I just want to know why you’re still here looking for validation on something every single person who’s come across it says you’re approaching it the wrong way?
If you think responding to every comment confidently is going to actually justify some of the things you noted in your post, you should really think again because it doesn’t work that way. There are things we get wrong. You exposing your kids to someone you don’t know is one of them and it’s a big one. Do your thing. Make it work with this man and be happily together for the next 50 years. But ffs don’t bring two innocent kids into this. They literally don’t need to know this man right now.
So then become passive. I got the same thing from my ex husband. It got to the point where I had to choose work or stay at home because he was happy with neither and all my passive got me was more complaining. So when nothing was working I left. I had to. It became that I’m cheating now that I’m home or I run away to work so I don’t have to do my share of this 50/50. But my starting to come to the realization of needing to leave was when I did only my dishes only my and kid’s laundry. It took him 3 MONTHS to figure out that he had been grabbing clothes from the hamper and not the closet. He would complain about the dishes and I told him if he doesn’t do the dishes in the sink everyday I’m not cooking for him. So we did go 50/50 for 6 months, so when I decided to be a SAHM he complained that I cheated because the house was still messy, when the kids went to school I got my career going again and I was “too busy for my kids”. This was the straw that broke everything, he told the kids that I was too busy for them and then take them to do something fun without telling me so I could never take a day off to join!! So if your husband is a good guy he’ll see your protest as a wake up call to really talk and change (maybe/hopefully some therapy), but if not you have a huge problem and therapy is the only answer because shit is broken.
Maybe tell her that while you love her passionate love for you, you ALSO like JUST kissing her, without it jumping directly into the heat. Can we find a middle ground where sometimes we are just sweet and sometimes we are just fiery, and sometimes we are both?
And OP she is 50, so how aware are you of where she is in her OBGYN/menstruation/menopause/Hormone journey? If this is a recent change and uptick your going to want to do some research to prepare yourself and be supportive.
And stop lying to her, you’re 50, you know how to be honest but tactful especially to someone you care about. Lying hurts worse, because she’s could build up an upsetting narrative about why you’re lying because she can tell somethings wrong.
How can he be out of your league? Dude is going out of his way to cheat and keep up. Doubting this much effort to pose as a good chess player is the total extent of what a bullshit artist he is in his life.
“Why are you cheating at a board game? Me and my brother both think it's wack”
“YOU NEED TO MOVE IN WITH ME AND STOP THINKING ABOUT FUCKING YOUR BROTHER!!!!”
I have 2 buddies with kids where the gf had a IUD, they are not 100% although they are safer than the pill usually
I'd say so, especially if you really haven't spoken that much about your education and past and all that jazz.
I just want to know why you’re still here looking for validation on something every single person who’s come across it says you’re approaching it the wrong way?
If you think responding to every comment confidently is going to actually justify some of the things you noted in your post, you should really think again because it doesn’t work that way. There are things we get wrong. You exposing your kids to someone you don’t know is one of them and it’s a big one. Do your thing. Make it work with this man and be happily together for the next 50 years. But ffs don’t bring two innocent kids into this. They literally don’t need to know this man right now.
So then become passive. I got the same thing from my ex husband. It got to the point where I had to choose work or stay at home because he was happy with neither and all my passive got me was more complaining. So when nothing was working I left. I had to. It became that I’m cheating now that I’m home or I run away to work so I don’t have to do my share of this 50/50. But my starting to come to the realization of needing to leave was when I did only my dishes only my and kid’s laundry. It took him 3 MONTHS to figure out that he had been grabbing clothes from the hamper and not the closet. He would complain about the dishes and I told him if he doesn’t do the dishes in the sink everyday I’m not cooking for him. So we did go 50/50 for 6 months, so when I decided to be a SAHM he complained that I cheated because the house was still messy, when the kids went to school I got my career going again and I was “too busy for my kids”. This was the straw that broke everything, he told the kids that I was too busy for them and then take them to do something fun without telling me so I could never take a day off to join!! So if your husband is a good guy he’ll see your protest as a wake up call to really talk and change (maybe/hopefully some therapy), but if not you have a huge problem and therapy is the only answer because shit is broken.
Maybe tell her that while you love her passionate love for you, you ALSO like JUST kissing her, without it jumping directly into the heat. Can we find a middle ground where sometimes we are just sweet and sometimes we are just fiery, and sometimes we are both?
And OP she is 50, so how aware are you of where she is in her OBGYN/menstruation/menopause/Hormone journey? If this is a recent change and uptick your going to want to do some research to prepare yourself and be supportive.
And stop lying to her, you’re 50, you know how to be honest but tactful especially to someone you care about. Lying hurts worse, because she’s could build up an upsetting narrative about why you’re lying because she can tell somethings wrong.
Amen. I thought exactly the same thing when I saw it. And she’s still there with him making babies.
How can he be out of your league? Dude is going out of his way to cheat and keep up. Doubting this much effort to pose as a good chess player is the total extent of what a bullshit artist he is in his life.
“Why are you cheating at a board game? Me and my brother both think it's wack”
“YOU NEED TO MOVE IN WITH ME AND STOP THINKING ABOUT FUCKING YOUR BROTHER!!!!”
Insert aneurism here
What? You don't carefully vet your new girlfriends to make sure all their financials are in order? /S