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Facts are facts. What a shame that after four years of formal education you still lack the critical thinking capacity to differentiate between actual facts and outdated opinions based on arbitrary and misogynistic ideals.
Alternatively, if you're willing to accept that your age is not an integer, 22 years and 353 days is about 22.97 years:
22.97/2 + 7 = 18.48
or about 18 years and 176 days (just a bit less than 18 years and 6 months).
you boy friend isn't alpha, he is aggressive and abusive with possibly anger issues.
Toxicity is variable.
Some flowers, like lilies, are toxic if the cat so much as inhales the flower’s pollen. That’s why they’re so notorious as being unfriendly for pets.
Ivy is also toxic. In order to be poisoned by ivy, a cat has to chew and swallow a decent amount of the plant. For this reason, ivy is reasonably safe to have around some cats. My cat, for example, ignores plants. She can coexist with ivy without a problem. My mother’s cat chews everything and would not be safe around ivy.
Then there are plants like African violets. They’re straight-up non-toxic.
Yeah, he said he wanted to tell me but since it happened our relationship has been going extremely well and he didn’t want to ruin what we had going by telling me. The girl found out through a mutual friend of theirs and found me and messaged me.
I’m so sorry your going through this, he sounds like a very selfish and thoughtless partner
Yeah you are dating a staunch anti-semite as a Jew that will give all the problems in the world. He is already calling your heritage “being brainwashed”, you need to run.
So. I’m an alcoholic. I’ve been with my bf for 9 years. He wants me to be sober before he will propose. It makes sense. I get it. It still hurts cause it’s like. Bro. 9 years. You still want to be with me despite the alcohol, but won’t propose? Obvi, I have problems I need to resolve. It’s really fucking hard to be sober. Im in therapy. Im trying to overcome this.
This is a great example on why marrying young may not be the move
Not at all
Where the prejudice or Hatred?
This is the correct response.
Take that behaviour off the table completely.
It’s your money, you decide how much you want to spend for gifts and to whom you want to give them.
Does your niece know she still has a father? Does your brother and mother think the repercussions of having your brother and his family in Christmas to your niece? What would she feel if she sees his father being sweet and loving to his son and yet had abandoned her?
Why are you together?
Context is everything!
In my own case, I'm “sapioromantic”. I love a woman for her mind. That's it. When I was single, I dated some tall, beautiful models, who in theory are “high value” women, but it never clicked. If I were a close friend of someone like that today, it would never mean anything we are further than friends, regardless of if she is heterosexual or homosexual or whatever.
Similarly, my wife has male friends, but I literally don't worry about that, because I know she's not wired that way. If she had dinner or whatever w/ a male friend from back in school, cool, have fun. Take care.
Obviously, some people have too much sex on the brain, triggering too easily from too many people. In the case of your girlfriend, it's really a question of whether you really know that aspect about her or not. In this case, she already made it clear she finds him attractive, so you are absolutely right to have some concerns (!!!). That means if both were drunk, something that “could never happen” definitely could happen, she just hasn't ever had a chance. Similarly, while her friend is gay, if he were drunk enough, anything could happen, he already kissed her. The fact that they've kissed before seals the deal. While that doesn't change the fact that he's gay, it proves that he is at least “bi-curious” with her in some scenarios.
My suggestions:
You make it clear to her that her being with a guy she is attracted to, who she's already kissed before, is way too close to cheating (he's basically an “ex” who isn't really “ex”, he's current).
If she objects, to drive home the point, you could suggest something absurd like “OK, when you stay at his place, I will have a hot lesbian call-girl stay the night with me in the bed. It will be purely platonic, no funny business. It's exactly the same thing, right?” OR
You choose a partner who isn't looking for options (nor trying to get back with “the one who got away”).
I've been with my wife for a very long time. Neither of us was every looking for options, nor treating our spouse as a backup plan while we look for an upgrade. Neither ever looked for excuses to hang with somebody we kissed in the past. I suspect you are her “safe option”. She's already admitted indirectly that sexually she's not 100% into you! “But he's gay!” No, that doesn't work. She already kissed, him, it may have been more, and she definitely wants more.
