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Well …. put it this way…. your girlfriend has managed 23 years with her conditions and look how far she's come? She's happy. She has you and has a future ahead of her.
With your mindset, no one with illness or disabilities would have babies and that's silly. You need to rewire yourself. Having kids means unconditional love, no matter how they turn out. You wouldn't love them any less even if they did get your partners genes, in fact, you should love them more because they are the spitting image of your gorgeous girlfriend ?
Updates like this, that show discussion and the move toward a proper resolution, are why I joined this sub. You seem to have come to terms with your fate, whatever it may be, and for that I'm glad for you. It takes a lot of courage to look death in the eye and go “I know you're coming and I accept it”.
I hope you get to record at least 18 birthdays worth of videos for multiple kids, so they get to grow up knowing your face and voice.
Not to show my geek side or anything, but it's as Harry said in the Sorcerer's (Philosopher's for non Americans) Stone. “He'll never be gone. Not so long as those who remain are loyal to him.” True immortally is living on in the minds of those left behind.
I don't know if you celebrate Christmas, but this is my Christmas wish. For you to find satisfaction in your life before your death. So you don't feel any regret in your final moments.
“I never tried to stop him from doing those things”
I would bet that you did. Even if you didn't mean to. And this isn't me having a go at you defending him because he sounds like an ass hat.
A roll of the eyes is enough to make a lad feel anxious about going meeting some of his mates at a bar or wherever knowing you didn't want him to go. It starts with this. Eventually that roll of the eyes or a sigh etc will start to annoy the person. Annoyance can snowball to resentment very fast over the course of a year or two. Maybe it's for the best that it happened for your sake.
NTA just tell them you are having a smaller party this year too
One of you should temporarily move out somewhere to get some space so you can think clearly, that’s step one.
Step two is to maybe talk to a councillor or someone you know you can trust. You don’t have to “out” your wife, just say that you know for a fact she wants to be with other people and is forcing herself to be with you. You need some kind of support in this if you can get it. If you don’t want to or can’t do this that’s fine too.
After taking the time you need to clear your head and just think about whether you want this to continue or not, you gotta talk to your wife again. Get some straight answers out of her, how long did she know? Before you were married? Has she cheated on you? With who? What does she want to do now?
If she cheated you’re gonna want to try and ask her for proof that you can keep for posterity (in case of divorce, but you don’t have to tell her that). After that’s done, take some more time and finally make your decision.
It’ll be a painful process dude, but you can make it through this.
Don’t beat yourself up, you are still young. The reality is that relationships are boring, maybe you weren’t ready for a LTR just yet.
Get into therapy and explore yourself and where you want your life to go.
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You're more invested in the relationship than he is. It wasnt just that he didn’t feel like 'going out', he didn't want to see you.
and probably even believes it was a mutual breakup
You just said you know things are over, I'm sorry but that's a mutual breakup. If both of you are of the understanding that you are no longer together, it's over. I'm sorry.
That being said, breakups are very hard and you'll have to take it one day at a time, it'll take a while to find joy in things again, but when you feel even remotely ready to, start doing things again, hang out with friends, see family, get back into a hobby, etc.
Also, stop keeping tabs on her. This is essential for moving on.
And don't worry if you do a bad job at all of the above, it's important that you're trying, you'll get there eventually.
While I completely agree with you that what he did is absolutely disgusting and is illegal in many places (and where it isn't, it should be, for both genders), a lie by omission is still a lie and in this case she still lied (regardless of how valid her reason).
I also think your reliance on the medical information disclosure kind of beside the point as it's generally accepted that people who are romantically entangled will share those sorts of things eventually (this is part of the “getting to know you” thing). On top of that it is pertinent as these 2 phrases are subtly different.
1: I don't want kids – This implies that at some point the mind could change. 2: I can't have kids – This doesn't disclose medical issues as you implied (although why be with someone if you don't share important things about yourself) but illustrates that the decision will not be changed as she is physically incapable.
