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It’s weird that you are attracted to younger women with trauma
3 some with her new bf.
You dont tell him anything you just block him and ignore it, he gets close to you and you are done with that bs file a restraining order lol
Always “have the balls”. Honestly I’ll be real with u & I’m anonymous on here so I can say it
My wife did something similar last year as a joke. I made it clear to her if there’s ever any type of hint of that type of talk again I’m divorcing her on the spot. Meaning if I even suspected she want that we would split.
With respect, Anecdotes from the internet are not equivalent to scientific data. If she wants to fix this, she needs to find a PCP and/or specialist who takes her concerns seriously and helps her chase down every possible medically available option.
I also think you guys should explore the possibility that she doesn’t have PSSD. I’m suggesting this not because I don’t believe her — and I have personal experience with being not believed by medical providers — but because the symptoms you are describing strongly sound like depression.
Finally, please please please stop putting any pressure on her about having kids. She’s not in a good headspace to think about having kids, but more importantly, she knows she doesn’t want to have kids. Trying to change her mind is, at a minimum, really pushy and at a max not respect her boundaries or autonomy as a human.
In case you aren’t aware of this already, because of the difference in how men and women are socialized throughout their lives, women often have lots more experience with taking care of children, which gives them a more realistic (and frankly depressing) view on what being a parent can be like. When a woman says she doesn’t want to have kids, you need to believe her.
If you are sure you want kids, you need to respect her desire to not have them and break up with her. Otherwise, your other option is to decide you want to be with her more than you want to have kids, and then you stay with her and completely quash your hopes of having children.
I wish you luck in your journey.
So everyone I was going to leave for work without saying goodbye but he caught me in the kitchen, he asked me wtf am I talking about and what I’m doing bc he saw the text I sent before I was about to leave. He thinks I am being very selfish and yelled at me for putting this on him and taking away the baby bc I know he really wants to have a kid and this is something he cares about. I told him I just can’t do this anymore and especially this isn’t something I want at this time.
He asked me what can he do and I told him he already knew what he could do is go through with marrying me but I know deep down it doesn’t seem like that’s something he wants so I don’t want to argue anymore and I want to go through with my plan of being officially done with the relationship and the baby. He was really upset when I walked out the door and kept asking me to wait and said this isn’t fair. Not really looking forward coming home after work.
I was reading it as OP was using the camera to show she had no opportunity to cheat as she only ever came to their house (hence her husband may be the baby daddy) or was home with no visitors.
The surveillance video date night was to show that the neighbors husband had isolated her effectively against everyone but OP and her husband. Course to everyone but OP this indicates there are 2 candidates for baby daddy.
Thank you. Yes I'm very much aware I can't dictate who my boyfriend is friends with and I would never ask him to stop being friends with them because of these reasons ? haha. You're definitely right and that I haven't given it much effort and that I've pretty much have written it off completely. I do need to make more of an effort. And then on my side it's a little tricky because I've been self-employed for 3 years and I don't know when and if I'm going to be back in the workforce working for someone. So I don't really have co-workers and don't really have friends which I'm still trying to work on personally. I can't just break up with him because of this reason lol. I've known him for 6 years and we've been dating for three so it would be very silly to end it because of this. I just have to make more of an effort.
Has he been medically evaluated to see if there’s an underlying cause for his tiredness? Like a vitamin deficiency or a thyroid issue?
Can he not work full time because of studying/school or because he’s so tired? If he’s considered disabled, perhaps he can apply for government assistance to help with the financial side of things?
She’s an adult and can post what she wants, if you aren’t okay with that you should be with someone modest and she should be with someone who doesn’t mind her showing her body how she’d like.
I’m begging him just to be honest and tell me he wants sex or a friends with benefits but he always says he wants a relationship tf…
Ok, I can confidently say that your friend does NOT have DID. People with DID, who also have alternate personalities (not all do) cannot control transitions and also are NOT aware of the alternate personalities. For most, it's almost like blacking out for a period of time and having no memory of what happened. I'm not saying your friend doesn't have some sort of other disorder, but it isn't DID. Based on your post, your answers to my questions, and your friend's age (in another comment), DID isn't it.