I love him. The good has always outweighed any bad. I have always ignored faults and choose to focus on the good. I dont believe I have dragged this out so much as believe we learn through our mistakes and can become better for each other.
He is gaslighting you. He makes you feel bad when he is the one who messed up. You need to run for the hills. Not because he had a STI but he lied about it (by omission) and emotionally abuses you.
He's 32 so his sperm is about to decrease in quality in like three years, so dump him and say that's his sperm quality was not ideal
I agree that I kinda rushed my current relationship, maybe I was angry or alone I don’t know. I did however take a long time to get to know my ex as did she. Thank you for your advice, I hope you have a wonderful day.
I agree that I kinda rushed my current relationship, maybe I was angry or alone I don’t know. I did however take a long time to get to know my ex as did she. Thank you for your advice, I hope you have a wonderful day.
At least you now know why his relationship with his ex didn't work out. He is immature and basically a jerk.
I wouldn't bother with the ex, I'm sure she knows he is trash, which is why she dumped him. You two weren't even official, so no need to keep anything alive by bringing it to her attention and keeping the feelings there of betrayal.
That isn't an insult honestly. I'm single and happy to be single.
Very! I’ve ho’ed about and seen it fairly often. Other gal friends have too, and a number of guys I’ve talked to have said they’ve suffered it. Nothing wrong with you or them. If anything, it means you’re extra fine and that’s why they’re so nervous.
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I was using voice to text, but 'stay at home dad' was like me describing myself as a 'super model' – not at all accurate. My ex called himself the 'sahd' but didn't actually parent or cook or clean or anything. If OPs partner is too lazy to contribute now then a child will be an excuse for him to stay home and do nothing, while OP continues to carry the load of both parenting and finances.
Being at home with children is absolutely a valid choice, but not sharing the load of a relationship is not ok.
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For one don't be passive aggressive about it, your “hints” are doing what you want them to.
Every day, either Ryan or I have prepared every breakfast, lunch and dinner for the three of us.
Why are you doing this every day? Wouldn't sharing dinner be easiest and the rest of the time it would be fend for yourselves?
It would seem that way to me. I wouldn't cook/ make a guest 3x meals a day. But would make it known that they can pull anything from the kitchen as long as they cleaned up after themselves.
You can get your own account on YouTube…good riddance…the trash took it self out…you don't need him in your life. You can get a roommate so don't worry about the rent
His way or the highway you say? Highway please!
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You don’t hit. It’s pretty simple. Do not make excuses for him. ?♀️
I don't know, it seams like neither of them have express any boundaries or imply that they were in any way exclusive.
They don't even live in the save city, have seen each other once, and didn't have any sexual contact, I too would have assumed that we weren't in any way exclusive. And that's discounting that depending on her drunk state that night could have been considered assault.
No, it was a midlife crisis… at 27. ??
More different to form ltr?
Lol, I just want to be able to gossip with him about the shows.
OP, I've been in your situation, only on a smaller scale, in my early 20s.
It was rent debt and bills that he hid from me and pretended to pay after he lost his job and hid that too for long. It ended up being a few thousand euros and I only found out when my salary was about to be garnished. Luckily we didn't have kids.
I worked minimum wage back then and contacted everyone and paid what I could from my meager savings and found a way to get a loan to pay back what we owed.
It was one of the scariest times of my life.
I handled it.
But it didn't get better. Months later there was another stack of bills he had hidden, so I handled that too. And at some point we moved out and I paid for the majority of the new furniture that we needed. And than he crashed his car in a DUI and lost his licence. There was always something.
There was zero trust. He couldn't handle money. Whenever he got money, it was gone in an instant or spent on expensive gadets he didn't use (enough).
I paid back the loan mostly on my own, years after we broke up. I was barely able to save in my 20s because of it.
If I knew back then, what I knew now, I wish I would have left sooner. I felt so trapped, like I didn't have a choice. I simply went into survival mode.
