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Date: December 27, 2022
That really was my logic. Whatever happens at the end of OUR experiment, we have kept in touch and been able to not dump stress and frustration on each other.
I really do feel for her – like I said, I also have PTSD & come from a hoarder family, but I left home at 16. I'm now disabled and dependent on other people as I can't work enough (I'm working on that – the reason I left nannying was that I couldn't actually work on my feet any more). I guess my mother's insistence that everything was my fault and I had to change MY attitude (playing in front of 2 way mirrors from the age of 6) just kinda made me feel like… ok, if I can't make sure people aren't disturbed or upset by my behaviour, the one thing I can change is how much they're exposed to it.
I also know MY PTSD doesn't automatically mean my boyfriend has to understand, take it, and sacrifice his own wellbeing. I'm here now, we're spending the holidays together. We're still a couple. Because I stepped back, stopped being butt hurt that my partner found it really hard to be around me 24/7 while I cried every time the NHS cancelled my treatments, or told me I can't adjust my medications, and realised he just… needs a break.
It's so sad she can't see past her own needs to communicate rationally. God sometimes I'm grateful I can switch into problem solving logic robot brain when I need to. I feel things intensely, but I can also imagine what other people are feeling and listen for clues as to what might help THEM, double check if I've interpreted something correctly and ask how they feel about my dedications, and then try and come at things from a place of “we care about each other so if we're going to get through this, we have to handle our own needs, the other person's, and not stick to clichés and “norms” like boyfriends and girlfriends always live together. I'm not being unemotional when I'm in problem solving, logical mode. It's not uncaring. I try to use the ability to “shut down emotions” as breathing space to BE considerate and communicate healthily! It's so much easier if you can hold in your hurt or step back from it.
This situation sucks hard for both of them, but in the post she describes some really disturbing habits (lashing out etc) and if she wants any chance that this will end well, she needs to support him, ask his reasons, ask if he has a timeline in mind for her joining him or whether he could help her find a roommate situation or studio apartment nearby so they can chill and move back in when they've BOTH had time to recover.
True! I know she mentioned she wasn't free until tomorrow night since she mentioned doing something tomorrow night after I asked her to go check said restaurant last Wednesday. Instead of me picking the day, she was the one to pick the day we met up. We agreed on Sunday due to mine and her availability and was okay with Sunday.
I did send a how was your weekend text an hour ago and pending a response. I was asking this question because I would think you would take a few seconds to check messages and respond so you don't let the other person think you don't wanna message or anything anymore.
Wouldn't you wanna be in contact with a match so you don't feel like you're being ghosted. She didn't say she wasn't busy to text but just said she wasn't free to do something until Tuesday night.
Eh, I agree it's racist, just trying to give some thoughts for the OP to ponder. I think it's possible the “power dynamic” thing is more what the OP's boyfriend meant and just worded it badly. A bit more understandable, especially if he's experienced a lot of racism against him from white people. As I said though, I'd likely end the relationship over it, I want a life partner, not a therapy project.
exactly!