What do you think happens when you take in a hoarder? (Hint: they suddenly have a lot of free space to hoard things)
Unless you guys all want this racist and mentally ill nightmare to come your way, hold firm. The best solution would be to stop sending her money at all, she does not deserve it. Instead, get her hooked up with medical care so she can have experts who can work on treating the issues at hand.
Let your mom know that the money and emotional enabling make the problem worse, not better. Any support should be in the form of and conditional to seeking help and putting in effort to change.
It’s not a conference or anything like that, it’s neither here nor there on whether people will respect me because there are nobody’s opinions to worry about in this case and on this trip. We, her and I, made the decision to do it in order to save money on travel.
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Make plans for something you enjoy and see if she’s willing to join you. If not, reiterate your feelings and let her know you aren’t feeling appreciated.
5 years and own a house? Jesus shit or get off the pot already. Have an adult conversation with her about the pressure. But also, what on earth on you waiting for?
There is a huge amount of Danish DNA in the British people as a whole. From the Migration Period to the Viking Age, Danes have been a huge part of English history and culture. He probably has Danish DNA himself. He needs to get over it.
I feel that way whenever the story is too in-depth. It's like how liars IRL will over-explain everything, well 'creative writing' posts are along the same lines; the story development is more important than the facts, and they're often full of entirely unnecessary backstory or build-up.
You broke up with him because he didn’t value you. The day after he went to a strip club and blew $600 (probably for a “private dance”), thus proving you right. I know it sucks, but why would this make you second guess yourself?
Surely you had messaged and made plans with your family on your birthday right? Surprise parties don’t normally involve ambushing someone in their home without knowing your schedule or having someone close to you in on it.
It's a difficult one – my feeling now is to get it out the way earlier to avoid incompatibility issues later. However I did tell her my kinks, including that her wearing them would turn me on. It only became an issue when it registered that I'd actually worn them myself.
OP, after reading your post history, I truly pity you. You let this child (aka your “boyfriend”) take complete control of YOUR life. Out of all the posts you have posted, you have not said a singular positive thing about him. So let me ask you this: what does this kid even bring to the table? He's cheated on you, constantly nagging and accusing you, barring you from enjoying time with friends and co workers. What are you getting out of this relationship? Is the dick that good? Is having someone to watch TV with occasionally worth all of this hassle?
I get that you're young, but I wish you understood the amount of time, money, and mental resources that you are wasting on this idiot that you will never ever get back. I wish someone around you would shake some sense into you. You do not have to be stuck with this idiot. 2 years out of your life should have been long enough for you to realize this is NOT healthy, this is NOT normal, and this is NOT acceptable.
Please don't waste another 2 years of your time with this idiot and start prioritizing yourself. It's so clear he has worn you down so much in this short amount of time that you made yourself a second thought to your own wants and needs (“I want to go to this event, but fuck my happiness, it's better to accommodate this shit bag's “happiness” instead.”) Do you really think he would even entertain the thought of listening to you and staying home if the situation was flipped? Get a grip.
As someone much wiser than myself once said: “If you can't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?”
Girl please know I completely understand how you feel – however, we have to be honest with ourselves that this is no rational way of thinking. When we love a man hard then it is easy to become fearful and insecure of all the things that could take his attention. But as someone said in another comment, these insecure thoughts will only drive him away. It is scary but you have to fully trust him and if he is worthy, that trust will make for a really loving relationship. If he isn’t worthy, then he wasn’t meant for you to begin with. And honestly, it really does sound like he’s just filling you in on workplace gossip, which I think is very sweet that he wants to share that with you.
Your first time dating didn’t work out (why?) and then you tries again a year later and have only been dating a few months and you think he should know if he wants to marry you already?
As a girl I can tell you that no, it's not normal for us to cuddle our friends. Especially not if some are bisexual/gay and might take it as a sign of sexual interest.
Talk to your gf. Or break up. She wouldn't be doing this if she wasn't at least a little bi-curious and a little attracted.
You and no one else determines who gas access to your body and ob what way. Your husband is not entitled to hand you out like a toy. You're a person. You get to consent to sex with the people you want to have sex with. No one else.
Who cares about his burst bubble? This is something that could seriously harm you and he cares more about his fetish.
Don't try to change huge, life-defining and fundamental aspects of yourself to appease someone….
You’re like actually the most clueless narcissistic person, congrats on the ‘biggest piece of shit’ award.
What do you think happens when you take in a hoarder? (Hint: they suddenly have a lot of free space to hoard things)
Unless you guys all want this racist and mentally ill nightmare to come your way, hold firm. The best solution would be to stop sending her money at all, she does not deserve it. Instead, get her hooked up with medical care so she can have experts who can work on treating the issues at hand.