It could very likely be a form of schizophrenia, or another dissociative disorder.
My father himself has a dissociative disorder, and sometimes it is easier to label those dissociative states as other personalities, but they are not alternate personalities. Feel free to message me if you have questions.
I’m not sure, but my guess is stress – I can no longer remember things as well as I did before, and concentration keeps slipping away sometimes 🙂 I don’t think I’m sick, but it annoyed me to no end anyway:(
You should not be dating. You're too desperate, standards are way too low, self worth and self esteem is shot- all of this adds up to you ending up in an abusive relationship.
Join a social club or something, join a gym, volunteer, make at least one friend- there are plenty of ways to be around people.
I would break up with your family if I were you. They are abusive and have caused emotional trauma to your current partner. You mom is… not a good person to say the least. Horrible. Let your family know that you have new boundaries: if they invite the ex, you’re leaving/not going. You WILL express love and affection to your partner whenever the hell you want. And they must treat your partner with total respect. Ugh, so sorry to hear you’re going through that. If not, try limited their access to you and your relationship.
Yes
Like… if you wait a long time before asking, I guess it's because you're scared of how it will feel if she rejects, right? Because rejection feels bad. That's normal. But like, the more you wait and think about the bad rejection feeling, the worse it will actually feel. You're building it up in your mind. Every time you think about how rejection will feel, you're adding another brick to the pile that will crush you if she rejects you.
But if you ask sooner, and if she rejects you, you haven't spent so much time thinking about how bad that will feel, so there are not many bricks to crush you. Maybe they won't crush you at all. Just a little bruise and you will get over it.
“Hey, what are you doing Thursday? I have some errands to run, but I’d like to stop and grab a coffee with you- I wanted to pick your ear about a few things, nothing super serious but easiest to talk about in the same room lol.” If coffee goes AWESOME and the feelings are there after talking, turn it into a date and go learn how to fall down on skates together; if it gets awkward and the feelings are there, reserve that option for later; if the feelings are not there, then mention you probably need space for a while and that you need to process this privately for real closure.
Most dudes watch it, I also fond I silly for you to not want a man to watch porn. Work on your insecurities.
If he is that wealthy and it's THAT important that you be there, he should be paying for you as his guest. Does this guy have any redeeming qualities?
I agree I just don't think they should outweigh the input of your partner especially if we're thinking of marriage. Like if your making a decision your partner should be 51% and everyone else 49%.
YESSSSSSSS ✊️✊️✊️????
You should also handle your own contraception but instead you monitor your child’s mother’s donut consumption? Grow up. Learn to be a decent dad. Do her the favor of leaving.
Kids didn't seem to be told to say nothing, he didn't hesitate to tal about her. Also, OP seems like she glanced over him not wanting to talk to her family, sus. Seems not great communication but okay decisions aside from the talking part.
i said most. if the shoe fits be mad.
This is insane ? the socialization of women to be polite has got to stop girl there are men out there who dont require potty training. You could replace “boyfriend” with “preschool aged son” and this would be a more reasonable post. Women please hold your men to higher standards I just can't with this
Seems like a very reasonable boundary. You shouldn’t be seeing your exes if your spouse isn’t on board.
omg I hope youre ok 🙁 please call the police, its never worth it to stay with someone who hurts you
do you have any ideas for the special thing??? im clueless what we could do together.
he likes cars, guns, beer, anime, forza, tarkov, misc games, joe rogan, uh… likes a mexican place i treated him to earlier today. i ask his brother for small stuff that idk that never came up during the year we been together so i dont make him feel like idk anything about him or dont care to remember (bc i do remember when i know stuff or learn it, ive written a lot of it down in notes that ive gotten from him but more recent stuff i didnt know like the restaurant i took him to today, etc interests)
i like art, cars but less than him, some games, i dont rlly watch anime, i drink with him once in a while. i dont know something we havent done together or he hasnt done ever that i could make into an us thing, or nothing comes to mind at the moment that's like. feasible financially or physically right. he took interest in some realistic tiny engines in RC cars recently, like the little realistic working models you can build and a dude just shoved it into a legit rc car. could i do something with that maybe? idk where tf id start for it. maybe i can find a kit online to get and we can build it together. he also likes computer programming and stuff, im not great at that though so idk what we could do with that together.
