You're an idiot for even remotely thinking this is funny in any way possible and you're and even bigger idiot for dating this guy and not being scared about your dogs health. This is animal abuse.
I think we need some more info on your wife’s side of things. Does she want to lose the weight but doesn’t have the capacity e.g doing all the housework, liking after kids?
First comment: imagine if this was reversed and you found a video of her. Everyone here would say to get over it it happened before you everyone has a past etc etc.
But in all seriousness.. what was the video about? I'm imagining there's certain things you just wouldn't recover from
OP, it's your ex. What they do is actually no longer any of your business. In fact, once you stop paying so much attention to what they are doing and who they are talking to, you'll be able to start the healing process. It might feel right now like you'll never find someone else who's right for you, but give it time. Eventually you will move on, and find a new, more compatible partner to date.
It's normal to feel upset and resentful after a breakup you didn't want. But you don't want to nurse those bad feelings and keep stalking your ex on social media indefinitely. As long as you are all wrapped up in what your ex is doing with someone else, you'll remain emotionally stuck, angry, and frustrated. Is that really how you want to live? Why not choose happiness instead? Call a friend up RIGHT NOW. Tell them that you need them to take you out for a good time and keep you distracted for a while, so you can stop ruminating about your stupid ex. Rinse and repeat as needed, until your ex is cleared out of your short-term memory banks. I wish you well.
The boyfriend has been there for 1 year—your hopes and dreams for MUCH longer. Yes, it’s tough. Yes, at some point you’ll need to take time for you, but you are so very young to feel you must put him ahead of your career. Stay the course.
The baby is 2 weeks old. Where the mom goes so does the baby and no one is going to force her to go back or separate the mother from the baby in this case. You're a self absorbed idiot if that concept alludes you. Grow up and go to the MIL house because you've made it clear the only issue is MIL doesn't like you (wonder why) and talk to your wife. Apologize for your reaction and for not being there for her. Tell her you misspoke and fully trust her to be a good mother.
Google attachment style. Commitment issues often are do to that. Also as for your interest in sex, it could be you have low libido, you could be asexual, or you could have trauma that’s getting in the way. Might be worth exploring all that to get a sense of what’s going on with you and if you’re cool with it or if it’s something you want to work on.
I don’t think you understand the pain of not having a relationship. It’s hollowness, thinking of offing yourself all day. If it would be better off. It’s an everyday thing. I just want to hold hands and sleep on hammocks and do what i should be doing. I don’t want to be an outlier any longer. I should be going on dates and camping trips and biking trips and watching Netflix with a girl. That’s all thst matters to me. If I’m watching somebody else post about their happiness on snapchat it angers me that I’m not doing thst
I’m 28f and one of my closest friends is 46m and we always gas each other up, but it NEVER crosses a line. It’s like “hey you’ll find what you’re looking for because you’re smart, attractive,fun” etc and that’s how friends do and should talk to each other. This is a weird dynamic all around that you’re talking about though…
Just a guess, but maybe there”s an underlying resentment of his stepfather. Maybe he’s just biding his time until he takes over the business, but I would guess his wife has a huge part in this because maybe he confided in her. All just speculation, just ask when you’re alone.
January 1st will be 3 years without a puff. I have the dreams a couple times a week!!! I was wondering how long they last for. I usually feel really guilty in my dreams after. I’m always thinking about how I had to start my streak all over again after all that time.
Ok this is crazy. I can see not being able to want sex with my husband after witnessing that. He needs insight on how wrong it is. Definitely see about couples counseling to get it all out.
Think before you speak. Consider her point of view. Avoid the argument altogether. Relationships are about compromise, not winning arguments or complaining to point of causing them.
Just imagine how stupid the average person is. Now realise that HALF of all people are more stupid than that.
There is no reason to disbelieve this story.
I take all on Reddit at face value, I help where I can, and if I waste a few mins on someone's creative writing…. So what? Someone in a similar situation may see it and it may help them.
We live in the hope, that tomorrow, is a little better than today.
Its not that she “doesn't want her husband to be romantically involved with other women”
Its that she “doesn't want her husband to be romantically involved with any woman.”
Its crazy because she doesnt want to be romantically involved with her husband. She is monogamous, but it doesnt sound like her husband is. And if she's only interested in an asexual plutonic marriage, thats fine, but its unreasonable to demand he suddenly become asexually celibate too.
