Actually his eyes are on me 90% of the time. He listens to everything I say. BUT as soon there is a little beep in his pocket his attention shifts immediately and he is in his “zone”. So yeah Im afraid it wont get better if not even worse
Me too! Was with him for 13 miserable years in which I destroyed myself trying to fix the relationship. It took a year before I realized I was really happy and he wasn’t at all what I had built him up to be in my mind.
He might just have a different attitude towards dating and see it as much more of a casual thing. After all, he said he's just going out of curiosity and has made no attempt to hide it.
Stop blaming yourself and justifying what he has done. In a way this is very endearing, but also very worrying. You have done nothing wrong at all, he should be loyal to you full stop. There is nothing more to this, it is the basis of any relationship. To me you say he is a great guy, but he isn't, you know this because of his actions. A great guy would think about your feelings, and if he had low self esteem he would not do anything to lower yours. This incidentally doesn't make sense. If he has low self esteem, and feels you are out of his league, he would not cheat at all. Why would a guy cheat on his hot gf?
I think you like the set up that you have in the US, the lifestyle, his family and friends, but not him completely. Leave. His cheating will continue, especially as you have already accepted it previously.
Sorry, just remember you will find the happiness that you deserve.
You are not crazy, and you are being gaslighted… it’s FAIR to establish boundaries.
Move on from him
You are not crazy, and you are being gaslighted… it’s FAIR to establish boundaries.
Move on from him
Actually his eyes are on me 90% of the time. He listens to everything I say. BUT as soon there is a little beep in his pocket his attention shifts immediately and he is in his “zone”. So yeah Im afraid it wont get better if not even worse
Me too! Was with him for 13 miserable years in which I destroyed myself trying to fix the relationship. It took a year before I realized I was really happy and he wasn’t at all what I had built him up to be in my mind.
Are they blood related or is this a step brother/step sister situation?
He might just have a different attitude towards dating and see it as much more of a casual thing. After all, he said he's just going out of curiosity and has made no attempt to hide it.
Adults over a couple days just making out? Means they fucked. Do more investigation. Check conversations. Even confront this other guy.
That explain a lot, I’m not bored with him. When we stay home and not do anything I feel anxious and just overthink.
Stop blaming yourself and justifying what he has done. In a way this is very endearing, but also very worrying. You have done nothing wrong at all, he should be loyal to you full stop. There is nothing more to this, it is the basis of any relationship. To me you say he is a great guy, but he isn't, you know this because of his actions. A great guy would think about your feelings, and if he had low self esteem he would not do anything to lower yours. This incidentally doesn't make sense. If he has low self esteem, and feels you are out of his league, he would not cheat at all. Why would a guy cheat on his hot gf?
I think you like the set up that you have in the US, the lifestyle, his family and friends, but not him completely. Leave. His cheating will continue, especially as you have already accepted it previously.
Sorry, just remember you will find the happiness that you deserve.
“Just date your stalker so he doesn't hurt you.”
What the fuck? ?