The only way to do this properly is to say the words out loud.
You should break up.
Not because she had sex with people before you. But because she allowed the agreement of disassociating people you have history with, without exposing her history.
To me this is a breach of trust
maybe an inverse relation between the two?
Yes I think so. I haven't had a cavity in decades but my gums are in terrible shape.
I’m a dog person so this was painful to read, she sounds like a selfish shallow person
Don’t seem like it right now but the next girl is always 10 times better than the last
Your gf should drop you for trying to guilt her into going to your mother’s event. Your gf can already understand that you put your mother first by bullying her into going.
Tell her it makes you feel uncomfortable
Yes! Time to have an honest conversation. You can’t blame her for not being a mind reader. You can explain what you want. Then if she doesn’t contribute, you can discuss her departure time frame.
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Why is no one considering she didn’t know yet?
Or, she can just tell the truth. Because 2 of her children are in fact adults and can and will do it if they choose to. She can’t tell her adult children they can’t do a dna test. She has been failing horribly at that. And, the second son is one of the adult children. Her “secret” isn’t gonna be a secret anymore.
Also kinda horrible of you to even suggest she tell her kids no and take the tests herself and have the husband take the test. You’re trying to give her an “out” for now; and that’s just garbage.
Because she's manipulative. Block her.
Number 12 (or whatever it may be) might have to be the one to break your string. Marriage should be undertaken willingly.
Ive asked but it just excuses. I cant move out either because im still in school and dont have the money to move out.
Dude, you need to bring that “expiration date” forward to now. Why waste more time on someone you know is never going to take even basic care of themselves and will leave you to pick up the pieces?
You’ve answered most of the questions that one should ask in your replies, so I leave all that out. My main question would be if you see this being your long-term partner where do you both stand on kids?
Logistically age gaps can present an issue on this. You’re training to be a nurse which a great profession, but depending on where you are can take several years. If you both want kids, for most guys they don’t want to be much older than around 40 as then you get to experience more of their kids lives before they die. That’s only a few years for you guys, have you discussed this? You may want kids young or he may want them later. But I wouldn’t be surprised if you want kids say at a similar age to what he is now he’s not going to wait around for that.
Also with how life expectancy works you kinda have to be prepared for that him being older and a guy he’ll most likely pass about 20 years before you. I know that’s way down the road and sad to think about, but these are valid points and do come hand in hand when dating someone a fair amount older than you.
His “Really?” might’ve been a joke that fell flat. He might lack confidence and figured that you’re having not rung was a sign you’d lost interest. It’s best not to assume negative connotations. It sounds like the conversation went more smoothly after that. He might be getting the same negative advice from friends as you are. Just keep talking to him. If this sort of thing comes up again there might be a problem.
I see both of your perspectives. I tend towards your side while my husband tends towards your partner’s preference. How we sleep in two bedded rooms really varies based on a lot of factors but I’m spoiled because most nights he’s working while I sleep and vice versa. We only share our home bed for some of the weekends. If I was sharing a bed with him every night I would definitely want my own space if we had the opportunity.
Anger can go on for a very long time. Believe me, i've been there. It's ok, it's normal, but it's also a very destructive emotion.
Learning to deal with this feeling is one of the most powerful life lessons
Mate you need therapy not this sub. It genuinely seems you might have an addiction.
Also looking at the way you’ve phrased all this and your previous post history you’re coming across severely selfish and self centred. You need an open and honest conversation with your wife. Not at any point have you said if HER needs are being met, it’s all about you.