Nothing wrong with being asexual. Every sexuality is valid. But its wrong force other people to adopt your sexuality.
Rede sonst einfach nochmal mit ihm und verklicker ihm, ohne dass er dich unterbricht, wie dumm das war und dass ihr eben nicht in einer Sitcom seit. Das was er gemacht hat kranker war als du in dem moment (joke intented). Er meinte halt, er würde es wieder tun, also sag ihm dass er das eben NICHT und Nie wieder machen soll. Ich hoffe einfach er checkts, weil wenn nicht und er beharrt darauf dass er es definitiv wieder macht, dann würde ich weg.
I have heard of fitness trainers hooking up with clients, but I had never heard of such an overt monetary/transactional offer as if the person was in a cheap massage parlor or something. WOW. I think this situation is a great opportunity to discuss the situations that OP and her bf go through at work and how they think they should be handled, how boundaries are set, and even safeguards to put in place (what if OP had a client who could not accept a “no” and escalated things?).
I’m so relieved that your manager had your back last time, and I’m sorry you’ve dealt with this before.
I would write out what he’s done to make you uncomfortable – recent and major things. Still have the small things documented. Have proof. Iterate that this is to be dealt with anonymously. Do not speak to your coworkers about any of this.
The most dangerous domestic violence offenders strangle their victims. The most violent rapists strangle their victims.
We used to think all abusers were equal. They are not. Our research has now made clear that when a man puts his hands around a woman’s neck, he has just raised his hand and said, “I’M A KILLER.” They are more likely to kill police officers, to kill children, and to later kill their partners. So, when you hear “He choked me,” now we know
YOU ARE AT THE EDGE OF A HOMICIDE.”
~CASEY GWINN Co-Founder, Training Institute on Strangulation Prevention
Get out now! block him on everything! And TESTIFY AGAINST HIM. HE IS A THREAT! None of this “But I don’t want him to have a FelONeY BS.“
Sorry to hear about your breakup. This subreddit is for relationship advice, so even though you haven't asked a question, I'm going to share:
If you need to end a relationship so you can work on yourself, then it's the right thing to do. Ultimately, breaking up with someone is never “wrong” and you're never obligated to stay in a relationship. But it's not cool to decide what's best for your partner without consulting them. Two adults in a relationship need to be able to trust themselves and each other to advocate for their own needs and make their own choices.
If your partner couldn't be trusted to advocate for himself, then hopefully he improves on that.
If he was capable of making his own decisions and you made one for him anyway, then you should add that to the list of things you need to work on.
Nah I kind of agree with him and I am confused that people validate you. I am always trying to re read the whole thing and change genders. If a man wrote that he would be posted in the nice guy sup and would be shredded to pieces and mocked.
1,5 month into dating most people don’t like to use labels. Some people do but there are people who don’t. You tried to force him to meet your timeline while clearly he wasn’t. If he was a fuck boy he would jump into the dating other people in a snap. He didn’t.
So to be clear your friend died in a car accident (my condolences for your loss) and your wife tells you to get rid of a braclett this friend gifted to you because it is somehow romantic.
In other word your wife is jealous about a dead woman. Tell your wife that this is absurd and she should stop trying to make your loss about her. This is rediculous and shows she is very selfcentred at least right now.
Tell his wife anyway. She might well believe her husband over you; that’s really to be expected. But it’ll still be a question for her, and she’ll be more observant.
I’m convinced that your brother is already having an inappropriate relationship with your ex. He might not have made it to a full blown affair, emotional or physical. But he’s crossed lines that his wife would probably have concerns about. She deserves to be informed.
We both want lots of kids. Also I’m still a virgin and we’ve been together for 6 months so if it was just about the sex for him then I doubt he’d still be here lol
He's not going to be able to provide for that child without a degree. He should not have to suffer and live with regret his whole life because of one bad choice. If it were my son I'd be there in a heartbeat
No I wouldn’t pay their rent because if he can’t manage money enough to live on unemployment and food stamps till he finds a new job then he needs to evaluate why he can’t afford rent. Unemployment is not there as free money to do your normal habits it’s there to cover the bare necessities.
You have basically already given yourself all the good advice you could hope to get by posting here, so what are you looking for exactly? You just need to follow through.
