Note that I did not say “whatever they want” with no qualifiers. I said “if it’s not hurting anyone else.” Telling a woman that she’s not feminist if she chooses financial dependence to a man for herself is shitty and wrong. The ENTIRE FUCKING POINT is that we should get to choose our own destiny. That includes the freedom to make decisions that other people perceive as “bad.”
You don't genuinely NEED that note, you want it. I'm sure they will eventually give it to you but just as you are shocked, they are too. This is their FAMILY, whatever you are feeling, they have it infinitely worse. They have loved him his entire life while you dated him for a year and broke up with him. For you to compare your loss to theirs is just wrong.
The only thing you can do is show some empathy, get some help for yourself, and wait until they decide to give you the note. They clearly plan to give it to you at some point, otherwise they wouldn't have told you. They are just grieving now and need time.
I'm confused… If you actually trust your partner, then what's the issue? What potential outcome would you fear, if not infidelity? I'm actually baffled about where the problem is, or why the boundary would exist.
Look for legal advice immediately. Also, if your younger daughter is already showing the same behavior as your wife, she's either learning to be an abuser or your wife has a diagnosable condition that your daughter may have inherited.
If your wife has bipolar disorder, it can be passed down to children. In which case, your wife requires a therapist and medication to moderate her illness and likely will for the rest of her life.
Yes, that is odd. He was probably hoping that you would have developed feelings over the time since he mentioned it first until now. So he was hanging on but probably also did think of you as a good friend too. Looks the the romantic feelings won out for him and he confesses…again. And since you turned him down, he won’t be able to adjust seeing you with a bf that is not him. It sucks. I know I was joking in my first comment but it is not an easy situation to be in. Who knows – he may get over in time, especially if he finds himself a girlfriend that is not you.
Exactly. And, frankly, you’re both having a bad impact on your child. Stop showing your kid that this is what a healthy, loving relationship looks like, because this ain’t it. You’re surrounding your kid with toxicity.
Find a different escape…sex with your wife and join a gym…and soon you will trade one addiction for another…a healthier one.
I would run away from you and fast. One too many red flags
Note that I did not say “whatever they want” with no qualifiers. I said “if it’s not hurting anyone else.” Telling a woman that she’s not feminist if she chooses financial dependence to a man for herself is shitty and wrong. The ENTIRE FUCKING POINT is that we should get to choose our own destiny. That includes the freedom to make decisions that other people perceive as “bad.”
My experience is that when they are shit or disrespectful to other women, that will be how you are treated as soon as theres no reason not to.
I don't want to have to count on someone loving me or being into me for basic respect and consideration.
You don't genuinely NEED that note, you want it. I'm sure they will eventually give it to you but just as you are shocked, they are too. This is their FAMILY, whatever you are feeling, they have it infinitely worse. They have loved him his entire life while you dated him for a year and broke up with him. For you to compare your loss to theirs is just wrong.
The only thing you can do is show some empathy, get some help for yourself, and wait until they decide to give you the note. They clearly plan to give it to you at some point, otherwise they wouldn't have told you. They are just grieving now and need time.
I'm confused… If you actually trust your partner, then what's the issue? What potential outcome would you fear, if not infidelity? I'm actually baffled about where the problem is, or why the boundary would exist.
Look for legal advice immediately. Also, if your younger daughter is already showing the same behavior as your wife, she's either learning to be an abuser or your wife has a diagnosable condition that your daughter may have inherited.
If your wife has bipolar disorder, it can be passed down to children. In which case, your wife requires a therapist and medication to moderate her illness and likely will for the rest of her life.
Yes, that is odd. He was probably hoping that you would have developed feelings over the time since he mentioned it first until now. So he was hanging on but probably also did think of you as a good friend too. Looks the the romantic feelings won out for him and he confesses…again. And since you turned him down, he won’t be able to adjust seeing you with a bf that is not him. It sucks. I know I was joking in my first comment but it is not an easy situation to be in. Who knows – he may get over in time, especially if he finds himself a girlfriend that is not you.
Exactly. And, frankly, you’re both having a bad impact on your child. Stop showing your kid that this is what a healthy, loving relationship looks like, because this ain’t it. You’re surrounding your kid with toxicity.