Honestly, even biblically speaking, not having your sexual needs met is just as much enough reason for divorce as adultery, adultery being your only other option anyway.
What can no longer be an option is staying with this man. Your kids need a good example of happy parents, & that is neither of you.
It's not even all about assigning blame, it's just the right thing to do. Don't light yourself on fire just to keep others warm.
If you're looking for confirmation that NO, you're not being selfish, & yes, you owe it to yourself & also your kids (who would wanna see their mom happy) to find a healthy relationship, that it's ok to take care of yourself first.
Your relationships consist of two individuals and sometimes we have to accept our differences. Ofcourse your feelings is also valid and it’s good to communicate that, though calling it that is disrespectful and simply does not warrant cooperation.
If he partly in jest offered you get rid of some bathroom decorations I think you should show a sign of good will and take that deal.
And no, you shouldn’t make a trigger warning, you should really just not call it that. It’s sexist to call it that.
You just have to actually stop doing those things for him. My hubby and I have been married 18 years, together for 22. We both work full time. He does his laundry, I do mine. He cleans up his messes, I clean up mine. There are times we do help one another for whatever reason, but it’s definitely more of a 50/50 split. Like he vacuums and takes care of the outside chores (I do the garden beds but he mows and all the rest) and I do more of the fine-tune cleaning like dusting and baseboards as needed.
Oh eff her. I say that as someone who was abused by a woman.
Honestly, even biblically speaking, not having your sexual needs met is just as much enough reason for divorce as adultery, adultery being your only other option anyway.
What can no longer be an option is staying with this man. Your kids need a good example of happy parents, & that is neither of you.
It's not even all about assigning blame, it's just the right thing to do. Don't light yourself on fire just to keep others warm.
If you're looking for confirmation that NO, you're not being selfish, & yes, you owe it to yourself & also your kids (who would wanna see their mom happy) to find a healthy relationship, that it's ok to take care of yourself first.
Your relationships consist of two individuals and sometimes we have to accept our differences. Ofcourse your feelings is also valid and it’s good to communicate that, though calling it that is disrespectful and simply does not warrant cooperation.
If he partly in jest offered you get rid of some bathroom decorations I think you should show a sign of good will and take that deal.
And no, you shouldn’t make a trigger warning, you should really just not call it that. It’s sexist to call it that.
Your bf drinks and drives. Insults you. Belittles you. Doesn't care about your safety. What exactly about him is a keeper?
You just have to actually stop doing those things for him. My hubby and I have been married 18 years, together for 22. We both work full time. He does his laundry, I do mine. He cleans up his messes, I clean up mine. There are times we do help one another for whatever reason, but it’s definitely more of a 50/50 split. Like he vacuums and takes care of the outside chores (I do the garden beds but he mows and all the rest) and I do more of the fine-tune cleaning like dusting and baseboards as needed.
But I would understand if it was just the two of them, but this was the whole group, including her brother and sister