Let your mom know that the money and emotional enabling make the problem worse, not better. Any support should be in the form of and conditional to seeking help and putting in effort to change.
I agree. I guess I just have to give her space and if it works out in the end it’ll find it’s way
all of that is a relationship ender for me, tell her to change her ways before you dump her
It’s not a conference or anything like that, it’s neither here nor there on whether people will respect me because there are nobody’s opinions to worry about in this case and on this trip. We, her and I, made the decision to do it in order to save money on travel.
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Make plans for something you enjoy and see if she’s willing to join you. If not, reiterate your feelings and let her know you aren’t feeling appreciated.
She will end the night in his bed. Its a tale as old as time
5 years and own a house? Jesus shit or get off the pot already. Have an adult conversation with her about the pressure. But also, what on earth on you waiting for?
There is a huge amount of Danish DNA in the British people as a whole. From the Migration Period to the Viking Age, Danes have been a huge part of English history and culture. He probably has Danish DNA himself. He needs to get over it.
I feel that way whenever the story is too in-depth. It's like how liars IRL will over-explain everything, well 'creative writing' posts are along the same lines; the story development is more important than the facts, and they're often full of entirely unnecessary backstory or build-up.
You broke up with him because he didn’t value you. The day after he went to a strip club and blew $600 (probably for a “private dance”), thus proving you right. I know it sucks, but why would this make you second guess yourself?
Surely you had messaged and made plans with your family on your birthday right? Surprise parties don’t normally involve ambushing someone in their home without knowing your schedule or having someone close to you in on it.
It's a difficult one – my feeling now is to get it out the way earlier to avoid incompatibility issues later. However I did tell her my kinks, including that her wearing them would turn me on. It only became an issue when it registered that I'd actually worn them myself.
Leave.
OP, after reading your post history, I truly pity you. You let this child (aka your “boyfriend”) take complete control of YOUR life. Out of all the posts you have posted, you have not said a singular positive thing about him. So let me ask you this: what does this kid even bring to the table? He's cheated on you, constantly nagging and accusing you, barring you from enjoying time with friends and co workers. What are you getting out of this relationship? Is the dick that good? Is having someone to watch TV with occasionally worth all of this hassle?
I get that you're young, but I wish you understood the amount of time, money, and mental resources that you are wasting on this idiot that you will never ever get back. I wish someone around you would shake some sense into you. You do not have to be stuck with this idiot. 2 years out of your life should have been long enough for you to realize this is NOT healthy, this is NOT normal, and this is NOT acceptable.
Please don't waste another 2 years of your time with this idiot and start prioritizing yourself. It's so clear he has worn you down so much in this short amount of time that you made yourself a second thought to your own wants and needs (“I want to go to this event, but fuck my happiness, it's better to accommodate this shit bag's “happiness” instead.”) Do you really think he would even entertain the thought of listening to you and staying home if the situation was flipped? Get a grip.
As someone much wiser than myself once said: “If you can't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?”
Couldn’t do it again!
Girl please know I completely understand how you feel – however, we have to be honest with ourselves that this is no rational way of thinking. When we love a man hard then it is easy to become fearful and insecure of all the things that could take his attention. But as someone said in another comment, these insecure thoughts will only drive him away. It is scary but you have to fully trust him and if he is worthy, that trust will make for a really loving relationship. If he isn’t worthy, then he wasn’t meant for you to begin with. And honestly, it really does sound like he’s just filling you in on workplace gossip, which I think is very sweet that he wants to share that with you.
You guys might be a match made in heaven. You might not love each other, but you have a symbiotic relationship.
Your first time dating didn’t work out (why?) and then you tries again a year later and have only been dating a few months and you think he should know if he wants to marry you already?
She wanted you to fight him?
Fuck , fuck that noise
As a girl I can tell you that no, it's not normal for us to cuddle our friends. Especially not if some are bisexual/gay and might take it as a sign of sexual interest.
Talk to your gf. Or break up. She wouldn't be doing this if she wasn't at least a little bi-curious and a little attracted.
You and no one else determines who gas access to your body and ob what way. Your husband is not entitled to hand you out like a toy. You're a person. You get to consent to sex with the people you want to have sex with. No one else.
Who cares about his burst bubble? This is something that could seriously harm you and he cares more about his fetish.
Just use fake names next time
Let her go. She took her lifetime troll with her. She doesn’t realize she’s on single path as long as she listens to troll forever. Her loss.