You obviously care about your ex's well-being and want to continue acting as a supporting figue in her life, but your good intentions only make a difference if your ex is also willing to actively accept the support you are offering, and right now she clearly isn't.
She leans on you still because she knows she can, and she lies to you because she knows and has learnt from experience that she can do that without consequences, and that's really all there is to it.
As much as you want to be there for her, she is just not your responsibility. She wasn't when she was your girlfriend and she isn't now either. If you ever worry for her safety and thinks she might be in danger, you can and should call emergency services. If you don't worry enough to do that, then that should be all you need to recognise that something about this feeling is just misplaced.
So stop transitioning to other things….. use your words and ask her to keep going. If she says no then stop sex at that moment and talk to her about it again and ask her why she doesn’t want to.
OP, I don't know if you're still reading comments, but I hope you are doing okay and have someone you can trust to lean on right now. As for loving your wife, that's going to take a while to get over.
But think of it this way… what you're grieving is a dream that's been ripped away. The future you envisioned has irreversibly changed. The children, grandchildren, holidays, and vacations are all overshadowed by her infidelity. The trust is gone even if your love remains and it will twist that future into an ugly, bitter thing. You deserve better than that, everyone does.
Please take care of yourself, OP. I wish you the best.
Mine tried to tell me it was for friends, no one uses fucking tinder for friends, it's hookup. Don't give her a second chance , your future self will thank you. The. Proceed to download tinder yourself.
Because half the people on this sub are complete disasters of insecurity and jealousy.
With their mindset, a bisexual partner could have ZERO friends. You could never go confide in someone, grab a bite to eat, go for a walk, hang out inside when one is feeling bad.
Because all these immature people can think about is getting cheated on. Which is either very telling of the partners they choose, or of their complete and total insecurity in the relationship
Her vagina and mouth have regularly and repeatedly been stabbed by that guy's rock hard schlong and filled with his jizz while she screamed and creamed, all the while she was telling you sweet nothings and it was just texting and nothing happened.
If that though disturbs you, good, that's what happened before and it's happening again now. She's lying to you and you're lapping it up.
Move the fuck on this time and make it permanent. She doesn't deserve another chance to fuck you over yet again.
The ending of a relationship doesn't require to yeses. Just one. You've checked out of the relationship where you needs weren't met now finish it and cut contact. It's the kinder thing to do than dragging it out.
With your update, do not move forward in this relationship. He has some idea that his children should automatically take more science and math courses without actually even considering that his children may have different personalities, interests, etc. He is trying to map their life out for it/them before even being born. It sounds like he is dead set on this and it even surprised him to even consider that any child of his wouldn’t be interested in following in his footsteps. He is setting himself up, and his future children, for disappointment and failure. What if the child prefers the arts? Or wants to be a lawyer? Or prefers literature? How will he react or treat his child if he can’t even have a conversation with you about it in an open manner? How is your child going to feel if their father pushes all of this on them? And if your child does have different interests, and you agree to him having control over the education aspect, is he going to use this against you if you push to try to allow your child to pursue their interests? Would he force your child’s interests aside and continue to push what he believes is the “right education path”? This will end badly if he can’t understand that your children are not just an extension of the two of you, but they will be their own individuals and have their own likes and dislikes…
I dont hate porn. I watch in on occasion, it has interesting stories tbh. The plot ideas is so creative at times hahah. Though the sex site is out of hand-
Like said i dont think porn is bad but too much is crossing the line. Like how can a guy subscribe to a whole bunch of porn sites . Like pick 3 and go?.
She sees a therapist monthly (i think). She's been through a LOT the past year BEFORE I met her. Knowing what I know about that (irrelevant to the above story so not going to share), it would make sense that those events impact the way she feels about herself. Nobody on earth deserves to have happen what happened to her.
OP, this is not one, but a series of red flags. He's controlling and he's using his purported past experience (which you don't even know is true) to control you.