As someone who had this happen to them, he is 100% looking for a mother for his child and a place to stay. He's only encouraging you to be “open about your feelings” in order to coerce you into admitting (against your will) that you want him back. If you DO want him back, then fine, that's on you. But if you don't… be honest about your feelings. Like, brutally honest. If it were ME, I'd reply something like…
“I'm glad you're encouraging me to be honest about my feelings towards you, because I haven't been able to really 'be real' with myself for a long time. The fact of the matter is, I don't love you. I don't really even *LIKE* you; I simply tolerate communication with you because I'm not completely heartless and it appears that you're still struggling with feelings towards ME, which, I assure you, aren't mutual. If I'm 'being honest with my feelings,' I moved on long ago and I absolutely 100% DO. NOT. want to initiate a romantic/emotional or even platonic relationship with you. Not 'at this time,' but permanently. I don't want you back, I never will, and anything less than being 100% honest and up front with you is lying.
Or you could just accept “no” because “no” is a complete sentence. Coercing women into unwanted relationships is a bad look and indicates you have no respect for women or their right to choose a partner and sets an extremely bad precedent of my ability (or lack thereof) to make decisions for myself should I go against my better judgement and get involved with you – someone I am not interested in – in ANY capacity. Now please, put on your big boy pants and run along to the next poor sap's life that you plan on weaseling your way into. OR you could use this as a learning opportunity for how NOT to treat your future partners. Do not waste your time contacting me further because it will not be read or received.” – You
Dude is a loser. Are you?
If you aren’t then just keep going. Focusing on the past don’t help nobody.
“For chlamydia testing in females, false-positive rates (1 – specificity) ranged from 0% to 2%”, that is quite often. Depending on what type of chlamydia there is.
There are many people that like pegging with the partner, so I don’t know you’re gonna have to decide how much you love him and what you’re gonna do. With all the other horrible stuff on this site about cheating and leaving in frankly pegging seems pretty damn mild to me. However, you’re the one has to do it so if you don’t want to do it don’t do it but don’t be surprised if you start having problems with the relationship even to the end of the relationship. you cannot have such a difference sexually with somebody that has a high libido, and expect not to have some blow back. If you are lucky, he will want you more than sexuality on some level and Benji are well.
Honestly you should leave him alone. He may take you back but it won’t be the same and you should be supportive of him finding happiness with someone who won’t leave on impulse
I’m 25. I ended a 6 year relationship with someone that wasn’t good for me. I’ve been in a relationship with my current partner for a year and a half and he’s so much better than my ex. My ex and I will always be apart of each others lives unfortunately because I believed he was the best I’d ever get and I wanted a kid so we had one.
Leave. You’re 23. You don’t deserve to be questioning your relationship with someone that’s almost double your age. You deserve someone that tells you the truth no matter how hard it might be. You deserve someone you can trust.
I think the more important question is if this person is suited to this role in healthcare? I wouldn't want someone like this on my healthcare team.
As for you, offering support is not the same thing as allowing yourself to be sucked dry by an emotional vampire. Tell your manager that things have progressed beyond her needing the occasional support and she needs more support than you can provide her. Stop defending her when she is unhinged. She needs to get her wheels kicked straight.
I'm so sorry he did that to you. A lot of men cheat or do stuff like that when their partners are pregnant, unfortunately — not that that is an excuse, but it is super common. And for that reason, I would give him one more chance, with conditions. He must:
Agree to no more alcohol or substances. His judgement goes bad when he uses. Agree to open his phone to you at any time. He surrendered his right to privacy. Acknowledge that he is on probation and he won't be forgiven until you are ready, if ever. Agree that he should be butt-kissingly grateful for this one last chance, and that it might evaporate for any reason or none.
You are about to have a baby and you cannot have risks or emotional dangers in your life.
It would be incredibly generous of you to give him another chance, and if you decide you can't do it, that's fine. Whatever is good for you. He has moved himself from being a priority to being a liability, and any choice you make is the right one.
That's the only advice to give really..
Ditch the husband. Learn sign. Enjoy your children who sound lovely.
Everybody is insecure. I’m no different
Mate, you’re going to med school to follow your dreams. This woman was pressuring you to marry her after a year and a half as well. I think you dodged a bullet
You sound really immature. He might lose his livelihood and lose his home, and you're pestering him for sex.
