This is a list I got from another forum from a deleted user.
“Your relationship/marriage – it's dead. IF your Betrayed Spouse WANTS to give reconciliation a try here is all that must be done: NO contact with AP or pAP – (potential AP). If the AP contacts you, you need to notify your BS/BP immediately. STD testing, even if you used protection, it's not 100%. All user names and passwords to phone, email, social media etc must be shared with the Betrayed. You lost the “right to privacy” when you cheated. (Personally, I don't get how a committed couple has a “right” to privacy with their partner, but that's me.) Enroll in therapy and recognize you must change and commit to that. MUST show remorse, must own the infidelity and provide a complete timeline of the affair (s). MUST NEVER LIE again, not lies of omission, white lies, accidental lies – or any version of lying. Full truth is required. Any other boundaries your partner (within reason) needs to feel safe. OP, reconciliation takes 2-5 years or more after infidelity, this is the long haul. If either partner isn't willing, it is fruitless. Your Betrayed may also need therapy too to navigate.”
i just want it to happen naturally. no dating apps. just something that happens casually
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This is a list I got from another forum from a deleted user.
“Your relationship/marriage – it's dead. IF your Betrayed Spouse WANTS to give reconciliation a try here is all that must be done: NO contact with AP or pAP – (potential AP). If the AP contacts you, you need to notify your BS/BP immediately. STD testing, even if you used protection, it's not 100%. All user names and passwords to phone, email, social media etc must be shared with the Betrayed. You lost the “right to privacy” when you cheated. (Personally, I don't get how a committed couple has a “right” to privacy with their partner, but that's me.) Enroll in therapy and recognize you must change and commit to that. MUST show remorse, must own the infidelity and provide a complete timeline of the affair (s). MUST NEVER LIE again, not lies of omission, white lies, accidental lies – or any version of lying. Full truth is required. Any other boundaries your partner (within reason) needs to feel safe. OP, reconciliation takes 2-5 years or more after infidelity, this is the long haul. If either partner isn't willing, it is fruitless. Your Betrayed may also need therapy too to navigate.”
Also have a look at: r/AsOneAfterInfidelity r/survivinginfidelity