A couple of things:
“Boundaries” are very specific things. You set boundaries FOR YOURSELF. YOU DO NOT SET THEM FOR SOMEONE ELSE. Why? Because you are not that person. When you set boundaries for someone else, you are asserting ownership over that person, saying that they are essentially you. Nope. It doesn't work that way. You set boundaries for yourself AGAINST that person and that person sets boundaries for themselves AGAINST you. If you are in a couple, the two of you, as a couple, can set boundaries for your relationship. BUT, firstly you have to do it together, i.e. agree and nobody be manipulated or coerced into it. Secondly, the “boundaries” are ONLY about how other people or institutions intrude into your relationship. That's it. That's all you two can set boundaries on. So you and your partner can both say: kissing and flirting belong only inside our relationship; neither of us can flirt with or kiss other people. But neither of you can say “you can't spend time with your friends when you're not with me” because that doesn't intrude on your relationship, even though he will try to make a case that it does. It can be hard sometimes to find the edge of where a couple boundary intrudes upon a personal boundary, especially when your partner is manipulating you. But if your gut says he's controlling you, HE'S CONTROLLING YOU.
Thanks! I agree 100%. Time to do some reflecting and stop being a doormat.
You're an idiot for even remotely thinking this is funny in any way possible and you're and even bigger idiot for dating this guy and not being scared about your dogs health. This is animal abuse.
Bro don’t lay your hopes on just one girl.. there’s millions of girls out there. Get back on the horse my guy.
Its not going to go away OP.
I think we need some more info on your wife’s side of things. Does she want to lose the weight but doesn’t have the capacity e.g doing all the housework, liking after kids?
First comment: imagine if this was reversed and you found a video of her. Everyone here would say to get over it it happened before you everyone has a past etc etc.
But in all seriousness.. what was the video about? I'm imagining there's certain things you just wouldn't recover from
OP, it's your ex. What they do is actually no longer any of your business. In fact, once you stop paying so much attention to what they are doing and who they are talking to, you'll be able to start the healing process. It might feel right now like you'll never find someone else who's right for you, but give it time. Eventually you will move on, and find a new, more compatible partner to date.
It's normal to feel upset and resentful after a breakup you didn't want. But you don't want to nurse those bad feelings and keep stalking your ex on social media indefinitely. As long as you are all wrapped up in what your ex is doing with someone else, you'll remain emotionally stuck, angry, and frustrated. Is that really how you want to live? Why not choose happiness instead? Call a friend up RIGHT NOW. Tell them that you need them to take you out for a good time and keep you distracted for a while, so you can stop ruminating about your stupid ex. Rinse and repeat as needed, until your ex is cleared out of your short-term memory banks. I wish you well.
The boyfriend has been there for 1 year—your hopes and dreams for MUCH longer. Yes, it’s tough. Yes, at some point you’ll need to take time for you, but you are so very young to feel you must put him ahead of your career. Stay the course.
Yes. He’s a sociopath.
What are you going to do about it?
The baby is 2 weeks old. Where the mom goes so does the baby and no one is going to force her to go back or separate the mother from the baby in this case. You're a self absorbed idiot if that concept alludes you. Grow up and go to the MIL house because you've made it clear the only issue is MIL doesn't like you (wonder why) and talk to your wife. Apologize for your reaction and for not being there for her. Tell her you misspoke and fully trust her to be a good mother.
Google attachment style. Commitment issues often are do to that. Also as for your interest in sex, it could be you have low libido, you could be asexual, or you could have trauma that’s getting in the way. Might be worth exploring all that to get a sense of what’s going on with you and if you’re cool with it or if it’s something you want to work on.
He seems to have no respect for you. “Relax, I'm having a dinner and I'll come home.” At midnight is absurd. They're acting like you're a problem.
Yes
I don’t think you understand the pain of not having a relationship. It’s hollowness, thinking of offing yourself all day. If it would be better off. It’s an everyday thing. I just want to hold hands and sleep on hammocks and do what i should be doing. I don’t want to be an outlier any longer. I should be going on dates and camping trips and biking trips and watching Netflix with a girl. That’s all thst matters to me. If I’m watching somebody else post about their happiness on snapchat it angers me that I’m not doing thst
I’m 28f and one of my closest friends is 46m and we always gas each other up, but it NEVER crosses a line. It’s like “hey you’ll find what you’re looking for because you’re smart, attractive,fun” etc and that’s how friends do and should talk to each other. This is a weird dynamic all around that you’re talking about though…
Remindme! 4 weeks updateme!
Just a guess, but maybe there”s an underlying resentment of his stepfather. Maybe he’s just biding his time until he takes over the business, but I would guess his wife has a huge part in this because maybe he confided in her. All just speculation, just ask when you’re alone.
January 1st will be 3 years without a puff. I have the dreams a couple times a week!!! I was wondering how long they last for. I usually feel really guilty in my dreams after. I’m always thinking about how I had to start my streak all over again after all that time.