Oh my. Do it today then. Not tomorrow.
What? You're working together and making lists like this, being civil and getting along… And you want to break up??? Let me make this simple: he's not cheating or abusive. You get along. Just stick together. It is VERY hard to find a good partner.
That’s a really good take. Currently we have a couple in our circle of friends where the husband wanted to explore an open relationship before discovering for himself he is poly. So far we haven’t heard him forcing her into anything, but there are some things that just rub me the wrong way. An example is when he proposed an open relationship, her main two rules were “not with anyone I’m friends with” and “do not tell me about it”. Soon as this man went from an open to a poly relationship he starts calling his wife for emotional support when there’s hardships with the new girl, and introducing the poly girl to his wife. I try to keep my distance as best as possible, but that really made me angry for her.
So she can insult me all she likes with no evidence and I'm never allowed to say anything against her? Pretty biased. Her kid isn't even a child, he's in college, and I repeatedly asked her that if she wasn't positive she could let me call her, or even open my texts, not to make promises she wouldn't keep.
Give yourself time to grieve and then focus on yourself. Do you get any support for reintegration?
As for starting a new relationship, lots of people end up single in later life and find love again. Different circumstances but people have 10, 20, 30+ year relationships end and then have the date again. There is lots of information available online.
Sorry bro.. Enjoy the little things.. Give yourself time to heal and connect… A fresh start and you will find your way.
Dude, she's going to Australia for 3 weeks with her ex??? Ive been trying to plan a 2 week trip to the area for my son and I and the cheapest I can get it down to is $10,000! Move on, she clearly has.
She IS NOT 99% perfect. She may be wonderful, but what you described are major components of long-term goals.
Where a person lives is 100% of your lives. If one partner is resentful of where they live because they acquiesced, and the other is happy because they're living where they want, this resentment will grow. It will eventually become a canyon separating you two.
You desire children and she doesn't. This causes heartbreak between couples. If a person (your GF, for example) has a child without the desire, they resent the child and begin to hate the partner for shackling them with this burden. If the partner (you, for example) goes without having a child, they feel barren and bereft, like life is without color and purpose for the future. This is a deal breaker for couples. You can never escape it. I've NEVER seen it done. It never ends happy. It always ends in breakup, it's just about the timing of the breakup—some after a child is already involved.
If you enjoy travel, and she doesn't, you'll feel stifled after several years of marriage. Marriage is wonderful when you have similar lifestyle goals, but marriage is a daily grind of habitual living. If you're dissimilar in your lifestyle goals, her desire to remain home will begin to drive you crazy. It will make you feel trapped. I'm a traveler. I was once with a non-traveler. My feet itched to go see things. It created conflict.
These are enormous issues. She may be perfect now, but as the relationship progresses, these are humongous flaws between you.
I hope she has more brains and gets the hell out of dodge
I think he might be exaggerating with the “deathly”. They are pretty bad however, in that he had difficulty breathing. He has an inhaler and it helps a lot.
I think you are being intentionally difficult. They are pretty awful to live with I am sure.
Not the best suggestion, cause yeah I am barefoot many times.
Not saying you shouldn't go, but clubs are absolutely a different vibe.
These questions are always hard because there's usually a reason someone stops wanting to have sex, but it's not always clear (even to themselves) why that is.
One: she's probably not doing this to hurt you, or because she doesn't love you. Sexuality is just not bringing her the feelings of love and intimacy anymore that they still give you.
She used to want sex with you, so presumably she used to enjoy it, right? What happened? Stress, kids, hormones, bad sex?
She has told you what she needs. Less pressure about sex from you. This is actually pretty common among women. The women, for whatever reason, have a lower libido for a while. Then, their partner makes such a huge deal about sex that she feels immense guilt and stress about not having sex. That guilt and stress is not exactly likely to make you feel “yay, I'd love to have some sex!”
It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy where everything she touches you in a loving way you go “yesss maybe we'll have sex tonight!!!” And she feels like the only thing you can think about is sex. She doesn't want to touch you anymore because for her it brings only negative feelings.
