You may be doing fine with the little things but your issues are with sexual preferences, money and the openness of the relationship (-> sugar daddy), which are absolute basics you need to agree on for a long-term relationship, right there with children and living arrangements. If these don’t match, you can be great friends but not partners.
It would be insanely selfish to blow up her life like that! She’s married. She is off limits. If you tell her, she loses her friend and won’t trust so easily with the next friend. It would be all about you and what you want from her. Don’t be that person.
If you cannot just be her platonic friend and not flirt or make ANY moves, then you need to walk away. She is not for you, and never will be.
The thing is…he was a great roommate to his mother. Part of the reason I complain about the cleaning here is because he kept things immaculate at his mother’s home, but when he moved in with me, he doesn’t have the same standard of cleaning. Personally I hate dishes in the sink, Something that he does more often than not with me, but something he never did at his mother’s house. As of literally one week ago, things have been very clean. And I didn’t wanna move in with him because I’ve never lived alone before and I come from a home with abuse so I feel like I finally had my own space and want ready to move in with a partner. My issue is that I’m frustrated with the memory of the past seven months and he’s asking to feel more welcome and I want to know what steps I can take to decrease my anger or frustration in order to make him feel more welcome, And steps that I can take to make him feel welcome.
I think she was lying about the breakup with the bf. Seems like she never had any plans of leaving him and was telling you things to string you along. Yes, you know you messed up bad with your choices and you can watch out so as not to do it again. You should probably tell the guy because she screwed up just as much as you did. If he is truly that bad you will be doing both of them a favor. If you do tell him though, make sure you are safe when you do it because there is no telling how someone will take that news.
For a birthday party you suck it up. But for future get together you ask your wife to keep her busy. Made see if they can go out for coffee or a shop while you and your mate hang out with the kids. I do the “drag the women away” for my husband when he wants to game with his mates and am happy to do so so long as it’s not alllllll the time.
Ik her when there’s something on her mind, she doesn’t tell me until the last minute when I don’t want to know shit honestly, I see her not as my girlfriend anymore. I see her as my future wife.
I'm sorry, he makes you pay 1/2 for going to visit *his* family? That is rediculous! And if he's going on the trip anyway, then yes it's nice to offer some gas money if you hitch a ride, but it should never be more then you can afford. It's different if it's a trip you two plan for the two of you special, but not something like this were he'll spend the money to go whether or not you are there.
Good for you OP ??
Good for you, now get a lawyer
The psychology behind his behaviour is that he's an asshole. There is no bigger picture. Why are you dating him exactly ?
You may be doing fine with the little things but your issues are with sexual preferences, money and the openness of the relationship (-> sugar daddy), which are absolute basics you need to agree on for a long-term relationship, right there with children and living arrangements. If these don’t match, you can be great friends but not partners.
You don’t tell her a damn thing.
It would be insanely selfish to blow up her life like that! She’s married. She is off limits. If you tell her, she loses her friend and won’t trust so easily with the next friend. It would be all about you and what you want from her. Don’t be that person.
If you cannot just be her platonic friend and not flirt or make ANY moves, then you need to walk away. She is not for you, and never will be.
Nope. Leave her. She's trying to get you to leave her by hurting you, so listen and just leave.
The thing is…he was a great roommate to his mother. Part of the reason I complain about the cleaning here is because he kept things immaculate at his mother’s home, but when he moved in with me, he doesn’t have the same standard of cleaning. Personally I hate dishes in the sink, Something that he does more often than not with me, but something he never did at his mother’s house. As of literally one week ago, things have been very clean. And I didn’t wanna move in with him because I’ve never lived alone before and I come from a home with abuse so I feel like I finally had my own space and want ready to move in with a partner. My issue is that I’m frustrated with the memory of the past seven months and he’s asking to feel more welcome and I want to know what steps I can take to decrease my anger or frustration in order to make him feel more welcome, And steps that I can take to make him feel welcome.
I think you should think about if this is someone you want to date. He doesn’t sound respectful to either his girlfriend or you.
I think she was lying about the breakup with the bf. Seems like she never had any plans of leaving him and was telling you things to string you along. Yes, you know you messed up bad with your choices and you can watch out so as not to do it again. You should probably tell the guy because she screwed up just as much as you did. If he is truly that bad you will be doing both of them a favor. If you do tell him though, make sure you are safe when you do it because there is no telling how someone will take that news.
There’s nothing to “kill.”
But I do wonder, if “killing” a fetus is so bad why did god make miscarriages and severe abnormalities a thing ?
My advice is to establish yourself in your career before you devote your life to parenthood.
For a birthday party you suck it up. But for future get together you ask your wife to keep her busy. Made see if they can go out for coffee or a shop while you and your mate hang out with the kids. I do the “drag the women away” for my husband when he wants to game with his mates and am happy to do so so long as it’s not alllllll the time.
Ik her when there’s something on her mind, she doesn’t tell me until the last minute when I don’t want to know shit honestly, I see her not as my girlfriend anymore. I see her as my future wife.
That's not true. You have your friends and your future
I'm sorry, he makes you pay 1/2 for going to visit *his* family? That is rediculous! And if he's going on the trip anyway, then yes it's nice to offer some gas money if you hitch a ride, but it should never be more then you can afford. It's different if it's a trip you two plan for the two of you special, but not something like this were he'll spend the money to go whether or not you are there.