Please leave. For your sake and for your kids sake, before this man ruins your lifes. From someone who's been through this and someone who had to struggle to get out of his mess after we broke up.
It get's better. It's sooo worth it. I grant you permission to leave the sinking ship and save yourself and your kids.
I am also wondering if OP doesn't cave in, if he would go to the next woman with the same BS.
tbh, I would've thought ur parents would be ecstatic to find our your sister's gf is a biological male. Ik she identifies as a woman but I feel like to the older generation they probably just see it as a man dressing up as a woman.
If she can’t spend two hours alone without impulsively shopping, she might have some mental health issues to be addressed. He constant need for attention from you and inability to develop other relationships is also indicative of this. You have a few options but based on what you’ve said it sounds like you don’t actually want to be with her. You’re just worried not being with her will result in some negative consequence. However, I think that being a friend of “ruining her” by leaving is a terrible reason for you to stay in the relationship (for her sake and yours).
I advise saying you’re moving out and hold fast to that. End the relationship at the same time or see if things improve with space then go from there. But if you think it’s not going to work out, ending things is best. Don’t maintain contact after so she knows it’s over and can move on
Some people also don’t have the same social energy as others. OP has a lot of energy for friends whereas her bf doesn’t. I think the fact that he made an effort to show up with you and mingled before leaving is showing that he cares. And OP, you don’t have to go home with him. You can ask him to pick you up or a friend to drive you home or Uber afterwards. You guys don’t need to be attached at the hips
Or option C: Don’t tell her this since it’s cruel and just break up with her anyway. Clearly you want someone sexually comparable, and that’s fine, but there are far less cruel ways to do it than “I don’t find you sexually attractive.”
Roll with it just not being what you want anymore; things have changed. At the end of the day, her hearing your truth will do nothing but harm her self esteem, and if you actually do care about her, avoid doing that.
You're already having an emotional affair with this girl. Where you should be investing time into your relationship, you are spending 10hrs a day with another girl? How does your GF feel about this? Does this girl know you have a GF?
Don't be that guy. Please. Break up with your girl and give her the respect that a 5 year relationship gives and let her go get someone that wont treat her like a second option. Don't be the guy that cheats on his girlfriend. Just don't.
You say in this post that you admire not just his weight loss; but also how tenacious he was in terms of how hard he worked to get that weight off. That doesn’t sound shallow to me! Also I promise you that the guy would definitely not consider it shallow of you asked him out or were more forward about how you feel about him. I say go for it
You’re a great gf for being there for him during this. But for him to bring all that negative energy onto you making you insecure is not right. He needs to talk to other people about it like family, friends, therapist.
If you are doing the best you can, then that’s all anyone can ask for.
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Yesterday morning I (19f) woke up to semen all over my face and pillow. I didn't know what to do but i just went to the shower and cried for 2 hours then washed all my sheets and pillows. Im not sure if that was a mistake or not since if i didn't wash them i might have proof rn but in the moment i just wanted to be clean.
Around the end of the day I broke down and confided in my mom. She helped me calm down and was patient about it but suggested I probably just dreamed it or mistook what it was. I tried telling her that i didn't dream it and that it was definitely what i thought it was. But she just told me to go rest and try and forget about it all.
I feel like im going crazy and im on edge around all the men in the house now. Im not sure who it could be and that is making me feel unsafe around all the men. Right now the men in the house are, dad (50m), my brothers (22m, 24m, 27m) and my sisters boyfriend but i know its not him as he is ftm. Im scared in my own home and my mom wont belive me but I have nowhere else to go. All my friends have move or are on vacation and any other family live out of state. Is there a way to convince my mom im telling the truth.
Edit: My sister is home from work now. The situation is worse than I though. I talked with my sister, she is with me now and will stay with me in my room till we can both get out of the house tonight, we will go stay with her bf for the time being. She told me something nearly identical happened to her about a month ago and she told our mom and she told her the same thing to her that she did me. I dont trust our mom anymore, i feel violated and angry. My sister didnt even come to me because mom gaslit her just like she did me. I want to just scream at her. I wont be replying for a while, sorry. me and my sister are packing and want to just comfort each other and get out of the house asap. Thank you everyone for the advice.
