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God this breaks my heart. I’m so sorry that you’re going through this OP! I just don’t get how people like this can sleep at night when they’re destroying people they claim to love/ care about. If he didn’t want to go through your guys’ wedding, why couldn’t he have talked to you about it before getting into a relationship with someone else. At least give you some respect seeing that you guys were together for years. It’s going to be a tough couple of months/years but thank God you found out now. Stay strong, it can only get better from here without that POS of a human being.
I dated someone for four years about 14 years ago. By about 2 years in, I knew that we weren’t right for each other (for me, meaning that we wouldn’t marry one another) but we kept dating anyway. We also broke up once and got back together. It was very difficult to do, but we did end it finally. If after 4 years, you can’t see yourself spending the rest of your life with the person, married or not, I think it’s best to split up and move on, as hard as it can be to do so. For me, I found my wife an few years later and am very happily married. She is amazing and I never knew I could get along so well with someone else! Best wishes to you!
Why are you so worried about THEIR happiness? What about the happiness of your kid? Your child deserves to have a father figure in their life, let alone their REAL father. I feel like you’ve got your child’s happiness in the palm of your hands and you’re deciding to create traumas for your kid in the future if you don’t introduce them.
If ypu start listening to all these people you will ruin your marriage. Talk to the person you had a kid with go to counseling if need be. The answers are simple leave or stay.
Legal guardianship never transferred. She quite literally dumped me off, then pretended to schools etc that we lived together.
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She’s from the streets
It sounds pretty joyless, TBH. Maybe have one final, serious, change-or-I'm-leaving conversation, giving specific examples, and if that doesn't change anything, start planning your new life.
Do you have pics of her?
Ask her who you should NOT show them too.
Maybe suggest a few friends and relatives names. Maybe even those girlfriends.
Sorry but she’s wildly wrong and you should be hurt, angry and packing up your stuff.
i mean this in the kindest way possible, but i think you need to seek therapy. your family is currently not an appropriate support network for you and don't seem to understand your needs and are not supporting you in a healthy way for you. you are not being too dramatic, but i think it would really help to have a professional to talk to so you can help process all of these feelings you're having and be able to set boundaries for your family to help keep you safe and comfortable. good luck OP. really rooting for you.
And I don’t have the energy to change myself to make him happier while I’m still miserable because he has stayed the same..
Literally the things we fight about are the stupidest things that spiral into ridiculous fights that dredge up all of our past arguments and hurtful things are said. The other night I asked to him spend 30 minutes with me helping to clean our spare room. (we moved into this house last April and still have unpacked boxes in there) he refused saying he was relaxing and how I always wait until he’s comfortable before I ask him to do something. Which is complete bullshit because if I ask right when he gets home he complains he’s tired and just wants to relax. He didn’t want to clean because he said I would just yell at him when he didn’t know where to put something. I don’t think I would have but I can’t see the future and neither can he. This spiraled into one of our worst fights yet. I’ve been putting a lot of time into getting the house into order recently and all I asked was for 30 minutes. We had been home and relaxing for 3ish hours already so I said we could spend 30 minutes cleaning and then he would have another 2 hours to relax before he had to go to bed. He also blamed me on this occasion for ruining a perfectly good day. But instead of helping for 30 minutes of cleaning and then relaxing again, he opted for 3 hours of fighting and no relaxation. At one point I had just asked him to go to bed because he was either going to help me clean or we were going to fight so he may as well just go to bed because the fight just kept circling. He went to bed, came back a bit later and it looked like he was going to apologize but instead the argument just continued. Then he went to bed again and then came back and we fought more. I was tired of it so I grabbed my coat and keys and went to my car because I was just trying to get away from the screaming. He wouldn’t go to bed so I took myself away. He then called me to ask where I went and I told him I was still in the garage. Then we argued more so I hung up, then he repeatedly called and I hung up every time he yelled. I was tired of it, so I stopped answering. Eventually he came outside and told me to let him in the car. I didn’t want to because I was trying to escape the argument so I cracked the window so he could talk. When he yelled I rolled up the window. He tried to tell me to get out of “his” car because he paid for it. Blah blah blah, eventually I convinced him to go back inside and then I waited a bit and went inside myself, hoping he had went to bed. He hadn’t and we argued more and I told him I was going back to the car until he went to bed. Then he took off his wedding ring and slammed it on the counter and went to bed. He came back down about ten minutes later to grab it and I didn’t say anything. To be honest, this fight was never resolved, I was quiet the next day when he called me from work and he had the nerve to ask me if I was sick because I sounded weird, like that fight the night before had never happened. When he got home he continued to act like nothing happened. Then the next day he mentioned that we could clean that room and so I kind of took that as his apology, but then surprise surprise, the room still hasn’t been clean 4 days later. And we actually had one of the most pleasant days together today that we’ve had in quite a while until I asked him to read that book.
Sorry, maybe too much detail, just kind of got in a rant. Basically they start as tiny things and then spiral into huge arguments and each time it seems to get worse.
Yes you're being unbelievably stupid. Big your own grave
You’re doing the right thing.
It pisses me off that people are this uneducated in Autism and think everyone who has it is like “Rain Man”.
