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This is absolutely an abusive relationship. And I would bet good money that when things are “good” it's because you're tiptoeing around, avoiding conflict, and letting him get away with shit he should not because you fear speaking up.
Just because he's not abusive in all the possible ways doesn't mean he's not abusive.
Here's a thought experiment: What would be the reaction if you went to your boss and told them you need them to direct deposit your income into a new account? And it was in your name only? Would you feel safe and empowered to do that?
If not, you are being financially and emotionally abused, at minimum.
I understand that it's hard to see this. I spent ten years in a marriage refusing to believe it was abusive. I just knew that if I could use the right words, have the right attitude, etc, all would be well.
I hope you'll wise up to this sooner than I did. One thing you have going for you is that you have at least one family member who knows this is abuse and therefore you already have someone to go to for support. Start planning your exit and once you leave DO NOT go back. It will be the hardest thing you ever do.
How old is he?
Your deal breakers are yours. You get to own them as well. If it a deal breaker for you, that is all that matters.
That said, deal breakers are also sort of an ultimatum. And that means they should be reserved for things truly important to you.
Finally, I find your application to be a bit wanting. He wants to do something important to him. You are a hard no. He asks you to research the entity as he thinks it will convince you it is ok. You are refusing to do even that. IMHO, that is a bit of a party fowl. (To be clear, research isn’t likely to provide enough information to change your mind).
Let’s say that you want to try one of those two day car racing schools. He is a hard no; he says the instructors are not qualified and you are likely to be killed. Your safety is non-negotiable to him. You tell him that isn’t true and encourages you to research it. You simply refuse.
That is a conversation ender and leaves you feeling like he never even was willing to listen to you. His mind was closed and his refusal to do any research leaves you feeling dismissed, unheard, and being controlled.
Question — was the person she cheated on you with in the picture before you separated?
I wouldn't. You have feelings for her and doing this will only be painful for you. I would let her go and find someone who is excited to be exclusive with you.
When you’re single, you don’t have relationship problems!
And really, why waste time on fixing problems in a relationship? If you have problems, it’s a sign you need to exit.
Typically, relationships are not at all what most “relationship users” think they are.
Let's say that Ethnicity and religion of the other person is a huge taboo thing in the family.
Yes, I agree. I have mentioned the age gap, how creepy the behavior is, and what it makes me feel like as his partner, yet he continues to brush it off like it's NBD. If this was some unattainable woman/IG model I would have less to say about it. Everyone looks to a degree and that's fine, but this girl he potentially sees more than me right now.
Do I give it time and see if her shinyness wears off and he stops? Or do I keep bothering him about it? Of course that requires me to continue violating his privacy which I'm not very comfortable with.
what the fuck? you're incredibly selfish if that's your opinion. you would setting those kids up to extreme mental health issues, especially if you tell them that you just want children, and not to actually be a father
It feels a lot cleaner and most respectful, especially if there's a big financial gap.
Choose him or the cats, and if you choose him know he’ll never make a good husband or father, but do the cats a favour and keep them away from him.
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seems like you want to be right more than you actually want to fix the situation. your anger is misplaced, your father is a creep and is putting his girlfriends comfort above yours. you also sound very immature, of course she is going to talk to him about how you treat her(which seems hostile and unfriendly). if you don’t like it, cut them off and pay your own bills.
Ok, so if I was to go out with some friends for a night out, and we found ourselves outside a strip club and decided to go in, you would want me to check in with you first? To see if that was ok??
If the plan had been to go, say to a ticketed show like one of the traveling shows like Thunder From Downunder, I’d let you know beforehand, because I don’t hide my activities. What would you do if that were the case?
I got a lawyer involved last time we broke up and my ex told me I was a complete idiot for wasting time and money on a “useless lawyer” because she was willing to be amicable but the emotional abuse never stopped and the lawyer couldn’t do anything anyway
Yeah but we were “talking” long before that and we’ve known each other for a long time /: we talk constantly 16+ hr phone calls every single day, when we’re at work whatever we call and talk. So it feels way longer than what it is. but yeah maybe it is just too early.
