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Tell your mom
Having fantasies normal and fine.
The drinking together and “Bonding” in borderline cheating if not cheating. Tolerate NO DISRESPECT in a marriage.
Sounds like he thinks you're his girlfriend not his FWB. Given he doesn't seem like quality BF material even if you were looking for a relationship I'd recommend thinking it over. Unless he got a magic dick I'd suggest talking to him and moving on
GRAB HIS DICK AND TWIST IT
In all seriousness. Leave.
Just speak to a therapist, don’t do anything that might bring you trouble like your husband thinking you’re cheating
Great Job! I’m so proud of you and your shiny spine!!
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Why are you with him, despite having this wrong cool outdoor type view of him?
Yeah it's weird but unless he gives you a reason to believe it's bullshit then whatever.
It was covid, if they were in a big city i could absolutely see this happening.
Would your children think it’s ok for him to grab your throat? Then neither should you. Time to walk.
Literally yes? Or they could “woman up” too. Do you think just because people feel emotions, which by nature are irrational, they’re not responsible for their actions? Should spouses treat each other badly because they are jealous, or should they work on their jealousy? I don’t know if you’re obtuse of a 15yo but you not seeing how dumb this reply was … I think the point has been clearly made.
Gets cops called on him for looking at 17 year olds
User: b-but they're almost legal and look how perky! You're judging me!
Both of you have a very good point. I’m actually going to meet up with her next year so i’ll use that as the deadline. Thank you for your input!
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It's an excellent reason, the BEST reason. Much better than continuing in a spent relationship, getting miserable until you just go through the motions or one of you cheats.
She's not the same person she was 8 years ago, she's changed. That's what happens. The superficial thing to do would be to stay with someone just because she's been with them since she was a kid, and ruin two lives by not accepting that it's over. She is allowed to end a relationship because it's no longer what she wants. She is allowed to choose how much interaction she wants to have with you going forwards. She has done nothing bad, nothing wrong, nothing to make her an asshole. You have to accept this.
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You’re toxic AF. He’s at his wits end and he needs to leave you before you before you cause real issues in his life.
Also get rid of the victim mentality. The whole woe is me I did so much and he can’t blah blah. He’s shown you who he is countless times and you keep hand feeding him everything he wants. You’re not a victim but a consequence of your own actions. Once you see this you’ll stop giving yourself away.
There are a ton of sales jobs out there, they are one of the last ways to earn a lot of money without a degree. If he’s experienced in our side sales, all he has to do is put himself out there and I guarantee he can land a 50k+ job without having to do a lot of searching.
My last company paid it’s outside salesforce 90k base and up to 1k per contract for a product that’s costs nothing.
The new year is when company’s look at numbers and start making changes, it’s a great time to look.
It’s been very exhausting and while I do realize this may get downvoted, we do keep coming back to each other. I’m working on rebuilding trust with him and I don’t really keep tabs, I don’t snoop his media or even follow him on instagram or TikTok. He travels several times a month and takes people out for dinner and drinks regularly, sometimes women included. Internally, I feel discomfort with this but I keep that to myself. This situation in particular crossed a big line for me. Apparently he’s been working on making this happen for several months and only decided to bring it up after the phone call to officially hire her last night. Sounds like he took the “ask for forgiveness, not permission” approach. He knew I would not be on board with it.
Graham it’s New Years Eve so make a resolution to get a life!!!!!!!
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I meeean.. I’m surprised he hasn’t tried oral.
Yes, he's completely full of shit. He just wanted to hurt you. Now that you think he's too good for you, he can continue to treat you like shit and you'll just take it.
This man is not a prize.
He's just a boyfriend so just break up. He's not putting in effort, he doesn't seem to make you happy (nor care about trying to do so), and you're wasting money & energy for nothing. Move on to someone who will a minimum meet you half way. You don't have to stay unhappy.
No. everyone does NOT 'send nudes these days'. MOST people prefer to interact in person and to keep their private lives private.
MOST people know that anything you put on the internet can be seen by the entire world so stop saying things that only someone that's incredibly naive would say. You are so not ready to be out in the real world yet, as evidenced by sending your nudes around the world at the ripe old age of 16.
Stop focusing on finding an internet husband, finish school, get a real job and meet people in real life.
You've messed up at least twice already. Forget about this ridiculous mistake that you've made and don't do it again.
Its not that important. Let them be wrong. Use tact. Calmly state I thought it was like this thanks for the info. End of story. This makes life easier also never say I told you so. Be gracious.
