So you expect her to feel fulfilled maternally as a stepmother only and not as a mother? She has a right to want a child of her own. Also you shouldn’t be asking your oldest child’s opinion, it’s not up to him at all whatsoever whether dad & stepmom have a kid or not.
I have daughters your age. I tell them I know they are going to send pictures, be safe about it. Nothing identifying. Not until you are in a relationship you know is lasting.
Teacher turned full time masters student, meanwhile trying to take care of everyone around her at the neglect of herself.
So, everything in her life takes… you need to be someone who gives. And if you want to be a great boyfriend, learn to handle your problems on your own, sparing your GF the additional weight.
The way I help my girl through these scenarios is quality downtime. Be a great version of yourself around her and become that escape for her from all the weight she carries.
To be frank… she could pull back a bit from her roommate. Her roommate has become a demand for her attention/energy. Your GF has enough on her plate already, she doesn't need to deal with other peoples problems.
But… that is the kind of woman we got, someone who goes out of their way to be motherly.
Not sure where your from, but considering she has an artistic side. A great date night would be a paint-nite. May have something similar around you. Sign up for a class, they give you all the supplies and they walk you through a painting (a simple one). I'll dm you the link (not sure If I can post links here).
Quality downtime, be the recharge station for her. ?
This is exactly it. He will claim it was a joke, but it was an effort to sabotage her studying since she didn’t do what he wanted. There’s no reason to salvage this. It’s abusive to get her to comply next time.
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So you expect her to feel fulfilled maternally as a stepmother only and not as a mother? She has a right to want a child of her own. Also you shouldn’t be asking your oldest child’s opinion, it’s not up to him at all whatsoever whether dad & stepmom have a kid or not.
Came here to say this.
If she aint eating your cake dw she aint going hungry
I have daughters your age. I tell them I know they are going to send pictures, be safe about it. Nothing identifying. Not until you are in a relationship you know is lasting.
I wanted to double upvote this comment.
This is sounds like a spitting image of my girl.
Teacher turned full time masters student, meanwhile trying to take care of everyone around her at the neglect of herself.
So, everything in her life takes… you need to be someone who gives. And if you want to be a great boyfriend, learn to handle your problems on your own, sparing your GF the additional weight.
The way I help my girl through these scenarios is quality downtime. Be a great version of yourself around her and become that escape for her from all the weight she carries.
To be frank… she could pull back a bit from her roommate. Her roommate has become a demand for her attention/energy. Your GF has enough on her plate already, she doesn't need to deal with other peoples problems.
But… that is the kind of woman we got, someone who goes out of their way to be motherly.
Not sure where your from, but considering she has an artistic side. A great date night would be a paint-nite. May have something similar around you. Sign up for a class, they give you all the supplies and they walk you through a painting (a simple one). I'll dm you the link (not sure If I can post links here).
Quality downtime, be the recharge station for her. ?
This is exactly it. He will claim it was a joke, but it was an effort to sabotage her studying since she didn’t do what he wanted. There’s no reason to salvage this. It’s abusive to get her to comply next time.