You could have easily reduced it to 2 nights and added her to the group. You‘re making excuses for excluding her from the family. You created this dynamic.
Feeling pressured not to share your opinion and caving is still a lack of self. And if it's caused by your bf partially, well, you know he is doing it to keep you down. He doesn't want you to be honest with your therapist. He doesn't want you to feel like your feelings are important, because of you treasured your feelings you'd be gone for everything he put you through. He doesn't even want you to be honest with the internet. And eventually, he doesn't want you to be honest with yourself, so you will do the work of convincing yourself that it wasn't that bad or that you misunderstood him or he has good intentions for him. Abuse is about creating a cycle that traps the victim, and gets the victim to reinforce their own entrapment.
Please be honest with your therapist. If you would find it overwhelming to witness an emotional response, or feel like backing off if they say something like oh that's horrible which might trigger you to back off, then either write it all down before a session, or simply tell them you are concerned about that and ask them to stay poker faced until you are done.
I sincerely hope you find better people to surround yourself with. To be alone is far better than only having a parasite for company. You are worth a lot more than how you feel right now.
Sorry friend. Women don't speak that way unless they are.checked out. I think it is over right now. Put her out and if she really loves you she will do the extra.effort to keep you. Probably not though
You’re shocked that, after saying “my body my choice,” your fiancé ALSO had a choice?
No one is this dense. Please be fake.
I’m thinking of some presents I got that made me feel better when my emotions were keeping me from being who I wanted to be or accomplishing what I wanted to accomplish:
One friend gave me a little matchbox bulldozer when I said I felt like I couldn’t get past walls blocking my goals. It made me laugh, and feeling anything was a blessing.
One friend gave me a balsa wood model of a printing press when I had writers block (it actually helped).
One friend hired an organizational expert to spend three hours at my place to help me think about what was keeping me from feeling like my home was anything but a disaster. I was resentful when the expert first showed up, but by the time they left, I felt energized and helpful.
Once when I was being a determined hermit, one friend dropped off several containers of wholesome, hearty spaghetti sauce and several boxes of pasta. I felt really loved and supported without feeling suffocated.
I once came home to a bathroom filled with tea lights and the minute I walked in the door, the hot bath water started flowing into the oils and such that were prepared. I felt very relaxed and cared for.
I once came home to a clean, neat living room with music that he knew I loved playing. He was wearing a suit (very unusual), and there was a dress and shoes sitting on the couch. He bowed and made a flourish. I put on the dress, felt awkward, but he was sure, and he held out his arms in dance position, I shuffled in, and we swayed together quietly. It, like some of the others, started awkwardly, and finished wonderfully.
What does she love? What does she miss from her hometown? What has she wished she could do or where does she wish she could go? How can you make her life more pleasant or more easy or more magical? Can you be sure for both of you? Can you help her past her awkwardness? Her guilt? Her self-doubt? Can you show her how very, very, very much she means to you?
I would not want to go through life with that kind of partner. He won't be able to support you through the bad stuff. I was healthy and had no issues. Met my husband at 39, married at 42. Life was bliss. We were having so much fun. Then at 43 I was diagnosed with a brain tumor. Had to have a year long medical adventure that was far from upbeat. Cleared that, then got a touch of the breast cancer a year later. Life is not always upbeat and positive. When looking for your life partner, you want to find someone who isn't so easily shook. He may have trauma and need therapy, but no, it is not normal and it shouldn't be a thing. Life needs to be lived truthfully and with awareness. How can you fully appreciate the ups and positive moments that if you don't allow yourself to see the shit once in awhile? I have a brother in law who gets like this and shuts “uncomfortable” conversations down. He is boring and a control freak. When he chose to not come to a family member's funeral, because it was too uncomfortable for him, the whole family was done with him. It won't get better and you don't want to lose your depth and awareness to please him.