I'm not comparing the 2 situations because obviously what she did was minor in comparison to what he did (as someone who was babytrapped as a teenager, I have a dim view of people who do that) but to claim that she didn't lie is absurd.
Time to block and move on. If D can't understand that you don't want a relationship right now and is sexualizing you, then he's a creep. Plain and simple. He doesn't want to be a friend, he just wants sex and control. Tell him that things aren't working out and with him well.
Maybe they had an upside down pineapple this whole time and you didn’t notice?
This is not something that I could move on from. The fact that she specifically ‘dated’ married men indicates a callous and selfish streak where her material gain trumps the possibility of breaking up a family. I have no doubt that she would take a dim view if you were caught with a sugar date! There’s also the fact that intimacy was reduced to a purely transactional level.
I’ve spent my whole life in Ohio and can’t wait to move away! In your situation, you are offering many options and compromises and she is refusing to budge at all. That does not bode well for your future with her. Also if she did agree. You would then be forced into the caretaker role that her parents currently have since she is unable to be independent. Ask yourself if that’s how you want to spend the rest of your life.
To use your analogy, this is a twenty-year cough so clearly it's not a case of the common cold and he needs a real doctor and his wife lacks the training required.
She has been trying for twenty years and he has been cold and distant and hiding things from her the entire time. He is “desperate to leave her”, only hindered by children and the cost of a divorce. He needs professional help and she needs to get her life back.
I guess I could be wasting my time watching real housewives instead of making cookies for my mom and browsing reddit, but let's be real honest. We both know which of those is sadder.
I never said no one else could have an opinion. I'm telling everyone else they are wrong. I believe you came in here basically telling me to shut up because you don't like seeing my responses, so I say hypocrite heal thyself.
It’s their wedding they can invite who they like and I would not question this.
If you’re not close enough to call or text and they’ve never met your partner I wouldn’t be expecting a plus one.
Doesn't sound like this is the right relationship for you.
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Ngl he may dump you based on the “we were both drunk and went back to his room” like no context can really make that go down easy. You should tell him though.
OP is intent on being a beard. Lord Jesus. Why the hell have a second wedding when you shldnt have had the first. And why why why would a married couple have a dude move into their house!???
Noooo ur husband is gay af and ur his cover my girl.
Mental issues are unfortunate, but HIS don't have to be your cross to bear.
I had a much more healthy relationship than yours sounds, my wife being very good at many things. But she has trauma and exhibits all signs of BPD so I lived with the weight of her insecurities and fears being manifested as if they were real and thrust on me for almost a decade. It nearly broke me completely.
I wanted to help her because she's a good person. I wanted to stay in the relationship due to love and really she did help my life in other aspects.
But the weight of me trying to carry her emotional burden still destroyed me. The only thing I needed at the end of the day was someone who could come to me with their problems as if I was someone they loved, but the love disappeared at every new problem.
Long story: you have to be good for yourself first or you'll just be bad for him AND you. This relationship sounds completely awful with no redeeming qualities besides not being alone.
Exactly. As far as I'm concerned both 15 and 19 are still basically kids. A little bit much for a gap, but not as outrageous as people want to make it to be and definitely not “creepy.” They may have been in different places in life (her hs, him college) but I remember 19 year old me and I was just as much a kid then as I was at 15. The maturing really started happening in early 20s.
You should reconsider if you’re thinking about ever carrying a pregnancy. I really don’t think you’d be able to function afterwards if this how a tonsillectomy leaves you.
Any chance this payments be from a work termination? (Not American don’t know how it works over there)
I'm sorry this happened to you. But be so happy you found this out before you went through the marriage. You'll eventually meet someone who values you and isn't a piece of sh-t. I really can't believe she's even trying to pull “it isn't what it looks like…”
I know but now I’m super nervous he’s driving to a coffee shop in my town and of course I don’t mind paying for it I asked him out after all but he’s kinda quiet around me so I just want to ask him question after question to get him talking and end up sounding like I’m interviewing him and having to pull teeth or get awkward silences lol
literally
I feel like he told you by accident what he really thinks of your relationship. He could’ve said “Yeah, given more time in our relationship and see how we connect.” Or even just a simple “Yeah, I see marriage in my future.” The fact he flat out said what he did tells me he is using you as a placeholder until “the right woman” comes along and that’s just disrespectful. You deserve better.