What is your home environment like?
What is their bedroom situation? How much have you welcomed them into this home and to you as a new Stepmother?
I'm just a reddit stranger but I do know that kids are intuitive and can sense when they are not welcomed/wanted.
Are there lots of arguments or is your house very peaceful?
Neither of you seem emotionally mature enough for this relationship.
Ok this is crazy. I can see not being able to want sex with my husband after witnessing that. He needs insight on how wrong it is. Definitely see about couples counseling to get it all out.
Think before you speak. Consider her point of view. Avoid the argument altogether. Relationships are about compromise, not winning arguments or complaining to point of causing them.
Just imagine how stupid the average person is. Now realise that HALF of all people are more stupid than that.
There is no reason to disbelieve this story.
I take all on Reddit at face value, I help where I can, and if I waste a few mins on someone's creative writing…. So what? Someone in a similar situation may see it and it may help them.
We live in the hope, that tomorrow, is a little better than today.
Its not that she “doesn't want her husband to be romantically involved with other women”
Its that she “doesn't want her husband to be romantically involved with any woman.”
Its crazy because she doesnt want to be romantically involved with her husband. She is monogamous, but it doesnt sound like her husband is. And if she's only interested in an asexual plutonic marriage, thats fine, but its unreasonable to demand he suddenly become asexually celibate too.
Nothing wrong with being asexual. Every sexuality is valid. But its wrong force other people to adopt your sexuality.
That’s the way I look at it, but living in the southeastern United States, most don’t…
And yet you’re emotionally cheating on your husband now
Rede sonst einfach nochmal mit ihm und verklicker ihm, ohne dass er dich unterbricht, wie dumm das war und dass ihr eben nicht in einer Sitcom seit. Das was er gemacht hat kranker war als du in dem moment (joke intented). Er meinte halt, er würde es wieder tun, also sag ihm dass er das eben NICHT und Nie wieder machen soll. Ich hoffe einfach er checkts, weil wenn nicht und er beharrt darauf dass er es definitiv wieder macht, dann würde ich weg.
Blackmail is a criminal offense. Tell his wife and move on. Also the fat shaming is really unattractive.
I have heard of fitness trainers hooking up with clients, but I had never heard of such an overt monetary/transactional offer as if the person was in a cheap massage parlor or something. WOW. I think this situation is a great opportunity to discuss the situations that OP and her bf go through at work and how they think they should be handled, how boundaries are set, and even safeguards to put in place (what if OP had a client who could not accept a “no” and escalated things?).
I’m so relieved that your manager had your back last time, and I’m sorry you’ve dealt with this before.
I would write out what he’s done to make you uncomfortable – recent and major things. Still have the small things documented. Have proof. Iterate that this is to be dealt with anonymously. Do not speak to your coworkers about any of this.
The most dangerous domestic violence offenders strangle their victims. The most violent rapists strangle their victims.
We used to think all abusers were equal. They are not. Our research has now made clear that when a man puts his hands around a woman’s neck, he has just raised his hand and said, “I’M A KILLER.” They are more likely to kill police officers, to kill children, and to later kill their partners. So, when you hear “He choked me,” now we know
YOU ARE AT THE EDGE OF A HOMICIDE.”
~CASEY GWINN Co-Founder, Training Institute on Strangulation Prevention
Get out now! block him on everything! And TESTIFY AGAINST HIM. HE IS A THREAT! None of this “But I don’t want him to have a FelONeY BS.“
I'm surprised you're still attracted to her after she got a buzzcut
Sorry to hear about your breakup. This subreddit is for relationship advice, so even though you haven't asked a question, I'm going to share:
If you need to end a relationship so you can work on yourself, then it's the right thing to do. Ultimately, breaking up with someone is never “wrong” and you're never obligated to stay in a relationship. But it's not cool to decide what's best for your partner without consulting them. Two adults in a relationship need to be able to trust themselves and each other to advocate for their own needs and make their own choices.
If your partner couldn't be trusted to advocate for himself, then hopefully he improves on that.
If he was capable of making his own decisions and you made one for him anyway, then you should add that to the list of things you need to work on.
Nah I kind of agree with him and I am confused that people validate you. I am always trying to re read the whole thing and change genders. If a man wrote that he would be posted in the nice guy sup and would be shredded to pieces and mocked.
