There's a saying – if he/she/they cheats WITH you, he/she/them will cheat ON you. What happens if the relationship with her starts to fail don't think your special and won't get the same treatment
Block him, if anyone contacts you on his behalf block them too.
Change your number, change your email, change your socials – only give contact info to trusted individuals.
He can't legally make you talk to him but you could look into your options for getting him to stop. Maybe even a formal letter from a lawyer can be enough. Some offer an hour or free of charge, some schools have legal aid etc.
Prepare yourself for possible rejection. She may just not have any romantic feelings left for you. So mentally prepare yourself that she may not reciprocate or may struggle with it due to prior behavior.
Years ago in my 20’s I had a roommate whose boyfriend lived on the other side of the country. Her work also took her to his city frequently. She’d be gone for weeks at a time then come back and it felt so disruptive. So i moved out.
You need to start moving on. It sounds like she has. She doesn’t seem to feel the same as you, and if you keep forcing the issue, she’s going to cut you off.
You should find someone you can talk to about all of this. Ending a relationship is hard—esp your first one—but you need to respect her boundaries.
It sounds like you two need to sit down and have a very serious conversation.
It sounds like maybe he has had a change of heart or is stressed.
I read the comments about you not feeling like you had enough space in his house and feel like its a power struggle over things. Having a larger house doesn’t solve that and if he is financially supporting most of your expenses and day to day living, its not exactly reasonable to expect him to buy another house/more financial burden when he already owns one. Having a larger house is just a bigger financial obligation and should you two separate down the line, (The comment about past breakups over renovations) its more hoops to jump through. You also mention that you had to give away all of your furniture but don’t mention that he also gave away his own, in the comments. If you moved into a place he has already owned, fully furnished, there wouldnt be much space for more furniture. It sounds like you could be feeling resentful because of this too.
It sounds like you guys may want two different things right now. 1.5 years isnt a very long time. Forcing him to move faster wont change things but add more strain to your ongoing dilemma. Just sit down and ask how he is feeling, whats going on and how you can both plan for the future accordingly, together. Talk about how you feel as well, about your need for a space to unwind in. Make small changes where you are now to help you but also to give him time to prepare for moving too. You should both be confident about what is happening, physically and financially (and emotionally) and how to navigate the near future together but neither of you are. Plus the housing market is terrible right now.
The only way to solve this is with serious, open communication.
picked my boyfriends earring right out of his ear
Lets start here.
There's a saying – if he/she/they cheats WITH you, he/she/them will cheat ON you. What happens if the relationship with her starts to fail don't think your special and won't get the same treatment
Depression has made my wife say she can't get up to pee.
Eventually she does it on the toilet, though. Not in a bottle. Which is actually, frankly, more work.
Block him, if anyone contacts you on his behalf block them too.
Change your number, change your email, change your socials – only give contact info to trusted individuals.
He can't legally make you talk to him but you could look into your options for getting him to stop. Maybe even a formal letter from a lawyer can be enough. Some offer an hour or free of charge, some schools have legal aid etc.
Make a plan for who does what maybe?
Lol this is just a blatant lie
Prepare yourself for possible rejection. She may just not have any romantic feelings left for you. So mentally prepare yourself that she may not reciprocate or may struggle with it due to prior behavior.
She already has cheated on him
Years ago in my 20’s I had a roommate whose boyfriend lived on the other side of the country. Her work also took her to his city frequently. She’d be gone for weeks at a time then come back and it felt so disruptive. So i moved out.
You need to start moving on. It sounds like she has. She doesn’t seem to feel the same as you, and if you keep forcing the issue, she’s going to cut you off.
You should find someone you can talk to about all of this. Ending a relationship is hard—esp your first one—but you need to respect her boundaries.
It sounds like you two need to sit down and have a very serious conversation.
It sounds like maybe he has had a change of heart or is stressed.
I read the comments about you not feeling like you had enough space in his house and feel like its a power struggle over things. Having a larger house doesn’t solve that and if he is financially supporting most of your expenses and day to day living, its not exactly reasonable to expect him to buy another house/more financial burden when he already owns one. Having a larger house is just a bigger financial obligation and should you two separate down the line, (The comment about past breakups over renovations) its more hoops to jump through. You also mention that you had to give away all of your furniture but don’t mention that he also gave away his own, in the comments. If you moved into a place he has already owned, fully furnished, there wouldnt be much space for more furniture. It sounds like you could be feeling resentful because of this too.
It sounds like you guys may want two different things right now. 1.5 years isnt a very long time. Forcing him to move faster wont change things but add more strain to your ongoing dilemma. Just sit down and ask how he is feeling, whats going on and how you can both plan for the future accordingly, together. Talk about how you feel as well, about your need for a space to unwind in. Make small changes where you are now to help you but also to give him time to prepare for moving too. You should both be confident about what is happening, physically and financially (and emotionally) and how to navigate the near future together but neither of you are. Plus the housing market is terrible right now.
The only way to solve this is with serious, open communication.