I haven't had a relationship but I wouldn't be able to hook up with other girls if I was in one and it's too serious for me to just jump into that.
My best advice is, individually ascertain each separate income monthly including any interest or dividends. The do the same with costs per month, individually. Average out income disparity over the course of a six month period unless the variation for partner is longer than that….if they receive less more than six months a year, average lower…..then make your list of JOINT expenses, the ones you are going to split in the middle forever and ever…….THEN make a list of the expenses that have a different split, 60/40, etc., whatever you decide. Then, do the math for each. If you keep your monies separate you only need to decide the governing percentages owing INDIVIDUALLY. I think your problem is overstepping keeping your monies separate. Renegotiate that if you feel you need to pay more, but do not upset the balance (and their spoken desire NOT to have you pay more) by simply doing it. This comes down to a money behavior = respect for the agreed upon process. In marriage, the renegotiation goes on forever, as it is the basis of your manifest respect for one another re money.
MONEY is the root of all evil is laughable, until you realize how difficult it can be in marriage.
So um…does she get to pick your doctor and dentist too? Therapists are professionals. Your GF has a serious problem with her insecurity. She’s so insecure that she’d rather derail your mental health progress to make herself feel better.
Don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm. If this therapist is helping then stick with her.
Honestly, I’d be anxious if I were getting grilled after every therapy appt and being told who I could work with.
Your GF is the problem here. Stick to your guns on this.
Apologies for all of the typos also, on mobile.
Aren't you kind of highlighting how exaggerated the discover page is? This dude could have liked one thong pic and gotten a discover page full of thong pics afterwards.
Yea. As someone who’s mother just down right should’ve never been a mom…that would’ve been a dealbreaker & I would’ve ended my relationship. Especially if I’m trying everything in my power to never be like her & they tell me I’m JUST like her? It’d break me & I’d rethink my whole relationship
Literally everyone I know this age is wondering if they want kids, this is a conversation to have. The way you reacted was quite extreme, you could have been calmly curious but now there’s this whole issue. That’s the first thing to resolve, THEN once reconciled and she feels she can safely talk to you again you can move on to discussions around kids. Also, if her mother was terrible it’s no wonder she’d be (more) scared about having kids
I mean you said it yourself there was issues with communication that he kept bringing up that you’d say you’d fix, but then you wouldn’t (or would for a brief period of time) that shows either 0 effort on your part or (and arguably worse) you had been lying and in a way gaslighting him into having hope that you’d change. IMO it’s completely reasonable that that he’s done having expectations and putting forth effort. You want to make him know you care? Show him, don’t just tell him you’ll change but actually do so, call him, lead conversations, move back to Canada (or move to Canada idk where either of you moved from and to). Stop telling yourself you’ve changed, and let HIM tell you you’ve changed.
when I asked why he didn't tell me he said he was worried that I would stop seeing him. Now im honestly not sure what to do
Is such a foundational lie a deal breaker or not? (You know the answer)
Don’t put stress on the actual sex, and just enjoy being together. Find what y’all like together and don’t worry about the outcome. Laugh and just go with the flow – plans and ideas about how it should go will make it awkward.
this is MASSIVELY concerning and i cannot stress this enough— he RAPED you. and is now taking pictures of you during sex that you didn’t consent to. have him delete the photos and then get rid of the recently deleted to be sure and then get him out of your life because he doesn’t care about you in any sense.
Imma be real with you, that’s on them you choose who to marry, you choose to stay, you choose who to fuck, and you choose how to protect yourself, get on the pill and take it yourself don’t let anyone mess with your stuff and make him wear a condom if you get pregnant cause you weren’t cautious that’s on you