It’s a spectrum, everyone has few or a lot of the things from Autism. It varies from person to person, but Op’s GF would be described as a low supports needs due to HOW much sensory and routine she craves. The less impact from ASD, the lower your needs are in accommodations.
Hence why, it’s baffling how people are so quick to judge and not realize Op straight up said she has Autism and gloss over that, not put two and two together.
Yes sometimes. Usually this (his team losing) is way more drastic though… if we have an argument he does need some space to “cool off” but that’s about it.
Ehh. He was embarrassed even though he was around friends? Like others have said, allergies don’t cause those effects and embarrassment about something as common as allergies or asthma, even when it’s bad, aren’t cause for that level of embarrassment.
Also 30 minutes is a long ass time to stand outside if his allergies are so bad.
Did you see him bring or take any actual medicine? Does he have trouble in other places? Why didn’t he ask you for comfort if it was that bad?
I’m not going to say anything about addiction but I’m definitely angry on your behalf about the way he acted and that he very likely lied to you.
I think you deserve a higher level of man, ma’am.
Is she aware that you don’t like extensive touching?
Between cycle tracking, pull out, and a diaphragm, I only have 2 children. Both were planned.
And that proved he was faithful? And the same for yourself. Cheating is hard to cover up but it’s easier to believe someone’s lie
Indeed. This definitely calls for an all cards on the table moment and it won't be pretty.
Ok I'm sensing a theme in the comments… Thank you for your advice, I think you are right unfortunately
She's a parasite (or if that's too blunt for you, a cake-eater). You need to give her an eviction notice.
Sometimes being hostile is the only answer some man will take
Honestly, the daily walk to get there, alone, will help you the most. Lol Meh just go to your group. Whether she is supportive or not is simply a non starter for whether or not you should go to your group. Keep in mind, I do think the two of you need to find an activity you can do together daily, to sortof feel like a team, in your weight loss journey. I would suggest doing a 30 minute walk together every day you dont have a group meeting, and on the nights that you DO have a meeting, you can meet her halfway on her stuff, which would likely be doing some portion control meal planning, labeling items with calorie amounts, etc.
Shes not being nice about all of this, I agree. Shes being pretty mean, really. I do honestly think shes absolutely terrified of losing you, and probably puts way too much importance on “looking good” and not enough on “acting kindly,” so in her mind, shes thinking you are going to become a fit young stud with all the girls creaming for you, lmao (literally, this is what many insecure women actually think) and the ones whose social skills are a little less developed (this is your gf) will just be kinda mean, instead of just expressing the truth of their insecurities.
But, alas, this all comes down to a meeting of the minds, and the whole balancing act that is life.
Sit her down. Use the DEAL method- Tell her, in brief- Describe what she said. Explain (in brief- this isnt venting) how bad it felt that she said the things she did, and suggest teaming up, on some level, (Asking her to be) walking buddies or doing some other moderately strenuous activity together. Let her answer. (Let) her know how this will positively impact not only your mutual fitness goals, but the relationship as well, since you will be committing to more ACTIVE quality time together, which might make her feel a lot better about you two having different approaches.
DEAL = Describe, Explain emotions, Ask for what you want, Let them know how this benefits THEM.
Then, later, you can also learn and work independently or together on SMART goal setting.
SMART goals are great to have, and makes it feel like you are reaching success, in an easier format. The acronym goes like this:
S. Specific
M. Measurable
A. Attainable
R. Relevant
T. Time-Sensitive
So with smart goals, you want to be Specific- What is the goal, specifically? I mean, I know you said “its a whole person,” lol but thats a long term goal. Smart goals are more like miniature goals- like a football player, ultimately wanting to win the game, simply trying to move the ball 10 yards by the 4th down.
So Specifically, for this week, what is one of your goals?
Let me give an example for you.
Specific- rejoin Slimming World Support Group by the end of the week.
Ok great. Its specific. I feel good about step one.
Measurable- is this a measurable goal? Yes. It is. You will absolutely know for certain whether or not you have rejoined the group. Thats the measure.
Attainable- Is this attainable? Its a 26 minute walk. You believe you can make it. It mighe be a harder walk than you are used to, but its certainly attainable. So YES. rejoining the group, is attainable.
Relevant- Is the goal relevant to your long term vision? Absolutely. I mean, obviously. It has helped in the past. It cant hurt.
Time Sensitive- Is the goal time sensitive? Well yes. You have set the end of the week as the deadline. You can absolutely complete this goal in the next seven days.
See? Its just a simple goal. Write it down and check to see that all the matrix for it to be smart, are in place.
Lets say you set smart goals for specific weight loss!
I want to lose two pounds this week.
S- yes two pounds is specific. M- it is measurable. A- its attainable. R- its relevant T- timed? Yes you have one week.
Write it down!!!
Once you and her start getting active again, her mood should lift, and you should be happier together. It can take a few weeks, but for now, be patient.
If she doesnt want to participate in activity, and she continues to be a mean ol meanie stick in the mud, you have every right to break up with her. I dont think THAT is going to happen, of course. I think she loves you and is terribly afraid of losing you. Xo
instant break up