You need to talk but her actions kinda talk that she is moving on. But it's been 8 years and shared life and words need to be said.
Also if it's her house you technically don't need to repair anything, and to be fair your 50% of pay and her 50% of her pay should go towards bills groceries going out etc. If you open a separate shared account ofor stuff that will only go to that might fix things. All fashioned therapy also might help. But you need to talk to her right away. Either you have a future or you break of completely. It needs to be said.
Okay woah, agreed that he needs to talk about what happened, but the level of intimacy is where the real question is. OP's been really careful to not explicitly say what cuddling means, so I think “cuddling” isn't the right word.
Because like I've said, cuddling is totally neutral. I cuddle my kid, my cat and inanimate objects and don't have any kind of “oh did I cheat on my SO” reaction. Cuddling isn't the bad guy in the situation, cuddling rocks and we should honestly cuddle a lot more, but in this situation it's bad.
You “can't” tell your boyfriend because you did cheat on him. You went out with your ex, got drunk and did coke and now you're lying to your boyfriend about it.
you're right. I haven't left because I feel like I was giving up so soon and it's only been a month so he hasn't gotten a chance to get accustomed to dating me. I guess I was trying to see if things would get better, but I guess we're just not compatible like that.
i don't get why people get upset that they share sex life stuff. is this only an American thing? i mean if you see a couple with a child you can be pretty sure they had sex, how is it different if my girl just tell her girls she had sex?
No what’s “dramatic” is getting “uncomfortable” over a situation happen years ago. I’m pretty sure the bf been gotten over the ordeal before he met OP. If he would cheat, he’s going to cheat. He don’t need a female friend to do it. This is controlling af.
Thank you very much
You need to talk but her actions kinda talk that she is moving on. But it's been 8 years and shared life and words need to be said.
Also if it's her house you technically don't need to repair anything, and to be fair your 50% of pay and her 50% of her pay should go towards bills groceries going out etc. If you open a separate shared account ofor stuff that will only go to that might fix things. All fashioned therapy also might help. But you need to talk to her right away. Either you have a future or you break of completely. It needs to be said.
You know when it's time to go when you came to reddit to ask this question. Good luck to you
Okay woah, agreed that he needs to talk about what happened, but the level of intimacy is where the real question is. OP's been really careful to not explicitly say what cuddling means, so I think “cuddling” isn't the right word.
Because like I've said, cuddling is totally neutral. I cuddle my kid, my cat and inanimate objects and don't have any kind of “oh did I cheat on my SO” reaction. Cuddling isn't the bad guy in the situation, cuddling rocks and we should honestly cuddle a lot more, but in this situation it's bad.
No I’m talking about the timing of the comments
You “can't” tell your boyfriend because you did cheat on him. You went out with your ex, got drunk and did coke and now you're lying to your boyfriend about it.
Break up with your boyfriend and get help.
I am wondering this too.
you're right. I haven't left because I feel like I was giving up so soon and it's only been a month so he hasn't gotten a chance to get accustomed to dating me. I guess I was trying to see if things would get better, but I guess we're just not compatible like that.
i don't get why people get upset that they share sex life stuff. is this only an American thing? i mean if you see a couple with a child you can be pretty sure they had sex, how is it different if my girl just tell her girls she had sex?
So what action should one take in this situation?
How can I get over this without leaving? This guy is a coworker too, so now I have to wonder what's happening at work with this guy, if anything.
Do I just nuke the relationship and leave? Or do I wait for an apology, and leave if I don't get one?
No what’s “dramatic” is getting “uncomfortable” over a situation happen years ago. I’m pretty sure the bf been gotten over the ordeal before he met OP. If he would cheat, he’s going to cheat. He don’t need a female friend to do it. This is controlling af.
If the children are yours, why was he discussing his last wishes for them with someone besides you? That’s the mysterious bit.
Leave it on read. Don’t feel guilty because you didn’t know. Move on.