You definitely need something to break this cycle. Maybe read some booms (written by women) about the subject. Talk to her, don't accept “i don't want to talk about it” but also truly really listen to what she's telling you.
Sometimes focus on actions rather than words as words can be deceiving.
We've been dating for several months. Now obviously I wanna give it some time and save up a bit for food, transportation, clothes etc, and graduate school before moving. I also have other family to stay with if things backfire.
heartbreak. I've recently had a chat with her about sexual intimacy and it's brought me a lot closer to her. I'm starting to understand that i need to keep investing in improving the relationship to keep the passion alive.
You are 20 he is 30. He is acting 16. This controlling behaviour is a HUGE RED FLAG. If you have been in absolutely horrible relationships in the past I can see how this might seem better- but it’s not. This is also an unhealthy relationship. The age difference is super concerning. No wonder he is dating someone so young, NO WOMAN his own age would put up with that crap. Let him read this.
When I was married I wouldn’t have a male friend in my home without my husband there. It looks bad.
YTA
Yes, I know this isn’t that subreddit, but it’s true anyway.
Take a deep breath. All the deep breaths. Find a show with several seasons that you can binge. Indulge in some of your favorite foods. Make plans with friends and family even when you don't feel like being social. Read an enticing book. Pick a skill you could develop by watching tutorials online or taking a class. Exercise a LOT. This is painful stuff. But the hurt will get a little less each week. Months from now you'll start to feel like yourself again. A year from now you'll go days or weeks without thinking about her anymore.
And realize this harsh truth: she did you a favor. Do not concern yourself with what she may or may not regret. It's none of your business anymore. She realized she didn't want to be with you anymore and she was honest with you (instead of painfully stringing you along). Force yourself to think about her faults anytime you are missing her sorely. I promise it will get better.
No, the reply is addressing a very real fact that a great deal of women shoulder the responsibility for managing the mental, emotional, and physical loads in their relationships. Bringing a child into an unbalanced partnership is just going to further exacerbate the issue. There are plenty of single mothers who just happen to be in a marriage, doing all the cooking, cleaning, appointment making…and many hold down a FT job at the same time. Women are starting to push back against being the only caretaker in a relationship. At 22, the OP needs to take a realistic assessment of her relationship.
Absolutely none of this is your sister's fault, or her boyfriend's. Your parents are choosing to exclude your partner and you are choosing to let them.
How many other problems do you blame your sister for?
LMAO what? what men are doing is what's sexist. not me complaining about men's complete lack of emotional intelligence.
I asked him how he would feel if I liked 5 other guys in my school and he said “cool so we're even now :)))”, I'm not going to cheat nor tell him that I like anyone else, because I don't. But thank you for the advice
'Listening to him try to blame everything on his bipolar disorder just made me angrier. '
Let's just pause for a moment and think about this. If he has bi-polar disorder, one of the symptoms can be inappropriate sexual behaviour (see Vivian Leigh's biography for an example). However, this is only true if the sufferer is not on any medication. With the correct balance of medication bi-polar sufferers can cope with life just fine.
If, however, he is NOT on any medical regimen, you have far bigger problems than him banging his ex-step sister. Uncontrolled bi-polar sufferers can he literally hell to live with (I have personal experience here) Up to and including violence.
So consider the following points carefully:
Has he been correctly diagnosed by a competent psychiatrist?
Is he on any medication?
Has he shown this kind of reckless behaviour in the past?
Is he generally faithful and kind and is this noticeably out of his usual behaviour pattern?
Can you live with the answers?
Living with bi-polar disorder always involves two sufferers – one who has it, and the other who is on the receiving end of it.
Think long and hard before you consider forgiving him and taking him back to try again.
This is embarrassing for all involved.
Bobs and vagene.
I have a feeling this has been reposted too?
And the Natural Cycles app is 98% effective when used correctly. Same as condoms.
thehotline . org has resources for leaving abusive relationships.
The thing is,
If he felt like he needed to properly apologize, he would right a proper apology, not “damn imy”. How is “imy” even close to an apology?
