So he purposely ignored him because he was hungry. He wouldn’t do that to his boss though would he? How comfortable does he have to be before he ignores you too bc “I was in the middle of something” “I’m busy”. He sacrificed 2 seconds of personal interaction making him rude to a service worker in front of the woman he was trying to impress. This is him on his best behaviour trying to impress.
That’s fair, I think next I’ll go with her and be a bit more firm. I hate smelling bad especially working with kids I try not to be to hard on her because I know she’s had a rough life
There was a post several weeks ago from a dad who was disappointed that his daughter decided to STAY in the Navy and not come home to work in the family business. Maybe these two dads should switch kids.
If you dont reply him with his follow up questions, you may appear to hv lied. Reply him, but mention to ask him to give your sister a chance to prove herself a changed person.
Polyamory is becoming more open, though it depends entirely on where you live.
If you wanted to still keep it private you could always tell others you got a housemate to help with the cost of living.
As to whether it’s a good idea for your marriage, that’s up to you. Lifestyle is totally different from occasional play, emotions become much more important, and you can’t just kick them out if you or your husband change your minds. They are another person, not a toy, and their feelings and wants need to be respected as well.
I think it is something to be taken very seriously and perhaps entered into slowly if you do decide to try it.
In the same way that you wouldn’t jump straight into living with a new partner you should probably find someone first and “date” them for a while before bringing them into your home and marriage.
I think you should tell her – have you maybe also considered telling your mom first? If you think it will come out it might be better if she hears the truth from you, before she gets hearsay and rumours from elsewhere.
As for you – this is clearly eating you up, and also this guy has been stringing you along and keeping you from moving on with your life for years and years. He’s utter trash and scum. You, in my opinion, are not. You’ve done something really stupid and really really terrible, but eventually you have to come to a place where you can forgive yourself. (And I don’t care if I get downvoted to shit for this, in my opinion the person who cheats on their partner is always more to blame.)
Well they all just start telling me how since he’s a personal trainer and he’s most likely sleeping with every girl at the gym, they told me that he probably dates all the girls at the gym, they also told me how he only wants to sleep with me
They can't possibly know all or any of the above. It's just guesswork. They're just going “personal trainer=DTF.” Nice way to shit on a whole career.
The only person who can work out if he's only in it for the sex is you. There's lots of people who are not personal trainers that just want sex, just as there's lots that aren't.
You either respect her wishes or move on to find someone who will want children with you. If you force her to have a child, she may well end up resenting you and the child
I don’t want him to find me repulsive, but I don’t feel particularly sexy. I get that he likes my body, but being pregnant doesn’t necessarily make me feel sensual.
Bit late to the party here, but where I live there are two storey houses that have a sizeable living space on top and below. In a lot of the bigger ones, both areas can have bathrooms and kitchens, and most commonly these houses are used for having a lot of renters or a family on top and renters on the bottom. Could this be a viable solution? Having a house that's split so the rent is affordable between you/him and his mum but you each have your own spaces and can set boundaries of use (I.e. mum don't come around unannounced or after 8pm etc..) or could he use his money to renovate and divide a house?
Lol I was in the same boat just gotta get of this sub Reddit for a bit. The cheating stories will take a toll after a while but trust me their are plenty men and women who despise cheating.
Hard same. I’m a heavy smoker but 100% always sober at work. Fuuuuck being stupid for my work day. I wanna bust that out so I can go home, toke up, and relax lol
Just because they're not entitled to be in a grandchild's life doesn't mean they won't try and force the issue. It's actually very common. Furthermore, ignorance helps no one.
Get one of his hairs and send it to a lab for a drug screening. His reaction is weird. To make your question public feels a little like a warning to the others: “she is onto us. Be careful“
Girl no. He 100% did come with his buddy. I would bet money on it. There’s also no way he would’ve reacted like that had he really not been doing coke. He would just reassure you and move on. His behavior is entirely indicative of trying to cover up his own coke usage by dragging you through the dirt
But to be fair that was her snooping which is an issue or red flag on its own but since it wasn’t directed to her we can’t say this is something’s meant to offend. Yea it’s hurtful but the intent could not have been there to hurt her.
“you're welcome, love you!” , this isn't hard. I'm very confused by the comment section. If she wants to keep doing it she will, if she doesn't she won't.
Most men want sex. Most men don't want to be bad guys and break a vow to someone they care about. So the average guy doesn't want to cheat, but may want what the cheating offers : sex.
Reports of male marital infidelity vary wildly – from 20-50%, depending on your source.
Take that information and do with it what you like.
Well, I'd apologize for the assumption. The guy was being friendly. That's not flirting. Just saying hey is not flirting. That was pretty presumptuous. You've made it awkward and the only thing to do is apologize.
Don’t buy houses with GFs. If you do, your name only
Right so the issue is that your girlfriend doesn't want to move out.
So he purposely ignored him because he was hungry. He wouldn’t do that to his boss though would he? How comfortable does he have to be before he ignores you too bc “I was in the middle of something” “I’m busy”. He sacrificed 2 seconds of personal interaction making him rude to a service worker in front of the woman he was trying to impress. This is him on his best behaviour trying to impress.
That’s fair, I think next I’ll go with her and be a bit more firm. I hate smelling bad especially working with kids I try not to be to hard on her because I know she’s had a rough life
Or a family she might start. Her parents are selfish.
There was a post several weeks ago from a dad who was disappointed that his daughter decided to STAY in the Navy and not come home to work in the family business. Maybe these two dads should switch kids.
If you dont reply him with his follow up questions, you may appear to hv lied. Reply him, but mention to ask him to give your sister a chance to prove herself a changed person.
Polyamory is becoming more open, though it depends entirely on where you live.
If you wanted to still keep it private you could always tell others you got a housemate to help with the cost of living.