1,5 month into dating most people don’t like to use labels. Some people do but there are people who don’t. You tried to force him to meet your timeline while clearly he wasn’t. If he was a fuck boy he would jump into the dating other people in a snap. He didn’t.
You leaving him is a favour
So, men need to knock it the fuck off. Stop sexualizing women just living their damn lives.
So to be clear your friend died in a car accident (my condolences for your loss) and your wife tells you to get rid of a braclett this friend gifted to you because it is somehow romantic.
In other word your wife is jealous about a dead woman. Tell your wife that this is absurd and she should stop trying to make your loss about her. This is rediculous and shows she is very selfcentred at least right now.
Tell his wife anyway. She might well believe her husband over you; that’s really to be expected. But it’ll still be a question for her, and she’ll be more observant.
I’m convinced that your brother is already having an inappropriate relationship with your ex. He might not have made it to a full blown affair, emotional or physical. But he’s crossed lines that his wife would probably have concerns about. She deserves to be informed.
He's 31. I mean, I wouldn't blame you ??♀️
Why does your wife think this is your problem and not something you need to tackle together?
Lmfao yeah you're definitely projecting to be that specific. Therapy can help and you're never too old for it
Run and regather your relationship with your father
We both want lots of kids. Also I’m still a virgin and we’ve been together for 6 months so if it was just about the sex for him then I doubt he’d still be here lol
He's not going to be able to provide for that child without a degree. He should not have to suffer and live with regret his whole life because of one bad choice. If it were my son I'd be there in a heartbeat
Yes this is moving too fast and you will both lose yourselves in this relationship. Which will cause problems down the road.
Make sure you allow time to yourself, for healing and self-discovery.
Try having 3-4 days no contact, with a plan to meet up after that time and discuss how you feel after some time alone to process.
I know it feels good now but it’s just not sustainable. If you want this to be a healthy, long term relationship, slow down.
No I wouldn’t pay their rent because if he can’t manage money enough to live on unemployment and food stamps till he finds a new job then he needs to evaluate why he can’t afford rent. Unemployment is not there as free money to do your normal habits it’s there to cover the bare necessities.
You have basically already given yourself all the good advice you could hope to get by posting here, so what are you looking for exactly? You just need to follow through.
You obviously care about your ex's well-being and want to continue acting as a supporting figue in her life, but your good intentions only make a difference if your ex is also willing to actively accept the support you are offering, and right now she clearly isn't.
She leans on you still because she knows she can, and she lies to you because she knows and has learnt from experience that she can do that without consequences, and that's really all there is to it.
As much as you want to be there for her, she is just not your responsibility. She wasn't when she was your girlfriend and she isn't now either. If you ever worry for her safety and thinks she might be in danger, you can and should call emergency services. If you don't worry enough to do that, then that should be all you need to recognise that something about this feeling is just misplaced.
So stop transitioning to other things….. use your words and ask her to keep going. If she says no then stop sex at that moment and talk to her about it again and ask her why she doesn’t want to.
The bit I found strange. He had sex in his car but then went to a hotel.
OP, I don't know if you're still reading comments, but I hope you are doing okay and have someone you can trust to lean on right now. As for loving your wife, that's going to take a while to get over.
But think of it this way… what you're grieving is a dream that's been ripped away. The future you envisioned has irreversibly changed. The children, grandchildren, holidays, and vacations are all overshadowed by her infidelity. The trust is gone even if your love remains and it will twist that future into an ugly, bitter thing. You deserve better than that, everyone does.
Please take care of yourself, OP. I wish you the best.
Mine tried to tell me it was for friends, no one uses fucking tinder for friends, it's hookup. Don't give her a second chance , your future self will thank you. The. Proceed to download tinder yourself.
You discussed a fantasy with her and she’s found a framework that would make it feel safe and possible for her.
If you don’t want that then make it clear and shelve the idea altogether
This would be the action of an absolute savage, and I like that about you, deepayes. ?
That's a bizarre leap from nowhere
Because half the people on this sub are complete disasters of insecurity and jealousy.
With their mindset, a bisexual partner could have ZERO friends. You could never go confide in someone, grab a bite to eat, go for a walk, hang out inside when one is feeling bad.