Rarely in the history of parenting and relationships has “stop crying” been an effective statement. So don't beat yourself for being emotional, it's not your fault. You can improve your control though. Being “sensitive” usually stems from two issues, 1) the other person is being a complete twat and mean, or 2) you lack confidence in confrontation. Both can be worked on with practice in communication.
You could try role playing conflict about random issues/scenarios. Or discuss things like politics or social issues and practice using more constructive phrases then vs. trying to use them in the heat of the moment. Examples are saying things like, “That topic is outside the issue, let's focus”. Or, “So what you're saying is XYZ, is that right?”. Or, “I am not in the right mindset to tackle this right now. I can see you want to talk. Let's talk after XYZ” (and actually do it). “I hear you.” Or, “I'm not sure what I think about this. I need time to process this.” Etc.
Yeah all of this. I hope she thinks about what parenting would look like because he seems like he’s be just as crappy at that.
You should also tell your bf's parents. Chance it he fucked a minor.
Not forgetting they aren’t even invited to the actual wedding.
You leave a potentially lifelong 4 years relationship to be with someone nearly twice your age who youve know for 6 months, and even after you did something so terrible with him, he stayed in good terms with you and supporting you, and after the obvious happen and your New relationship fall down youre now considering him once again? Just leave this man alone and maybe then he can find someone who trully values him and wouldt throw him away for some old dude who they barely know, he deserves better.
Why don't you ask the brother's girlfriend to talk to the mom. She can explain that you would like to get more information and see if she needs help, but that you won't contact her without permission.
Let's look at the wins…you're a young 27…only had a year with him…not a decade or two…
The sad part is i don't think this has anything to do with you..he is stuggling…. maybe you could have had the happily ever after… or were both wrong and he was looking for someone better but it doesn't matter to your heart at the moment.
I will say at his age 24, that age , I wasn't thinking forever since I barely had it to together…I looked like i did and thought I did at times to how could I build a beautiful adult life with a beautiful man to have beautiful kids….let's just say I regret a lot of my 18-27 year old decisions…I thought I needed to x to y to do z to it was a mind fuck to say the least…the caught between I think I'm adulting to I'm not even sure what is adulting and good relationships professionals, personal, romantically gahhh lol
Let's go to your age, 27, is when I woke up one day and said I know who I am, what I am, what I need to change and what I'm okay If changes or not to I'm taking control of this….i am going to work smarter, not waste time to wasting my heart on the wrong things…
I think you need to move forward and I don't think the universe is that cruel…we have more than one soulmate…. but everyone has to be ready for the greatest gifts or you can't have them or when you do than you can't maintain them
That's up to her to decide and not for the partner who wants to have sex with her to bring up. It will just come off as trying to pressure her into sex under the guise of, “looking out for her sexual health.”
I’m already in therapy
Because we had been trying for awhile and couldn’t get pregnant until now
True, there are exceptions to every rule, but they are in the minority while their are lots of men who would love casual sexual relationships. Given such high demand and low supply, why would the women who are looking for casual sex simply choose the top 20% most attractive men?
sure, not mutually exclusive phenomena.
but just to be pendantic you'd think it'd be either higher route OR lower route thinking at work here. a conscientious gf OR vain gf.
People ALWAYS knee-jerk answer that people need therapy here.
But your wife clearly needs therapy, no rational conversation can soothe the emotive feelings here. And full no-contact with sister of course, neither of you see or talk to her at all.
My friend, have a spine and break up with this girl. You can find someone that respects you. She’s crossed the line in many ways.
Thank you❤
Get rid immediately. Him and his friends have zero respect for women and that’s telling by his reaction alone, let alone the second part to the story ?
Get rid immediately. Him and his friends have zero respect for women and that’s telling by his reaction alone, let alone the second part to the story ?
45 more years of this? Really? Perhaps counseling? If not, is this bad enough to walk away from the marriage. Personally, I wouldn't spend another year much less 45 putting up with this shit.
Yes I believe everything happens for a reason so I think I was supposed to see it tbh. You mean shake it up with more passion? Or by leaving??
Leaving is the only option where you keep your dignity and respect. Every other avenue will lead to you being disrespected.
Once respect is lost. It’s gone. There’s not really a chance of getting it back. She will view you as the man who is okay with her cheating. She won’t view you as a lover but more as a sibling.
how do I check his daily activity?
