I do not want to violate OPSEC and give away too much specifics about her base location, parameters, etc. But, I can confirm that she is in basic right now due to her fort location, timeline, and limitations around her cellphone. If she was doing AIT at the base she is at she would have her phone among other freedoms. The base she is at currently also does not have her specific AIT. Her specific AIT is in Texas, and she told me she would be going there next, but Texas does not do OCS. This is why it makes much more sense she lied and is doing basic –> AIT and not AIT –> OCS. Once I get her address I will know 100%, but as of now everything lines up with her being in basic and attending AIT after, as I don't think she is even eligible for OCS.
Okay, so first he scammed you of $1400 and got you kicked out of your apartment. And you decided to stay friends with him. Not only are you being friends with other him, but youâre letting his girlfriend stay with you for free while his momâs house has spare bedrooms? I think you need to be smarter about picking your friends.
As for the can and stuff, youâre her landlord, for free nonetheless. If you have things you donât like her doing, thereâs no âfighting usâ over it. You put your foot down, and you tell her âmy house my rules.â If she doesnât like it there, she can go fight with her boyfriend about moving in with him. If she needs to use the can, she can leave the apartment and use it.
Similarly, thereâs no âleaving her with us.â Youâre her free landlords, you can decide when to kick her out. Is her condition and situation saddening? Yes. But you didnât cause it, and youâre not responsible for helping her indefinitely. You gave them more than enough time to get a place. September to February is 5 months⌠it took me under a month to find my apartment when I got my first job.
Your wife is being beyond petty and mean, she is also defaming a girl over her own insecurities. And if Gabbie is smart and realizes your wife can be charged for slander and defamation. IF I were you as well, Start responding to her posts on social media, and set the record straight, with the truth. As far as your wife giving you the cold shoulder for pointing out, she is wrong and being a rotten human being. All I can say is if she continues to bully Gabbie and act like this, it is NOT a good example to set for your children and you need to consider if you want this kind of atmosphere for your kids and if this is the kind of woman you want to continue to be with.
I've done that many times. And that's helped to some extent but other times he's just persisted. It extends to many things, like keep your phone screen off when you don't use it…don't put your phone screen face down because it's getting dirty, wear your mask properly, wear a jacket, the list is endless. I get that some of those are meant for good reasons, but in totality it feels like I'm just being constantly spoken to like I'm a child or that he's an authority figure.
That's a perfectly legitimate reason to end it. You have very different standards for cleanliness and having normal items available, like paper towels.
Someone who won't hang up or fold their clothes, or have a tidy bathroom, is probably not mature enough to be in an adult relationship.
I'd start preparing for and thinking about how you want to share custody of your baby. If you can't trust her, you don't have much of a relationship. It's absolutely inappropriate for her to be sharing details of your relationship with her ex. This guy is a deadbeat dad who abandoned his child. He deserves no respect. I'm not even sure it's healthy for him to meet his daughter, because it's likely he'll just ditch her again which will create new wounds and cause her more heart ache than she has previously experienced. Your ex needs to talk to a child psychologist about how to handle this reintroduction, especially if this child is autistic. The priority here needs to be the child's best interests not the douchebag who dipped the moment she was born.
You are throwing the best years of your life away because you are too afraid to make a scary choice. I get it, itâs hard to call off a wedding so late in the game. BUT, itâs harder to get divorced. It will ultimately be a lot more messy and expensive and it will cost you soooo many years of a life you could be living happily. This man doesnât value you. He doesnât care about you as much as you care about him. He is not the horse you want to tie your wagon to. Make the hard choice – it will pay off in the long run.
You made the smart decision. No one is ever âevilâ for ending a relationship and kicking someone out of their apartment. Donât let him make you doubt yourself. Heâs cheating and you made the right choice.
I knew that was coming đ Just having an extremely hard time accepting it đ
Just tell him you feel your expectations no longer match and as such you want to end the fwb situation
Iâm also weird about plastic surgery. Itâs more about reacting to a body thatâs been compromised in some way so itâs a little scary.
Get it away. A man for you wonât care.