Because all these immature people can think about is getting cheated on. Which is either very telling of the partners they choose, or of their complete and total insecurity in the relationship
Her vagina and mouth have regularly and repeatedly been stabbed by that guy's rock hard schlong and filled with his jizz while she screamed and creamed, all the while she was telling you sweet nothings and it was just texting and nothing happened.
If that though disturbs you, good, that's what happened before and it's happening again now. She's lying to you and you're lapping it up.
Move the fuck on this time and make it permanent. She doesn't deserve another chance to fuck you over yet again.
Doormat. Get gym and therapy. It gets better, don't worry
Leave him and tell him he better start saving up for a “real doll”.
The mocking would’ve been enough for me to kick him out of my house. That’s not respectful or healthy.
He wouldn’t have even gotten the chance to tell me to shut the fuck up.
There is someone out there that cares about how you feel and won’t mock your words or feelings. Find them.
…nope, flick him. You deserve better x 100,000,000%
The ending of a relationship doesn't require to yeses. Just one. You've checked out of the relationship where you needs weren't met now finish it and cut contact. It's the kinder thing to do than dragging it out.
This is so absurd considering she broke up with me
Yes, it is. And just imagine what a nightmare she would be to deal with as your baby mama.
With your update, do not move forward in this relationship. He has some idea that his children should automatically take more science and math courses without actually even considering that his children may have different personalities, interests, etc. He is trying to map their life out for it/them before even being born. It sounds like he is dead set on this and it even surprised him to even consider that any child of his wouldn’t be interested in following in his footsteps. He is setting himself up, and his future children, for disappointment and failure. What if the child prefers the arts? Or wants to be a lawyer? Or prefers literature? How will he react or treat his child if he can’t even have a conversation with you about it in an open manner? How is your child going to feel if their father pushes all of this on them? And if your child does have different interests, and you agree to him having control over the education aspect, is he going to use this against you if you push to try to allow your child to pursue their interests? Would he force your child’s interests aside and continue to push what he believes is the “right education path”? This will end badly if he can’t understand that your children are not just an extension of the two of you, but they will be their own individuals and have their own likes and dislikes…
I dont hate porn. I watch in on occasion, it has interesting stories tbh. The plot ideas is so creative at times hahah. Though the sex site is out of hand-
Like said i dont think porn is bad but too much is crossing the line. Like how can a guy subscribe to a whole bunch of porn sites . Like pick 3 and go?.
There is so much wrong with this.
First, nobody joins Tinder to try and meet friends lol. You are old enough to already know what Tinder is for.
Second, you saw him naked with another guy and still didn't figure out what was happening.
Third, you found out he was cheating on you, didn't break up with him, and then agree to an open relationship which you didn't really want.
Fourth, he's fucking other guys in your house and then stops you from going on a date even though the open relationship was his idea.
Fifth, he only….ehh, I'm tired of typing. It's over. Break up already. This is unfixable.
She sees a therapist monthly (i think). She's been through a LOT the past year BEFORE I met her. Knowing what I know about that (irrelevant to the above story so not going to share), it would make sense that those events impact the way she feels about herself. Nobody on earth deserves to have happen what happened to her.
OP, this is not one, but a series of red flags. He's controlling and he's using his purported past experience (which you don't even know is true) to control you.
A couple of things:
“Boundaries” are very specific things. You set boundaries FOR YOURSELF. YOU DO NOT SET THEM FOR SOMEONE ELSE. Why? Because you are not that person. When you set boundaries for someone else, you are asserting ownership over that person, saying that they are essentially you. Nope. It doesn't work that way. You set boundaries for yourself AGAINST that person and that person sets boundaries for themselves AGAINST you. If you are in a couple, the two of you, as a couple, can set boundaries for your relationship. BUT, firstly you have to do it together, i.e. agree and nobody be manipulated or coerced into it. Secondly, the “boundaries” are ONLY about how other people or institutions intrude into your relationship. That's it. That's all you two can set boundaries on. So you and your partner can both say: kissing and flirting belong only inside our relationship; neither of us can flirt with or kiss other people. But neither of you can say “you can't spend time with your friends when you're not with me” because that doesn't intrude on your relationship, even though he will try to make a case that it does. It can be hard sometimes to find the edge of where a couple boundary intrudes upon a personal boundary, especially when your partner is manipulating you. But if your gut says he's controlling you, HE'S CONTROLLING YOU.
In conclusion: DTMFA.