I’m with this in principle but had an ex who refused to sign papers for years…and they were ones we’d drawn up through moderation that disproportionately benefited him financially and gave me primary custody which is what he preferred. I eventually did start dating but only after a couple + years into the mess post separation and agreement to divorce which convinced him to speed up the signing to delaying just until the date of my next birthday, a year later.
It was a lovely process.
Needless to say, it made me think how starkly I viewed the multi year wait period post divorce.
Take the L, brother. She’s not interested and that’s not going to change.
Next time try a smoother approach. Not trying to be a dick, just your current approach kind of reads more like a demand than a fun date.
Yeah but he’s different and I know how that sounds but he really is, he’s like a little puppy when we’re alone. He just wants cuddles and affection, when he’s sleeping in my lap it’s really hard to believe this guy is violent
You will.not be happy when you open your relationship, seeing him making passionate love to another woman with you / while you watch / without you. Can you stand it?. Some woman maybe could do it but can you really do it?. Your relationship was over 3 – 4 years ago when he ask for open relationship. He just doesnt love you that much.
Picture this: you have three kids. You’re making dinner. One of the kids spills some milk – you ask your BF to get off the couch and wipe it up so you can get the food out of the oven. He charges you $10.
You realise that would still stand facial hair or head hair, why is there a difference or double standard
You were fine cheating on her multiple times. She has every right to do the same, especially after forgiving you. I’m sorry but you gave up all possibility of true trusting love with your GF when you went after other women. You’re culpable for what happened here, and I don’t see anyone thriving in this situation. Let her find real love somewhere and take some time to do reflective self work if you want a loving trusting relationship In your future.
Why would you put yourself through this? Sad that you don’t value yourself enough to know you deserve better.
honestly, i would bet money that hes not even talking about OP in his posts. and shes just making it about herself. i would be money on this LMFAOOO.he's prob going through rough time with his actual girl and posting for her.
but why would he post for OP, who he doesn't even initiate convo with lol.
op u are being a bit delusional. leave this man alone.
With the lube it sounds like he really doesn’t care. He’s not embarrassed. He’s doesn’t care if he takes 30 seconds. He doesn’t even care if you’re wet, he has lube for that. If you do end up sticking around a little bit longer, watch closely, you’ll see his selfishness expose itself in ton of other ways.
Reasons 2 and 4 should be more than sufficient.
Come on. The cherry on this is trying to make you think that it’s NOT weird to change into a different set of clothes when you come over. I’d be more inclined to be obliging if he at least had the self-awareness to point out it’s weirdness or if he was severely germaphobic or had some sort of mental health issue. But nah, he’s comfortable distorting your concept of reality as well.
And he sounds like a whiner – nobody likes a whiner, especially adult ones.
How would a paternity test have helped if the child was yours?
This is not a healthy relationship on either end:
He talks to you in an abusive manner, which you have told him you do not appreciate and he ignored that it made you uncomfortable. He also sounds like his mood can become aggressive at short notice, which is a massive red flag.
On your end, you feel you need to be able to see his location at any time and get anxious that you can't. That shows a lack of trust in him. Either you trust him not to cheat, or you have justifiable grounds to not trust him, at which point you shouldn't be with him anyway.
No. Only females can get pregnant so there’s nothing wrong with saying it how I said it, there’s women out here who were born male and can’t get pregnant so, ima stick with females. And if they see there’s no trust then why should it be such an issue to help build it?? Trust is part of the relationship and if they don’t want to do something soooo simple to kill their partners doubt then they shouldn’t be in the relationship. They need to stop thinking about how only themselves feel and put their partners feelings in consideration.
Pretty sure the average user of Reddit is male and definitely not middle-aged. Why do you need to take a test to prove that you didn’t cheat and trying to saddle your partner with your affair partners baby?
Yea that's fucking nuts after 5-6 years. I don't blame you for being beyond hurt and questioning your relationship. Her bringing this up out of the blue like that makes me think your gf is taking Susan's problems too personal. Your gf can't seem to understand that the glimpse she showed you of how she views you during her friend's hard time has hurt you. By entertaining this idea she betrayed the relationship you thought had reciprocal trust and respect.
You are allowed to break up for any reason no matter how long the relationship has existed. If this is a dealbreaker then leave that's ok, if you want to work through this that's ok too. Incase you needed to hear it.
what about nudes of her? He surely has some and will pop them onto the net.
LOL
You break up because he doesn’t respect you.
He didn’t ‘fall in love’ with someone (a decade younger who’s intelligence he greatly demeans) because you have so much in common or a deep abiding admiration for you as a person, he did it because he wanted to be the bigger smarter stronger more worldly papa bear.