I wrote him a letter and took it to him with a Lego flower bouquet two weeks after I broke things off in October and he wasn’t wanting to get back together. I texted him a few days ago, asking him to give the dogs a squeeze from me and that I missed him, which is when he told me not to text him about my feelings for him and that I wasn’t good for him.
I personally do not see your problem except that she lied (seeing your reaction now i understand why she said it as it was nothing she was proud of). I personally was always prude and had mostly long term relationships. What does it matter how many guys she slept with? Also she didnt have that amount of relationships but hook ups! You know how much hook ups suck??? (I had 1 and it was completely awful) Also you do not know why she had that many hook ups. Friends i know who where “party girls” and more easy for a certain time was usually some emotional baggage and then feeling insecure and worthless. That was their way to feel loved… they cried on my shoulder so often… I still dont get your reaction and judgement. Why ist that a problem for you? What are you insecurities?
Honey, go get the education you deserve, and leave your mother to worry about the rapture. She isn't going to change, so just leave. You're a grown woman now. Please don't let her hold you back from reaching for your dreams!
I mean they hate condoms because they take so much of the feeling away. I agree we should all do our best, but, I don't want to beat OP up about that… I'm sure she already knows it was a mistake.
Wow…. OP…. your boss is a predator
Some of these comments are a bit mean, but they are completely true OP.
You need to take off the rose colored glasses and see this for what it is.
Your husband doesnt want you sexually and you are most likely a beard at this point. It has been 6 years, he has never once wanted you sexually, and is now moving in this “friend” who he would do anything for.
You need to gain a little self respect for yourself and realize that you dont need to be in this situation. Why are you going to burn yourself to keep this man warm? He is keeping himself warm with his “friend”. You are in the backseat of your marriage.
You need a life partner OP, not someone who happily puts you on the sideline like this.
Yeah her hormones are an excuse, and a poor one. Hormones might make you irritable and moody, they don't make you say awful things to your partner.
She's got no argument. If anyone is to blame its both of them, he's not any more at fault then she is.
If you really wanna be dumb, he didn't consent to raping her
It is, he told me that before.
I missed a turn while driving and it took us 10 minutes out of the way. She was visibility irritated
Ok I never really understood that psychology speak but I can tell you what it looks like to me. Unless you missed some important event because of that it sounds like she has an unresolved grudge which is triggered by such innocent mistakes. She is not happy about you in general. Maybe you did or didn't do something else.
I understand why you feel that way – I mean, you've had a crush on her for a very very long time. But that doesn't mean she's also harbored feelings for you for that amount of time. You wouldn't be gaslighting her by letting her know that you feel a bit insecure, but I do think it's pretty black and white to think just because it took her a little while to find you, that you're lesser of an option.
At the end of the day, you just have to put her past relationships in the past. What matters is that she is choosing you now and tells you you're the love of her life. I mean, that's a pretty great feeling, and whether or not you trust that information is up to you. She sounds really sweet and sometimes it just takes a bit for one heart to find another. I wish y'all lots of happiness.
P.S. – don't discount yourself by thinking she's only picking you as an option! I'm sure you have a lot of love to give and will care for her in a way none of those other guys did, and I'm sure your gf sees that too. There's a reason you've been together for a year!
We're already having hard conversations, and she never flat out says “I do not ever want kids”. The most I've gotten from her is “I may never want kids”, and apparently I'm dense enough to keep thinking “so you're saying there's a chance”.
Ask the logical question: What can you do to improve your skills.
Thats so sad tho like I was really sure this time?
That makes sense, but was I understanding it right?
Hot take, if you’re in that level of CC debt you should be focused on getting that paid off and not worrying about concert tickets.
You can’t put all of your eggs in the MCAT basket.