Thank you! And we both did get screened before sleeping together unprotected. I’m also on birth control and we discussed that prior to be safe about pregnancy. I think I was under a different assumption at that point but unless its specifically talked about ur right, I can’t assume exclusivity till it’s stated
If that were true then you would understand where she’s coming from… She contributed over $500 and you offered $20 then finally $60… This seems like it is a one sided friendship…
Yes.
I would say don't do anything rash. Give her some time to think through the situation a bit clearer and see if she can see the issue with what she is suggesting. She might realise she was getting caught up in the emotions of Susan's situation and come round, if not then yes I think breaking up is reasonable.
I don't think it would be a bad idea to show her this post even just so she gets some perspective on the situation.
King, your GF's abusive behaviors cannot be excused — but perhaps can be explained, especially if you would speak to a psychologist in your city. They may be due to her having very weak control over her own emotions (i.e., a lack of emotional skills she had no chance to learn in childhood). My exW has that problem. If it is an issue for your GF, you likely would be seeing 4 other red flags.
The first is a strong abandonment fear. I therefore ask whether, a few months into your relationship, she started showing strong jealousy over harmless events involving other women — or tried to isolate you away from your close friends and family members? She would view your spending time with friends/family as your choosing them over her. Moreover, she usually would hate being alone by herself.
Second, you would be seeing her rely heavily on black-white thinking, wherein she tends to categorize some people as “all good” (“with me”) or “all bad” (“against me”) and will recategorize them — in just a few seconds — from one polar extreme to the other based on a minor infraction.
Because she also uses B-W thinking in judging HERSELF, she would rarely acknowledge making a mistake or having a flaw. Doing so would imply, in her mind, she is “all bad.” She thus would blame nearly all misfortunes/mistakes on you and view herself as “The Victim.”
Further, to “validate” her victim status, she would keep a detailed mental list of every infraction/mistake you ever did (real or imagined) and would not hesitate to pull out the entire list to defend herself in the most insignificant disagreement with you. Moreover, this B-W thinking also would be evident in her frequent use of all-or-nothing expressions like “you ALWAYS…” and “you NEVER….”
Third, you generally would not see her directing her anger at casual friends, coworkers, or total strangers. She usually gets along fine with them. Rather, her outbursts and temper tantrums almost exclusively would be directed against a close loved one (e.g., against you, a sibling, or her parents).
Fourth, you are convinced that she truly loves you. But you frequently see her flipping, on a dime, between Jekyll (loving you) and Hyde (devaluing or hating you) — often making you feel like you're walking on eggshells around her. Such flips would occur in a few seconds in response to some minor thing you say or do. A few hours or days later, she can flip back just as quickly.
King, have you been seeing strong occurrences of all 4 of these red flags?
Still fucking strange. Did you really expect me accept an 18 year old with a 30 year old? She may not be a child anymore, but she was when she was FIFTEEN YEARS OLD. It’s still gross no matter what.
Do you like jail? Because this is how you end up in jail.
Your wife hates your kid, that ALONE should be a deal breaker she spit on you You threatened to assault her she tried to get you arrested at least once
If you stay with her you are going to go to jail. If you don't change your behavior in relationships you're going to end up in jail eventually. You are absolutely insane and incredibly stupid if you do not get a divorce ASAP. You should also get therapy because your idea of tolerable behavior is seriously going to land you in hot water in your life.
She's not at all concerned about hurting him.
It hurts to be put in an impossible situation like this, where you knowwww today and tomorrow are gonna be bad fucking days because she caught a mood and is restless and bored and there will be no peace.
That's selfish as all hell, “choosing violence” for no good reason, putting him in a position where he did no wrong but now has to cajole and soothe this quack while remaining patient
Violence is never ok. You have no right to put your hands on someone once they have told you to stop. Your behavior is very concerning. You think you can do whatever you want to someone even once they told you to stop. He warned you that he was going to elbow you if you didn't stop. You chose to continue with this behavior even after the warning. He shouldn't have been violent. What could he have done to get you to stop violating his person/boundaries? Does he have to leave the home? Would you have allowed him to leave unmolested if he tried? You need to take some ownership in what happened here. He over reacted buy you were out of line majorly before that.