You’ve told him this bothers you, he does NOT care that won’t change.
Him needing you to be ‘lesser’ than him isn’t a symptom, it’s the disease itself.
The fact that she’s actually googling everything all the time instead of telling him to stfu is very telling. I would laugh in my bfs face and tell him to F off if he constantly did this to me then I’d make a joke of him everyday, pronounce things stupidly tell him he pronounces everything wrong until he got so fed up and dropped it. But then again it’s why I’d never end up with someone like this because they’d hate me ahaha.
Do you have an idea what happened in his life so that he’s so obsessed with food. Was he fat and bullied when he was younger?
He should see a psychologist or even a psychiatrist for his suicidal thoughts unless it was pure manipulation to get what he wants from you. He should seek help though, he has a real problem that is affecting your children.
If he doesn’t want help I think you should at least take a break from him for the sake of your children.
thank you a lot for your input, i appreciate your thoughtful response, as much as it hurts. do you think it could be a good idea to write to him to apologise? i understand i shouldn’t ask him to go back with me, but i never really got the chance to tell him how sorry i am, how terrible i feel and how i wish i could’ve done things differently. i miss him horribly and i don’t know whether it’s a good idea or if it would just hurt him again – which i’m open to hear it may. should i leave him alone?
Been there. It sucks. For me, the worst part was a complete lack of remorse. But it also made it easier to move on.
Focus on yourself rather than on her. You know, you didn’t actually do anything wrong. You did your best and that’s all any of us can do. Do try not to blame yourself or to become hard and cynical. She’s just one person, you have a whole life to live. Turn into that and if she intrudes into your thoughts make a conscious point of shoving her right back out. You will get over this.
RIP Carlos “Spider” Sanchez 2004 in cursive on the throat
And your ignorance is thinking that your worldview is attainable for everyone and anyone. You can have the goal while still living in reality. And that's something you just don't seem to get. And no, I'm not mad at my life, and I cuss because I'm not afraid of using the entirety of the English fucking language. It's cute that you think people cuss just because they're angry. You're the one narrow-minded, little girl. And you're honestly just making yourself look more and more lime a child throwing a tantrum. It's honestly making my day just how dumb and naive you are.
It really isn’t your choice to work through it. Unless she was forthcoming, remorseful, and fully certain and transparent that she wanted to work on it, it’s a lost cause. Even with those things, it’s an extremely difficult betrayal to come back from. Cut your losses and lawyer up.
Wow huh the responses to this one suprise me. I think OP is too controlling. A 60 year old man at a large group gathering is probably not a threat to your relationship.
Its not really appropriate to expect your partner to ask you for permission to go to social events or interact with the oposite sex. Platonic relationships with the oposite sex are a normal part of life. Part of being in a relationship is trusting your partner, which leaves you vulnerable if that partner ends up being a cheater, but thats part of life. Cheaters get the boot and you move on. But you can't live your life in constant fear and become overcontroling. Thats not healthy for anyone.
She's a new girl, not your old cheating partner. I wouldnt hold her to the same standard of distrust.
Write her a letter
My husband would bring up us having kids all the time, on his own. When I told him 6 years into marriage that I’d realized I didn’t want kids, I was expecting him to freak out, but he was absolutely relieved. He just thought I wanted them. Maybe your wife is like that since she knows you want them. I don’t know, everyone is focusing on you saying that she’s been maybe 10%-20% for having them, but I think her saying that she’s never been sure about having kids after you brought up possibly never having them if she got another IUD is very telling of her actual thoughts on the matter. She said she’s fine never having kids. That’s your answer.
A shoulder to cry on becomes a dick to ride on
This right here!
As black people, we don't play with certain demographics. You know why.
That 32 year old teacher/mother who had developed a sexual relationship with her 13 year old student and eventually got pregnant by him, twice. Search her name up on youtube, there's a movie about it titled “all American girl”. The romanticising nature of this post reminds me of that case. It kinda sounds fake now that I think about it though, who would post such an embarrassing scenario and expect a good outcome in the comments? Either a jokester or a true dumb ass.
Lots of women just have that kink, and that’s fine when it’s consensual with BOTH parties. In other words YOU have to be ok with it too.
But your situation is a little different. Once drugs are involved there’s no real way to ensure a safe word is enforced either. Have either of you discussed a safe word? Because if you haven’t, you are in for a nightmare of a situation.