Also, maybe instead of asking Reddit if it’s okay to break up with him you should sit down and have a talk? Like just discuss all of this? Because you’ll have to regardless and now that debt is involved and your only plan is to get in to medical school, a laughable plan at best, it’d be best to not try and figure the debt out alone.
Mid-life crisis we don’t last forever. She is going to wake up and see how much she has lost.
Oh shut up.
OP isn't putting other women at risk, her boss is.
OP is completely innocent in this scenario.
In a perfect world, yes she would have been certainly successful in her report against her boss.
But we don't live in a perfect world. She can face serious backlash that could permanently affect her career. OP has a reason to think that her boss is untouchable. She knows what her situation is. OP is “not putting other women at risk” by not reporting this. OP is trying to survive this in her own way.
If you're adult enough not to use birth control, you're adult enough to work with your partner on the best solution for the pregnancy/ending the pregnancy.
When I bought my condo, the previous owner was a handyman/superintendent. I've never used his services in the 20+ years I've owned my place.
OTOH, 15 years ago I did get romantically involved with a contractor. And even though we've broken up numerous times (because he was a liar and cheater) I've actually maintained our friendship because, well, he owed me.
Still there were some things I got a handyman for.
I might not be the best example.
Whatever you don’t, dont fucking ignore that pit feeling in your stomach man. I repeat, DO NOT IGNORE THAT FEELING.
I am sorry this happened to you. Please go and get an STD test. Also reach out to a RAINN it is a sexual assault hotline. They can provide support and direct you to mental health services. Please consider going to your local law enforcement and reporting this sexual assault and rape. I hope you find healing.
Na I’m not put on this planet to please anyone let alone you. I’m glad you didn’t waste your time providing me with your advice because I would have cared about it as much as I do these comments. Thanks though.
Red flag. To casually drop suicide into a conversation about a failed quiz is irresponsible and manipulative. Number one, if it’s true, then there’s nothing you can do to stop her. She needs help that you are not qualified to give. If I were you, I’d express my concerns to her but also my disappointment that she would disregard my feelings for her so casually, over a quiz?
Make a plan to leave. Don’t say a word. I wouldn’t even bother explaining that I know. Just disappear like a phantom and block him. You do not deserve this. Do not let either of them waste another moment of your time.
Is there anyway to fix this ?
She sounds like she’s trying to keep an image. If this is the first time that guest has ever been over, then like the saying goes-the first impression is the lasting impression. You have every right to go straight to your bedroom if your unwell but statement above will hold true
My petty ass would just turn up separately and say “I'm sorry I'm late, work was a nightmare and I got caught in traffic. I hope I haven't missed anything. What are you ordering to start? I think I'll have that. Waiter, I'd like a glass of Chablis, please” and just pretend I was always meant to be there. Would he really turn around and say “But you weren't even supposed to be here” to a table full of people…
You're actually lucky that you can't have children with this man. Early stages of the relationship is important even though you're not exclusive yet. It's when you build the foundation of your entire relationship. Don't invalidate your feelings. What they did was disgusting. You didn't give consent and were clueless till now. Rethink this whole thing and decide if you can move past it.
Did she meet him or is it only text?
I know she won’t go as far as cheating, but a few things have added up to make go down the attention route.
I had an experience once …
But my wife wants my daughter gone.
So what does she say when you tell her that your daughter is staying with you? Your daughter shouldn't have to live in a house where she isn't wanted, its not fair to her.
I think I’m just looking to understand whether my feelings are biased, or if there’s any hope I should have to believe otherwise
Ahh there's that open minded love your neighbor type of Christianity that's always so welcoming … And they wonder why people might be atheists? …
Surely the title should be ex-boyfriend…
You should have one extra box beyond the number of cats you cat. (#cats + 1) boxes. If you are changing your cats litter boxes then why does it matter if you doing those too?
That aside. If you feel he’s lazy, uncaring, unclean and checked out then you know the answer. Why are you dating and carrying him?