If he missed her as a friend, he would write exactly that. He hurt her, so “imy as a friend” could be much more likely accepted than “damn imy”.
He sent it to her when you were only 2 months officially together, in a total honeymoon stage. It is not a good sign that in this stage he suddenly started feeling so low, regretful and guilty for the girl he had no contact with for a year.
Out of curiosity, ask him about the above. Also ask him what would he feel and think if you sent this message to your ex, and gave him the same explanations.
I think you are both right to a degree. I'm a man and have a very dark sense of humour, granted it used to be darker when I was his age or younger.
The thing is, he needs to be able to read the room and know what kind of humour will be appreciated and what won't be. It's bad if he made those jokes when you were dating, once he found out they made you uncomfortable, and even worse if he is making them now. He should know that these kind of jokes make you feel uncomfortable
The specific example you gave is funny indeed, the absurdity of the situation makes it funny. It doesn't mean that he is specifically normalising ra*e but that he has a dark sense of humour. He should not make jokes like that in your presence though, as they make you feel uncomfortable
Okay just looked at her history. Her communication issues are huge. She also seems to let her OCD and anxiety rule her life. She expects everyone to he able to read her thoughts to know what she is feeling turn gets upset when they can't. She admits she nit picks the hell out of the BF to the point he blows up.
She isn't in the right mental health space to have a healthy relationship. She can't even communicate with her mother well. OP needs to take a relationship break and work on herself.
You fix it by leaving. He doesn't see you as a person, not fully. Not if he can disregard anatomy and tell you to make yourself tighter.
Just be supportive and loving and reassure them as much as possible that you know sometimes it’s hard, having a new baby, and you hope they’re doing okay and hanging in there together, and if they ever need anything, even just someone to vent to, you’re there and you love them, everyone has moments as a new parent where you feel lost or desperate but if you ever need anything you just need to reach out and the people who love you want to be there for you. And don’t give any advice unless they specifically ask, just offer love and respect for them as grown adults.
I would totally act sick and just ghost and never speak to him again. Can you move? I'd hate to live in a town where the person I'm dating is a cop w all my personal information. They are scary. Especially the small town ones.
Dear OP: I'm sorry that you are walking on eggshells, living under a cloud of anxiety and feelings of inadequacy. What a dreadful way to live. I wonder what keeps you with this boyfriend? Does he love you and treat you well? Does he make you laugh? Do you enjoy pleasurable activities together? Are your values aligned? Does he take care of you? Think it over – imagine happiness.
Girl you get a hotel when you visit his parents because his parents don’t allow guest upstairs? And he wants an “open house” for his hard partying friends and loser brother?
Come on. You know the answer here. You’re posing this as a question but it’s not a question at all and you know it. This man is a joke and if you think leaving him now would he 4 years wasted, imagine realizing what a prick he is 5 years from now. Or 10.
Move on.
Soooo ur gonna teach ur son if u have one with this chick that men aren't allowed to have feelings or their weak?
Because ur just gonna perpetuate the shit ur parents taught u and ur gf feels?
Jeez.. talk about a toxic lineage.
Im glad my husband isn't so insecure in his emotions. We can actually raise sons who know it's okay to fucking feel shit.
Your parents failed u OP. And ur gf is an AH
He might be joking. Maybe he just has a kind of dark sense of humour. I have no idea why somebody would want to hook up with someone that apparently gave them such a bad time before.
I understand what you’re saying, and thank you for your comment. I definitely have a more anxious attachment style and it’s something I’ve been working on. Still hard for me to realize it and set boundaries for myself sometimes
Oh sorry probably a bit of a misunderstanding. I asked her for drinks and she basically told me no and to look for somone else to drink with.
Sounds like you knew she was into you and you aren’t attracted to her but you used her to sext and get off and then played it off as a joke
He’s already cheated on his girlfriend.