Now I want you to take a moment and think about how that will play out in a courtroom when she decides it really was rape and you took advantage of her trauma. How she wanted you to stop but was to drugged to say stop. If that thought experiment doesn’t end up with you in jail, you didn’t think it through.
Why do you want this guy?
He sounds like a terrible boyfriend who isn't as into you as you are him, and he treats you terribly.
Find your self-esteem. If it takes therapy, get therapy.
He is going to bully you, control you and criticize you to put you in your place as lower then him. Let him go, he is nothing but pain and later on, possibly being abused by him.
Honestly? I'm a fan of the direct approach, although I understand it can be awkward.
I'd tell her what she said, and say whilst there's obviously nothing you can do to increase the size of your penis, there are certainly things the 2 of you can do as a couple to change things up if she's not happy with your sex life.
Then try to have an open and honest conversation about maybe bringing toys into the bedroom, find out what she thinks she's missing out on and how you guys could address it.
Let's face it, if lesbians are having the best sex, then this is something you guys can work around.
Because it's insane advice. Kicking out someone who is very intoxicated? What person does that make you?
Definitely most people I know go at it like rabbits while on vacation. Even most of the people who don't do it much normally due to issues etc. Sheets are clean and unless you specifically try to sound like a bad porn star nobody will hear you or care about the sound. Cheap hotels may let some sound through but rarely and it's muffled and nobody cares.
I mean, why don't you want to divorce him?
Omg, I can't even fathom how she walking. I remember this stage of my life and not even this intense. Yikes!
I think you need to initiate the divorce. Talk to lawyer, a therapist, and get the papers before talking to your husband. He sounds like a POS asshole who’s using you. Interesting that his son gets to use you up, but refuses to call you his second mom. They get to use your money, your insurance, your everything and you’re expected to not get anything in return.
Perfect example of why people should get married before they have kids.
I usually call people out for egregious age gaps like this one. But, seeing how you're maturity level is the same as your boyfriend's, I'm not going to do that.
You're petty. You have double standards. You're the red flag. Stop treating your boyfriend like shit. He's still a child.
How is it not random? Is that what you mean?
Ugh, my ex was exactly the same (did we date the same guy?? ?)! I was on nexplanon and went through hell and back with the symptoms:
I experienced weight gain, acne, random periods, mood swings and a reduced libido. I felt like utter shit and unattractive. Sex just felt like a chore most of the time. The only positive thing about it was I didn’t get pregnant. 2/5 – would never recommend or go back to.
I remember trying to explain this to bf and was like “this is what I go through so that we don’t have a baby / you don’t need to use condoms” and I swear all I heard coming out of ex’s mouth was “ehh, my manlihood is hurted because I’m not getting enough sex”
I’d love to see my ex be put on the same birth control and see how he copes. Maybe then he might start using condoms again and not rely on the other partners birth control.
OP, your gf deserves WAY better.
Does he know where you live? I hope you can change where you stay so he cannot follow you or stalk you. block him in everything. I know you said that he apologizes but still throws things, gets angry, but still blames you for acting that way, etc. He might have not hurt you physically but he will especially when you break up with him. He might go on a rampage. So please, please, be safe and as much as possible no more contact
What would happen if he gave his father the choice of either paying for his studies and have his son become a doctor, which has to be highly respected and earn a decent income, or not paying for his studies and losing his only son, who will be forced to take on a low earning blue collar job and will disown him?
Would the father really risk losing his bragging rights of “my son, the doctor” – and losing the son altogether? Or would he fold? I really can't guess in the least how Indian parents would react to opposition – double down, or accept defeat. But no sane father would prefer his son to become a manual laborer instead of a doctor.
She is an exobishionist, and there is not much you can do about it. Accept it and love her, or leave her.
He didn’t know. Neither of us knew she was talking to both of us then. Like I told her, I wouldn’t have really cared AS MUCH if she was just flirting with him and exploring her options before we were exclusive, but it does sting that she did it in front of me, and again the evening after a date with me. Like, we went out, and (according to time stamps), she got in her car and started texting him how much she wanted him, asking if he was around to meet. That really hurt to see. We weren’t exclusive, but it crushes my ego a bit.
Odd. Our experience is completely reverse. We've never seen a female condom out in the wild, but our local pharmacy has diaphragms on the shelf.
If you're too embarrassed to repeat it anonymously to internet strangers, you done fucked up by saying it to her.
It's out of your hands. What's not is your future behavior.
I’m god you came to the conclusion that you did. If you keep pushing, it’s almost certain that he will see a doctor. This is scary and worrying