As to whether it’s a good idea for your marriage, that’s up to you. Lifestyle is totally different from occasional play, emotions become much more important, and you can’t just kick them out if you or your husband change your minds. They are another person, not a toy, and their feelings and wants need to be respected as well.
I think it is something to be taken very seriously and perhaps entered into slowly if you do decide to try it.
In the same way that you wouldn’t jump straight into living with a new partner you should probably find someone first and “date” them for a while before bringing them into your home and marriage.
Yep don’t do that to your kids! Show them what a healthy relationship should look like.
you sound incompatible tbh. move on before you get attached. he isn't going to communicate with you the way you want.
And how was she supposed to know that from what's been shared here?
She's not a mind reader. He's jerking her around because of his own embarrassment.
Makes me sick to think about. The idea of them being targeted by trash men just because they know women their own age won't put up with their crap.
I think you should tell her – have you maybe also considered telling your mom first? If you think it will come out it might be better if she hears the truth from you, before she gets hearsay and rumours from elsewhere.
As for you – this is clearly eating you up, and also this guy has been stringing you along and keeping you from moving on with your life for years and years. He’s utter trash and scum. You, in my opinion, are not. You’ve done something really stupid and really really terrible, but eventually you have to come to a place where you can forgive yourself. (And I don’t care if I get downvoted to shit for this, in my opinion the person who cheats on their partner is always more to blame.)
It baffles me what women are willing to put up with sometimes. Yes leave him.
Well they all just start telling me how since he’s a personal trainer and he’s most likely sleeping with every girl at the gym, they told me that he probably dates all the girls at the gym, they also told me how he only wants to sleep with me
They can't possibly know all or any of the above. It's just guesswork. They're just going “personal trainer=DTF.” Nice way to shit on a whole career.
The only person who can work out if he's only in it for the sex is you. There's lots of people who are not personal trainers that just want sex, just as there's lots that aren't.
You either respect her wishes or move on to find someone who will want children with you. If you force her to have a child, she may well end up resenting you and the child
Never sec but we argue about if that’s “cheating”
Tf you talking about
I don’t want him to find me repulsive, but I don’t feel particularly sexy. I get that he likes my body, but being pregnant doesn’t necessarily make me feel sensual.
Bit late to the party here, but where I live there are two storey houses that have a sizeable living space on top and below. In a lot of the bigger ones, both areas can have bathrooms and kitchens, and most commonly these houses are used for having a lot of renters or a family on top and renters on the bottom. Could this be a viable solution? Having a house that's split so the rent is affordable between you/him and his mum but you each have your own spaces and can set boundaries of use (I.e. mum don't come around unannounced or after 8pm etc..) or could he use his money to renovate and divide a house?
Lol I was in the same boat just gotta get of this sub Reddit for a bit. The cheating stories will take a toll after a while but trust me their are plenty men and women who despise cheating.
Block both of them.
Will try.
I’m already out here. But shit I doubt I’ll come back
It feels like she forced him into being a relationship, but that’s just my own opinions.
They def need to break up though. Convenience isn’t worth this headache.
Hard same. I’m a heavy smoker but 100% always sober at work. Fuuuuck being stupid for my work day. I wanna bust that out so I can go home, toke up, and relax lol
Two separate & unequal betrayals.
You: “Babe, I have a confession. I went through your phone. I know it was a massive breach, and I’m truly sorry.”
Him: “Why would you do that? I’m great & trustworthy! I’m appalled by your dishonesty. How can I forgive this betrayal?”
You: “I know, I know. I’m the worst ever. Please! I’m begging you! Forgive me!”
Him: “Of course I forgive you, my love. How could I not?”
You:”Phew. Now that we’ve got that out of the way, let’s talk about your serial infidelity. How many other guys have you fucked this week?”
Point is, don’t allow him to turn your snooping into an equal sin. It’s not. Especially since he’s lying to you.
I'm sorry you're going through this… you can't make them be involved though :/
Just because they're not entitled to be in a grandchild's life doesn't mean they won't try and force the issue. It's actually very common. Furthermore, ignorance helps no one.
Well I’m getting downvoted to Hell for thinking that, lol
You have a professional telling you all of this. Listen to them.
Get one of his hairs and send it to a lab for a drug screening. His reaction is weird. To make your question public feels a little like a warning to the others: “she is onto us. Be careful“
Girl no. He 100% did come with his buddy. I would bet money on it. There’s also no way he would’ve reacted like that had he really not been doing coke. He would just reassure you and move on. His behavior is entirely indicative of trying to cover up his own coke usage by dragging you through the dirt
But to be fair that was her snooping which is an issue or red flag on its own but since it wasn’t directed to her we can’t say this is something’s meant to offend. Yea it’s hurtful but the intent could not have been there to hurt her.
Nah, never be a secret and find someone who is proud of being with you.
And maybe look for someone out of their teens.
“you're welcome, love you!” , this isn't hard. I'm very confused by the comment section. If she wants to keep doing it she will, if she doesn't she won't.
Most men want sex. Most men don't want to be bad guys and break a vow to someone they care about. So the average guy doesn't want to cheat, but may want what the cheating offers : sex.
Reports of male marital infidelity vary wildly – from 20-50%, depending on your source.
Take that information and do with it what you like.
You shouldn’t have snooped. That’s so wrong. But.. now that you know he cheats, I would leave.
Well, I'd apologize for the assumption. The guy was being friendly. That's not flirting. Just saying hey is not flirting. That was pretty presumptuous. You've made it awkward and the only thing to do is apologize.
You break up.
Can you enlighten me about it?
In a couple of months’ time “I gave my wife of 6 years a hall pass and now she won’t stop sleeping with the other man”
Yeah, that’s what I’ll do when he gets home from school