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Edit: pda aggressive not abusive aggressive.
I 25f have been with my husband 33male for about 5 years, married for 2. We have 2 kids together both under 3. Well in the bedroom i like to do rough stuff sometimes like choking spanking etc, well lately in our everyday time he will grab my throat or smack my cheek, mind you its never like super hard or anything and i think he is trying to be sexy? But its makes me nervous when he does it since im worried his parents or brother or god forbid our kids see it and it start a whole thing. We have talked about it but it doesnt help much. Ill say i dont want him to do it outside bedroom activities and he will say “oh dont act like you dont get worked up when i do it” and i dont really know what to do at this point.
A 23 year old knows fake rape allegations are wrong. This is inexcusable behaviour. You can respectfully communicate why you’re leaving, which is what OP should do. This is absolutely not ok nor worth the risk.
I need you to know that your simple suggestion set off a light bulb in my brain. For years I’ve been working on helping her contain her own space—she has her own room that’s an office, and I have my desk essentially in a corner in our dining room. But everything in our home is still generally cramped and stuffy. I can honestly say the idea of getting my own space that’s just for me has literally never crossed my mind. We’re planning to move in the next year, so I would like to search for a place with an extra room that I can have as my own comfortable space. It doesn’t fix everything, but I think having something that’s mine to retreat to would help a lot.
As far as you're concerned, if he acts like he isn't ur bf then he isn't, right? Honestly it's so childish, he has removed himself from ur life temporarily but you'll be better off if you follow his steps and remove him completely 🙂
Yeah my ex did this. Tells me one story of a kind of innocent kiss. Ok, that sucks but it was just a kiss. Testing the waters I guess. Then eventually he tells me the whole truth. About that one encounter.
I didn't find out about all the other ones until well after the fact. He had in fact been cheating on me for our entire relationship.
If you don’t have anything in writing, there isn’t much you can do. Never ever loan money you can’t afford to lose. He could just get cops involved because you’re harassing her.
Yup, sometimes people need the sense figuratively “smacked” into them.
This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below.
Edit: pda aggressive not abusive aggressive.
I 25f have been with my husband 33male for about 5 years, married for 2. We have 2 kids together both under 3. Well in the bedroom i like to do rough stuff sometimes like choking spanking etc, well lately in our everyday time he will grab my throat or smack my cheek, mind you its never like super hard or anything and i think he is trying to be sexy? But its makes me nervous when he does it since im worried his parents or brother or god forbid our kids see it and it start a whole thing. We have talked about it but it doesnt help much. Ill say i dont want him to do it outside bedroom activities and he will say “oh dont act like you dont get worked up when i do it” and i dont really know what to do at this point.
My BF is burying me in excuses and I keep believing him and handing him a bigger shovel. What should I do?
I honestly can't believe you've put up with it as long as you have. Leave and find a man who knows how to wipe his ass.
They sell those at Wal-Mart right?
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Am I the only one that thinks its crazy that a teenage daughter is willingly fucking their dads friend? Like how is there not something punitive here?
I guess I can't really see this concept of grooming play out, its still a problem that someones daughter is fucking their father's friend.
“We've been together for only 5 years”.
Only? That's more than enough to commit. Have a shit or get off the pot
A 23 year old knows fake rape allegations are wrong. This is inexcusable behaviour. You can respectfully communicate why you’re leaving, which is what OP should do. This is absolutely not ok nor worth the risk.
I never said that you said that.
I need you to know that your simple suggestion set off a light bulb in my brain. For years I’ve been working on helping her contain her own space—she has her own room that’s an office, and I have my desk essentially in a corner in our dining room. But everything in our home is still generally cramped and stuffy. I can honestly say the idea of getting my own space that’s just for me has literally never crossed my mind. We’re planning to move in the next year, so I would like to search for a place with an extra room that I can have as my own comfortable space. It doesn’t fix everything, but I think having something that’s mine to retreat to would help a lot.
Thank you so much!
As far as you're concerned, if he acts like he isn't ur bf then he isn't, right? Honestly it's so childish, he has removed himself from ur life temporarily but you'll be better off if you follow his steps and remove him completely 🙂
Yeah my ex did this. Tells me one story of a kind of innocent kiss. Ok, that sucks but it was just a kiss. Testing the waters I guess. Then eventually he tells me the whole truth. About that one encounter.
I didn't find out about all the other ones until well after the fact. He had in fact been cheating on me for our entire relationship.
Don't work it out. Move on.
If you don’t have anything in writing, there isn’t much you can do. Never ever loan money you can’t afford to lose. He could just get cops involved because you’re harassing her.
This, 100,000%.