He's definitely not single. Check for a fb page full of family pics and how much he loves his wife
Glad you broke up. He’s a liar and a cheater. You deserve better.
I’m not sure anymore. Part of me is just hoping it’ll go back to how it was. I used to hangout with him so much. I just feel so lost and scared of losing everything we’ve done. He just got me some expensive jewelry and i feel so guilty
What's stopping you guys from having a child when the time is right?I get the feeling of sadness and wanting to have a child (I've had an abortion before) but if it's not a good time it's not. I'm pretty happy about the abortion I had because it's allowed me to give a good life to the children I have now.
Yes I believe that too. Not all parents are roses and sunshine and kids are embarrassed about them.
Honestly OP its over she may say she wants to fight for your marriage but its clear her true desire is AP Time to divorce i'm sorry she will never change
Joe Rogan isn't politics
Lots of therapists are pretty bad at their jobs, and a therapist who is good with one issue might be bad with another issue. You don't have to do something just because your therapist told you to. A therapist's job is to give you tools for self-actualization, not to make your major life decisions for you. It's very common for people to go through multiple therapists before finding one who truly helps them. Talking a client out of leaving an abusive marriage goes against therapeutic best practices.
Some therapists believe in avoiding divorce at all costs regardless of how immiserating it may be, even if it results in one of the spouses or their children getting abused. Sometimes this is because they have personal or religious objections to divorce which they may or may not overtly express, and are using therapy as an opportunity to push their anti-divorce beliefs on their clients. The therapist will pat themselves on the back for a job well done of saving the marriage at any cost, secure in the knowledge that their client, not them, is the one who will have to suffer the abusive spouse.
If you are not the sort of person who believes it is always wrong to divorce no matter what, it might be wise to get another individual therapist.
You've given your husband multiple chances to change, but he's still being cruel to you on purpose because he finds it entertaining. All the “change” you've described seeing in your husband sounds more like appeasement to forestall divorce than true inner change. He's only dialed down the abuse instead of stopping. Ask yourself where you are willing to draw the line, how many years of your life you are willing to spend waiting for him to change. Ask yourself if you would tell a good friend to stay with a husband who treated her the way yours does?
If you wait until the abuse is truly intolerable and you're at your absolute breaking point, it will be much harder to leave.
Sounds like you are an ATM, and she doesn't consider you for the long term. It HER family and you can join if you get in line because the last one didn't. Best path would be to stick to your guns on your initial compromise, and then stop paying for everything. Leave her mom in the wind, save money for a lawyer then sue her for primary custody.
Its literally your best option
You found a man who values who you are over what you look like; a dream come true for millions of women. And this is somehow a problem?
Oh shit hon, why are you putting up with that abusive shit? I mean I get it, he targeted a woman 7 years younger because she would put up with this bullshit. He sounds abusive and immature. No one should insult their partner like that, and you shouldn't put up with someone treating you that way.
You can't just tell your husband flat out? How bad is your communication?? You just say, “Hey, I noticed you haven't been putting your share in? How come? You need to start.”
My question remains the same. Do you love her? You shouldn’t marry her because of pressure or outside reasons. The biggest reason should be is if you love her and want to commit to her specifically. Regardless of any other circumstances, is she the one you want to stand by forever?
I'm glad you've realized sometimes we don't notice things until the whole situation is laid out Infront I'm glad you aren't actually mad at her people just don't understand it's easy to gloss over things when reading and not fully read into the whole thing. Despite the pitchforks I hope you have a wonderful day ❤️.
Fair point and one I did not consider yet. There is not really a reason. But not telling her feels like being a bit overly protective, a tendency I do have and which annoys her at times.
After seeing that example of being straight forward I'm definitely gonna lie.
I simply wouldn’t agree to procreate with a man who thinks so little of me. He truly believes that not only would you cheat on him, but that you’d try to pass off any resulting child as his. I couldn’t even date someone who thought so little of me, let alone have kids with them. He has no respect for you.
