to go out of their way(fractionally) to make you life easier.
When I met my now wife I drove 100 Kms a day to spend my evenings and mornings with her. You're not expecting too much, he isn't wanting to see you enough. I hope you're okay with the personal trainer taking up more time than you, it may be just the insight you need into his priorities.
It's so odd you're able to simultaneously complain about the relationship as well as make excuses for it, how do you square that? Either you're ok with it, or you aren't?
You need to reconcile the fact that you care for him with the fact that your relationship isn't working for you, and no attempts to change it have succeeded. You explain, he ignores, status quo, you explain, he ignores status quo..
would you pay $15 for something you don't use or will only use 4-5 times?
More mature than him, sure. That tracks. But it also means as you age you will also surpass him.
It may be fine now, it won’t be fine forever.
Preach
Just ask her to not mention her exes in casual conversation as much. It clearly makes you uncomfortable. You don’t need to make this into a big deal though. She isn’t doing anything wrong, and neither would you if you asked her to not do it as much. You simply need to communicate.