That’s not on you, not even a little bit. You didn’t know. Maybe fooling around with an ex wasn’t the best idea regardless, but you’re single and you didn’t know he had this other thing, so it was two consenting adults having fun. You are not guilty in any way, he is. If he cared that much about her, he would’ve thought of her before doing the deed. He feels guilty about it (as he should) and wants to drag you down with him and cast the guilt onto someone else to make himself feel better. Personally, I wouldn’t tell her, it’s on him to come clean or get found out, but I’d make some time and space away from him and the situation as a whole to help yourself heal and get past him.
That’s not on you, not even a little bit. You didn’t know. Maybe fooling around with an ex wasn’t the best idea regardless, but you’re single and you didn’t know he had this other thing, so it was two consenting adults having fun. You are not guilty in any way, he is. If he cared that much about her, he would’ve thought of her before doing the deed. He feels guilty about it (as he should) and wants to drag you down with him and cast the guilt onto someone else to make himself feel better. Personally, I wouldn’t tell her, it’s on him to come clean or get found out, but I’d make some time and space away from him and the situation as a whole to help yourself heal and get past him.
Yeah I know the one, I remember it. Its an awful situation honestly
She's right, you deserve way better than her.
To come home and tell you that, pure disrespect
Don’t talk to your girlfriends about this. His history is none of their business and it doesn’t sound like he gave you consent to talk about it.
As far as the actual things he did, his body, his choice. Make sure you don’t shame him for anything. He did nothing wrong.
The herpes thing is something you need to bring up and he definitely should get tested.
Ppl will give you bullshit about personality but realistically ppl only care about your looks and how much money you have
Make more money, go to the gym more and eat less food
Women don’t want projects, they wait for the winner at the finish line.
Control what you can control. Good luck on the grind! Stay strong