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If you only see her weight to the point that you have trouble just being nice to her, go ahead and break up. Life is full of fluctuations, and if you can't commit to your partner through thick and thin it's not the right relationship.
If he won't take counselling seriously I'm not sure you have many other options. He has trust/insecurity issues that you can't talk your way out of. He needs help, but he needs to want to be better or it won't stick.
Hey, been there. Weird religious upbringing, Internet did not help as it showed all kinds of things that i thought was nrmal. My SO took it … well? Like just tip a toe in to telling them stuff, instead of jumping to you like incest furry porn.
My boyfriend sleeps over at his friends house occasionally, a lot of his friends are girls, I'm fine with him having a sleepover as long as they don't sleep in the same bed. He's his own person and I trust him completely. But I do get how someone can be uncomfortable with it, especially if they're more traditional.
He’s trying. I promise he is, but depression is a son of a bitch and he won’t be able to do it by himself.
I would suggest bringing these issues up to him gently and ask if he would consider getting help. Either through therapy or through medication.
I did Zoloft which was fantastic at making me not worry about anything—but I also wasn’t worried about my weight or cleanliness. So I was also prescribed Wellbutrin which is like a mild aderall which cancelled out the negative affects of Zoloft. And both of those medications had me feeling like a functional human being.
I’m not on antidepressants anymore, but they did help. And they help with teaching your brain “this is how a normal person would react in this circumstance” kind of thing.
Honestly, your concern and your support for him would go a long way. I’m not sure if an ultimatum would work, like “do this or I can’t be with you anymore”. Because honestly it’s the truth and it would give him the kick in the butt to get better, but it’s not him himself wanting to get help. It’s the threat of you leaving that would make him seek help. And seeking help won’t do anything unless he actually wants to get better.
So don’t beat yourself up if he’s not ready to get better yet. Sometimes depression feels like a comforting thing. It’s hard to explain.
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Can we just stop for a second at him having images of big breasted women (not his wife) as his Lock Screen . I’m blown away.
If you only see her weight to the point that you have trouble just being nice to her, go ahead and break up. Life is full of fluctuations, and if you can't commit to your partner through thick and thin it's not the right relationship.
Were these text messages or app notifications. If the app is uninstalled the play store wouldn't really do that.
If he won't take counselling seriously I'm not sure you have many other options. He has trust/insecurity issues that you can't talk your way out of. He needs help, but he needs to want to be better or it won't stick.
Hey, been there. Weird religious upbringing, Internet did not help as it showed all kinds of things that i thought was nrmal. My SO took it … well? Like just tip a toe in to telling them stuff, instead of jumping to you like incest furry porn.
From the very bottom of my heart, go fuck yourself and leave this girl alone you self absorbed entitled abusive prick.
My boyfriend sleeps over at his friends house occasionally, a lot of his friends are girls, I'm fine with him having a sleepover as long as they don't sleep in the same bed. He's his own person and I trust him completely. But I do get how someone can be uncomfortable with it, especially if they're more traditional.
He’s trying. I promise he is, but depression is a son of a bitch and he won’t be able to do it by himself.
I would suggest bringing these issues up to him gently and ask if he would consider getting help. Either through therapy or through medication.
I did Zoloft which was fantastic at making me not worry about anything—but I also wasn’t worried about my weight or cleanliness. So I was also prescribed Wellbutrin which is like a mild aderall which cancelled out the negative affects of Zoloft. And both of those medications had me feeling like a functional human being.
I’m not on antidepressants anymore, but they did help. And they help with teaching your brain “this is how a normal person would react in this circumstance” kind of thing.
Honestly, your concern and your support for him would go a long way. I’m not sure if an ultimatum would work, like “do this or I can’t be with you anymore”. Because honestly it’s the truth and it would give him the kick in the butt to get better, but it’s not him himself wanting to get help. It’s the threat of you leaving that would make him seek help. And seeking help won’t do anything unless he actually wants to get better.
So don’t beat yourself up if he’s not ready to get better yet. Sometimes depression feels like a comforting thing. It’s hard to explain.
We aren't gay ? But no she just needed a babysitter so I wanted to check if my gf could be one