Don't have anal sex if you don't want to. Don't have sex with a UTI (seriously…don't do it). Don't have sex with people that don't understand why your Azo isn't going to stain his penis.
Seriously. You don't care about someone you have been dating this long enough to wash your sheets?? Wtf
Yes it's gross. You might be fine sleeping in your own dead skin cells and every day dirt. But don't subject her to it.
Most people wash their sheets every week sometimes more.
I think you should get over your laziness and wash your sheets.
But if you can't for some reason ask your gf if you buy another set of sheets for her to bring to your place and take with her when she leaves is that an option.
Having a crush here and there isn’t a problem, as long as you recognize it for what it is – and don’t act on it. I’d even call it normal. Don’t overthink it, you’re only human.
I guess the bigger questions are… are you happy? Has anything changed as a result of couples therapy? Do your long-term goals align (lifestyle, children, career and financials?) What needs/desires of yours aren’t being fulfilled right now? Do you still find him attractive?
I feel like you already made a decision and are just sanity checking yourself in Reddit. And that’s fine.
As far as your shared history and stuff, it’s less important the future. If the relationship can no longer give you what you need after putting in a good faith effort at trying, then it sound like it’s holding you back.
Stop it. Seriously. As a man twice your age who’s had kids with the wrong partner, just stop it. You’re young. Build yourself up. Build a business, build a career, establish yourself first. Then worry about marriage and kids after. You’re not in your prime yet. She technically is, but you are not.
Unintentional manipulation is still manipulation, though. No idea what to tell OP here, though, I would probably not stay with someone I cannot disagree with.
He didn’t say supermodel, he said she modeled in her 20’s. That could have been for anything a moderately pretty girl with the right body type…grocery store flyers, local department store fashion shows, not necessarily Vogue magazine or a catwalk in Paris.
Is it fan fiction because that's pretty normal in the fan fic circles an it's never actually sexual in nature like it's not a giant circle jerk people just discuss what they are writing.
Wow, that's a terrible initial reaction from your husband. He centered your pain around his feelings and that was not the time or place. Perhaps you could explain your feelings that from your perspective, you just opened up about it to the first person ever (your therapist) and he's only the second person ever to be told. From your perspective, you weren't withholding information for a long time, but rather told him quickly after you were able to tell anyone at all. There is no specific timeframe for people to be able to mentally process SA and everybody's journey is a little different. Although pushing it aside and trying to focus on moving forward while not acknowledging what happened is extremely common. This can last days, weeks, years, or decades. I'm glad you are open to your therapist about this and are starting to process what happened to you. Great job and I hope you can continue being vulnerable with your therapist and work on healing.
How has your husband been in the past few months since he learned? Is he moving in the right direction for supporting you? Is he focused more on his feelings? Is he rug-sweeping and pretending like nothing happened?
I think he’d rather laugh after they don’t fuck, you know?
I said nothing about the frequency of it happening, just that it's insanely stupid. Your comment is redundant.
Don't have anal sex if you don't want to. Don't have sex with a UTI (seriously…don't do it). Don't have sex with people that don't understand why your Azo isn't going to stain his penis.
And not knowing if he ever wants to have sex and moving him in? You gotta be on the same page about certain things before you move in.
You are young.
Dump him.
Seriously. You don't care about someone you have been dating this long enough to wash your sheets?? Wtf
Yes it's gross. You might be fine sleeping in your own dead skin cells and every day dirt. But don't subject her to it.
Most people wash their sheets every week sometimes more.
I think you should get over your laziness and wash your sheets.
But if you can't for some reason ask your gf if you buy another set of sheets for her to bring to your place and take with her when she leaves is that an option.
Having a crush here and there isn’t a problem, as long as you recognize it for what it is – and don’t act on it. I’d even call it normal. Don’t overthink it, you’re only human.
I guess the bigger questions are… are you happy? Has anything changed as a result of couples therapy? Do your long-term goals align (lifestyle, children, career and financials?) What needs/desires of yours aren’t being fulfilled right now? Do you still find him attractive?
I feel like you already made a decision and are just sanity checking yourself in Reddit. And that’s fine.
As far as your shared history and stuff, it’s less important the future. If the relationship can no longer give you what you need after putting in a good faith effort at trying, then it sound like it’s holding you back.
Tell him thats not how gifts work.
I suppose your gifts didn't come with a paper of stipulations to keep them?
Give him the ring back and keep the rest. Cheating has consequences!
Good luck!
Stop it. Seriously. As a man twice your age who’s had kids with the wrong partner, just stop it. You’re young. Build yourself up. Build a business, build a career, establish yourself first. Then worry about marriage and kids after. You’re not in your prime yet. She technically is, but you are not.
Get your misogynistic ass away from here Susan!
Because it gets cringe to say it over and over again as a man even if you have the thoughts
Men aren't obsessive vocally like that. We may think those things but find it obnoxious and cringe to keep repeating it
Unintentional manipulation is still manipulation, though. No idea what to tell OP here, though, I would probably not stay with someone I cannot disagree with.
He didn’t say supermodel, he said she modeled in her 20’s. That could have been for anything a moderately pretty girl with the right body type…grocery store flyers, local department store fashion shows, not necessarily Vogue magazine or a catwalk in Paris.
Just call her. Let her know the relationship isn't working out for you. Of course you aren't going to go there for the weekend.
Is it fan fiction because that's pretty normal in the fan fic circles an it's never actually sexual in nature like it's not a giant circle jerk people just discuss what they are writing.
Protect him from anything. People trying to hurt him in any way, shape, or form.
And so was threatening to hurt my boyfriend. Eye for an eye is honestly too lax so he’s lucky.
Wow, that's a terrible initial reaction from your husband. He centered your pain around his feelings and that was not the time or place. Perhaps you could explain your feelings that from your perspective, you just opened up about it to the first person ever (your therapist) and he's only the second person ever to be told. From your perspective, you weren't withholding information for a long time, but rather told him quickly after you were able to tell anyone at all. There is no specific timeframe for people to be able to mentally process SA and everybody's journey is a little different. Although pushing it aside and trying to focus on moving forward while not acknowledging what happened is extremely common. This can last days, weeks, years, or decades. I'm glad you are open to your therapist about this and are starting to process what happened to you. Great job and I hope you can continue being vulnerable with your therapist and work on healing.
How has your husband been in the past few months since he learned? Is he moving in the right direction for supporting you? Is he focused more on his feelings? Is he rug-sweeping and pretending like nothing happened?