I do not want to violate OPSEC and give away too much specifics about her base location, parameters, etc. But, I can confirm that she is in basic right now due to her fort location, timeline, and limitations around her cellphone. If she was doing AIT at the base she is at she would have her phone among other freedoms. The base she is at currently also does not have her specific AIT. Her specific AIT is in Texas, and she told me she would be going there next, but Texas does not do OCS. This is why it makes much more sense she lied and is doing basic –> AIT and not AIT –> OCS. Once I get her address I will know 100%, but as of now everything lines up with her being in basic and attending AIT after, as I don't think she is even eligible for OCS.
Okay, so first he scammed you of $1400 and got you kicked out of your apartment. And you decided to stay friends with him. Not only are you being friends with other him, but youâre letting his girlfriend stay with you for free while his momâs house has spare bedrooms? I think you need to be smarter about picking your friends.
As for the can and stuff, youâre her landlord, for free nonetheless. If you have things you donât like her doing, thereâs no âfighting usâ over it. You put your foot down, and you tell her âmy house my rules.â If she doesnât like it there, she can go fight with her boyfriend about moving in with him. If she needs to use the can, she can leave the apartment and use it.
Similarly, thereâs no âleaving her with us.â Youâre her free landlords, you can decide when to kick her out. Is her condition and situation saddening? Yes. But you didnât cause it, and youâre not responsible for helping her indefinitely. You gave them more than enough time to get a place. September to February is 5 months⌠it took me under a month to find my apartment when I got my first job.
Your wife is being beyond petty and mean, she is also defaming a girl over her own insecurities. And if Gabbie is smart and realizes your wife can be charged for slander and defamation. IF I were you as well, Start responding to her posts on social media, and set the record straight, with the truth. As far as your wife giving you the cold shoulder for pointing out, she is wrong and being a rotten human being. All I can say is if she continues to bully Gabbie and act like this, it is NOT a good example to set for your children and you need to consider if you want this kind of atmosphere for your kids and if this is the kind of woman you want to continue to be with.
I've done that many times. And that's helped to some extent but other times he's just persisted. It extends to many things, like keep your phone screen off when you don't use it…don't put your phone screen face down because it's getting dirty, wear your mask properly, wear a jacket, the list is endless. I get that some of those are meant for good reasons, but in totality it feels like I'm just being constantly spoken to like I'm a child or that he's an authority figure.
That's a perfectly legitimate reason to end it. You have very different standards for cleanliness and having normal items available, like paper towels.
Someone who won't hang up or fold their clothes, or have a tidy bathroom, is probably not mature enough to be in an adult relationship.
You aren't asking or expecting too much.
I'd start preparing for and thinking about how you want to share custody of your baby. If you can't trust her, you don't have much of a relationship. It's absolutely inappropriate for her to be sharing details of your relationship with her ex. This guy is a deadbeat dad who abandoned his child. He deserves no respect. I'm not even sure it's healthy for him to meet his daughter, because it's likely he'll just ditch her again which will create new wounds and cause her more heart ache than she has previously experienced. Your ex needs to talk to a child psychologist about how to handle this reintroduction, especially if this child is autistic. The priority here needs to be the child's best interests not the douchebag who dipped the moment she was born.
At least the first sentence in the comment is accurate.
You are throwing the best years of your life away because you are too afraid to make a scary choice. I get it, itâs hard to call off a wedding so late in the game. BUT, itâs harder to get divorced. It will ultimately be a lot more messy and expensive and it will cost you soooo many years of a life you could be living happily. This man doesnât value you. He doesnât care about you as much as you care about him. He is not the horse you want to tie your wagon to. Make the hard choice – it will pay off in the long run.
You made the smart decision. No one is ever âevilâ for ending a relationship and kicking someone out of their apartment. Donât let him make you doubt yourself. Heâs cheating and you made the right choice.
I mean then yes he has been living a lie this whole time.
you'd …. rather die? Like thats great that you're loyal, but that is dumb as fuck.
Someone breaks into your house and rapes your wife, and you're like, “nah, I don't want to deal with my emotions, just take me out brah”
you need therapy.