It sure seems you are rushing into adult life quickly with a lot of opportunities to fail AFTER you own a home, AFTER you make a kid. I think I would slow down and each of you get your lives in order… then think about settling down
The only answer that matters
fwiw, i married into a Latino family. and i can tell you that, no matter how crazy they can get, i was not treated the way your family treated your ex bf at first meeting. and we’re talking about a family that NEEDS to know all your business, are protective of my husband bc he’s the only son (& his mom’s favorite)/brother, he’s the favorite tío, etc.
your family was just rude and idk if it’s bc you’re the daughter or bc they’re just rude. but they’re gonna do this again to the next bf, & the next one, and so on.
you need to nip this in the bud.
Your mood will go up and down. Make a list of things you’d like to do to show that you love him – they don’t have to be big things. Things like a head massage or make him a coffee or whatever you know he likes. When you’re feeling ‘up’ do one of them.
When you’re feeling down, try asking for a hug instead of lashing out.
Drop a spoon? “I need a hug right now! And please pick up my spoon”
Feeing grumpy? “I need forehead kisses right now! And please can I have ice cream?”
Bring him closer instead of pushing him away
This doesn't seem like the right relationship for either one of you.
No. If you paying all your stuff on time, he don’t need to see it. If you’re paying for HIS stuff??? Oh he can sit on down and say nothing. What does he need to see?? There is no cause for concern imo what is this
If they take his side, they weren't your friends and you need to find new ones anyway.
Why are you faulting her for his spending issues? She's living perfectly within her means even counting her contributing significantly more than him to the shared expenses. If anything she should be reviewing his spending as he insisted on separate finances.
Going into overdraft once because, of bailing out your other half does not necessitate any cuts unless she wants them.
If homie wants a superman S tie clip then this shouldn't be a post.
If my guy wants to dress up as the riddler with a bright green suit with ? ¿ ? Everywhere then he's a dumbass.
OP needs to be specific with what he wants to do because our answers will vary wildly because it's just speculation rn.
At least he was 16 years old. Trying to upstage Kanye is also morally okay to do. If some stubborn kid did that to my wedding I wouldn’t give a shit, but if a grown man did that, well, I still wouldn’t give a shit because shit like that is hilarious but it’s still two completely different things.
Since this is the top comment. I'm sooo confused by the outrage. Maybe it's because the OP put the most important part as the last sentence. He is y showing up in tights and a cape. He will be in a suit. Who cares if his tie has a pattern or he has hero cuff links or a hero tie Clio. There are SO MANY ways to make a hero inspired outfit for a nice occasion. Unless he shows up in the riddler suit, I think OP is overreacting.
Just deal until you can move out.
Hang up a sheet over the doorway. That way when you do open the door there is an extra barrier
You're allowed to date (or not date) anyone you choose for any reason you wish. If you don't share the same priorities, or if there's not enough good will built up in your relationship where you feel you can overlook his flaws- then it may be better to part ways.
I once dated a guy who was smart, decent job, attractive- but he was dirty. It wasn't the clutter that bothered me as much as it was the grime and dirt. Shower had black all over the bottom, the toilet in his house was definitely a hover situation, and he had a sweet golden retriever- but never vacuumed and relied exclusively on a Roomba that couldn't handle the golden retriever without backup (none ever came). Dishes piled into the sick, dishwasher full, crumbs on the counter. I'm not the tidiest of people- but I honestly didn't feel comfortable in his home. There's no future there if I don't feel comfortable in his space- so I let him know we weren't a good mutual match.
My husband is also not the tidiest, but nowhere near that bad. And I feel like it balances out with the things he does do- like kitty litter, dog poo pickup, vacuuming once a week- and I can forgive those trespasses because he's built up that good will in other areas like honesty, reliability, etc.
I would pause and ask yourself what's really important to you. Is it 20 minutes late to hangout at your house and watch television, or is he an hour late to dinner leaving you feeling stood up? Or is it literally everything that he's late for and you feel like he doesn't respect you/your time?
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You are severely underreacting. Seriously are you gonna sell your body, your comfort, your piece of mind and your future for some notes, meals and rides? Seriously? He didn’t give you a fucking kidney. What do you really owe this stalkery, unapologetic assaulter?
“Accidentally” lol