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Date: October 11, 2022
You’ve both agreed your boundaries. It’s got absolutely nothing to do with your friends
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How do i be friends with him
You set friend boundaries. That DOESN'T include him sleeping in your tiny apartment, getting drunk, and having drunk hookup sex with you. He can get a motel room, stay with other friends, or family. IF none of those are possible, and he HAS to stay in your tiny apartment, he gets the couch. There is NO drinking. ZERO. And the first sign of touchy feely, he gets booted.
Those would be MY conditions. But, again, you do you.
At my age (55m), many decades ago when I was young I was that ex doing the drunk hookups with a former partner. I also had ex's calling me to get back together, etc. Which is why there was only one ex that I kept in contact with for a limited time to help her get back on her feet (it was an amicable breakup), but after that, all contact was cut. Every other ex got cut immediately.
They are ex's for a reason. It didn't work out then and more than likely won't in the future either (sure, there are exceptions to everything, but they are just that; exceptions). You have to move on. In order to do that, you have to cut ties with the past.
We have had a conversation on boundaries, it just falls into the gray area of what is and isn’t. I suppose we should’ve got a little more in depth. I just feel sick right now and i’m really rethinking things.
Dude, you sound like every other man who is going through a mid life crisis. To be honest, if I was either one of these woman, I would leave you in a heart beat. They deserve better than you. My advice, move out of your wifes house. Pay her what you said you would pay her. Stop lying and go run your wild oats. Then when things settle down decided what you want.
I feel stupid that I just believed what he told me.
Oh, ffs. Parents need outlets without their kids around. Thinking that parents are some kind of pure, perfect people is so stupidly toxic.
It’s new to you. He’s been checked out a lot longer than the day of the break up. He’s resolved/been through a lot of the feelings your currently feeling. You’re just not at that point yet.
Which is probably a good metaphor for the relationship when you think about it…
Wanna make sure I got this right. He beat your father down over a slap, and then lectured him before snapping his hand…. And you're worried about saving their relationship?
I hate relationship advice, but feel compelled to tell you to leave. That kind of cold psychopathic violence is not chivalry, and your honor or divinity was not saved but tarnished. I guarantee you will see that surface again, and like any relationship eventually you'll do something that really bothers him. Maybe not immediately, but once he snaps… Well you've seen where that leads.
Only oral? That's actually worse in my opinion than if they had just boiked.
When you read posts like this it’s never just “having guy friends” that’s the issue, and everyone gets stuck on that point- but the real problem is always the behaviour of the “friends” and how they interact together that posters are upset with.
My wife has guy friends and I have no issue with it, you know why?
She doesn’t spend all day texting back and forth with them . She texts them no more than her girlfriends and less than she does with me her communication with them is not hidden from me (why would it be they’re just friends talking) she’s not super protective and hiding when shes texting on her phone they get together sure, but I’m mostly invited as well. (Why would they choose to be alone? The more the merrier) she may go out for lunch with her guy friend or to coffee but it’s in public. her guy friends never ask to go out alone or to activities that might resemble going out on dates.
they don’t flirt or exchange sexually charged language. (Why would friends do that anyway?)
Perhaps most importantly they don’t discuss our private matters and she’d never accept her friends to speak disrespectfully of me or our marriage
….basically their behaviour (both my wife and her guy friends) doesn’t even give the hint of impropriety
I never had to request that she put up these boundaries, it was just understood between us that when you’re in a committed relationship you act as if you are, and We don’t do things that the other might find disrespectful to our relationship. I listed a few examples above, but that isn’t an exhaustive list.
If OPs GF is being transparent and respectful there’s no need for a “no friends of the opposite sex” rule. But that not what we often see here.
Usually it’s stories like “…my girlfriend wants to go to Jamaica alone with her guy bff and share the same bed…he hates me and always says how he’s gonna steal her away from me…and she wants me to be ok with it, what do I do…”
Commenters ignore the details and respond with “…why don’t you trust her…women are allowed to have friends too…” etc, etc…
It’s counter productive to try and give advice when you’re missing the whole point of the post.
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