His trust and insecurity are his problem. Don’t let them become yours.
I say it’s cheating. So if you wouldn’t have called would he have gone through with it? I’m
I don't know how you convinced yourself he loves you? Liking the same stuff and generally getting along is not love. I have no faith he won't cheat as he's talking about and virtually stalking a woman while rubbing your face in it like a friend he's trying to make jealous. Every single aspect of a relationship he's failing in and you love that? He's nice to you at points sure but that's not love. Being nice to you is literally the bare minimum to date you. Your standards are in hell and he brought a shovel.
Fair enough. But bidet? You can get a snap on one for under $100
Fucking someone else is fucking someone else. Period.
Your uterus does not give you orgasms.
yeah i just screenshotted and posted this on twitter, 5 other subreddits and instagram.
U need to have a discussion about boundaries now. Or else this will be a dealbreaker in the future.
Yeah I've heard about that study too. I and understand where you're coming from saying she matters. But at the same time, I matter too and I haven't been keeping the world up to date on what I'm doing all the time. We have plenty of pictures in our phones of and with each other already. It's not me being totally against taking pictures is just about actively posting specifically for social media.
I have accounts on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. I only ever post on Facebook. I could probably get away with no account in Twitter but I use it for FinTwit stuff so it doesn't hurt and I occasionally comment.
It would be pretty bogus to make a snarky comment along with the photo dump so maybe I shouldn't do that. But I can't even keep up with doing pushups at home so I don't even know how long I'll stick with uploading pictures. It literally doesn't cross my mind. I open Facebook and the others mindlessly so I can laugh or for stock trading info. I don't need other people's opinion on my life.
I feel like I'll just be a letdown again but I'll try posting.
Your edit is kinda gross.
He might want to make it work but because you cheated on him, subconsciously he is reacting to the decision to be with you.
He cannot help the way he is reacting until he has worked through the “hiccup”. Even though there’s a lot of things that’s happened since then, it doesn’t mean he has worked through it and is really ready to even move on with you.
Do they each other for long?
You’re at the beginning of a relationship where you both are still getting to know each other. You’re learning where your boundaries lie, where hers lie and whether those two are compatible. There shouldn’t be any expectations at this point because the commitment is still very new.
Based on that, she has a right to have sex with anyone she wants, when she wants. If she wants to wait for some and not for others, she can do so. It’s up to you to decide whether that works for you. Can you accept the fact she wants to wait to have sex with you while she had sex quickly with other guys? It’s just a fact that exists and you can’t do anything to change it. Can you accept it? If so, continue with the relationship and wait until she’s ready. If not, tell her you just want to be friends and continue your search for a partner. It’s really that simple and nobody here can make that decision for you.
A convo about what yalls values are and what happened for sure.
Well I guess he could of lied and gave you a 10.
Depends on how is mind is, like is a 10 one of those girls with a perfect body, Nice round butt and great boobs and so on, his ideal perfect girl? Cause to him, that is 10, are you her?
The thought of another individual AND me giving him a good experience makes me feel happy. If it’s just him and someone else alone, I wouldn’t want that and I would think it’s cheating. Like, if he’s enjoying another girl giving him an amazing blowjob while I’m kissing him, that is something I (think) will love to do.
Snow White and the seven dwarves.
In the nicest way it sounds like you stopped golf because of the extra driving
You deserve a hobby and so does he
She may not even know the answer to that. When people have such profound emotional problems that they can't motivate themselves to perform basic survival skills (like earning a living) they usually request mental health intervention to become functional. You can love her to bits but you're not a therapist and while you can tell yourself you were the “person she needed to get better” hopefully now you can see that it's going to require an actual psychologist. Good luck
Then just admit the motorcycle is more important to you than your GF and end the relationship dude.
Write to the schools that interest you directly, and ask THEM. There may be ways you can get around a separate BS Med. I know that in the US, there are often ways to plan your program to get around an apparent block.
Thanks man, I very much appreciate it
Yes definitely.