Do not weaponize his trust in you and his sexuality to “save face” with mutual friends and family. That could create loads of resentment and make co-parenting needlessly difficult.
You need a clean break while you’re grieving the loss of your partner. Further emotional entanglement only benefits your ex because they have additional support to carry the load; you do not. You can be friends when you’re able to do so without romantic feelings. That isn’t right now.
Grief isn’t linear. It comes and goes in waves. This is why it’s important to take space from your ex because you never know when those waves are gonna crash. They have clearly moved on. It they wanted to be with you, they would.
It sucks to hear, but you need to put yourself first. Prioritize your healing and your emotional well being. Do the hard work.
I have lived with my husband for 9 years, we have not had to unclog our toilet even once.. ever. You either have serious plumbing issues.. or your husband.. has serious plumbing issues.
I have tried exactly that this very week and when i did stop us and ask why she just stares at me like a deer in headlights and says nothing. I got up, got dressed and the house has been full of silence for the last 3 days and uncertainty on my part of how I feel about this and what I am going to do moving forward. I want to be here and want to continue in this relationship but I'm starting to feel that this rejection I'm feeling to pushing me out the door. I don't want to throw away a good relationship because of my dick or me being selfish that I want a bj.
Not a cultural issue. We did not buy it together, the house is my uncle’s who helped raised me & loved me as his own child. His wife died early, they never had kids and he never got married again. I doubt my uncle will throw us out one day randomly. But maybe you are right, moving in was not the right decision I guess
Do not weaponize his trust in you and his sexuality to “save face” with mutual friends and family. That could create loads of resentment and make co-parenting needlessly difficult.
Then asking her to risk her life to go out with you is pretty fucked up dude.
You need a clean break while you’re grieving the loss of your partner. Further emotional entanglement only benefits your ex because they have additional support to carry the load; you do not. You can be friends when you’re able to do so without romantic feelings. That isn’t right now.
Grief isn’t linear. It comes and goes in waves. This is why it’s important to take space from your ex because you never know when those waves are gonna crash. They have clearly moved on. It they wanted to be with you, they would.
It sucks to hear, but you need to put yourself first. Prioritize your healing and your emotional well being. Do the hard work.
Thats weird. People have needs, even if you're married you wanna watch porn. Dont want to be rude, but get over it, it screams insecurity.
I have lived with my husband for 9 years, we have not had to unclog our toilet even once.. ever. You either have serious plumbing issues.. or your husband.. has serious plumbing issues.
I have tried exactly that this very week and when i did stop us and ask why she just stares at me like a deer in headlights and says nothing. I got up, got dressed and the house has been full of silence for the last 3 days and uncertainty on my part of how I feel about this and what I am going to do moving forward. I want to be here and want to continue in this relationship but I'm starting to feel that this rejection I'm feeling to pushing me out the door. I don't want to throw away a good relationship because of my dick or me being selfish that I want a bj.
Your family probably has valid concerns about this man and he likely doesn't deserve to be defended
What in the flying fuck did I just read? Dude, get a new friend and never be alone with this guy again.
Not a cultural issue. We did not buy it together, the house is my uncle’s who helped raised me & loved me as his own child. His wife died early, they never had kids and he never got married again. I doubt my uncle will throw us out one day randomly. But maybe you are right, moving in was not the right decision I guess