I definitely did not grind on him. I agree I shouldn’t have drank that much but we’ve had so many fun times drinking together. I drank too much but I did not realise until I had blacked out. To me we were all dancing together including the ladies that man was with and my boyfriend
Therapy. You need to learn how to exist without being an energy/emotional vampire.
Try friends and family for meeting some of your social needs – spread your need for human contact and socializing around among several dozen different people so that you're not overwhelming a single person by demanding hours of emotional labor daily.
All that said, I'm not understanding why you're in this relationship in the first place. You don't seem to be getting anything you want out of it, and neither of you seem to like you are all that interested in the other.
this. i think you need to look deep down and figure out if you can A. trust her and B. help her process what happened. If you cant do either, I say go your own separate way. It sucks but you wont be happy if youre worrying about this for the rest of your life.
Would just like to say that her sisters/friends are horrible for allowing that to happen…
Just from a selfish standpoint, because clearly you aren’t capable of much else, do you want to risk the pregnancy just to ask her to get surgery, or to “give you a hall pass”?
If you think that wouldn’t be a distressing conversation for her, to give your reasons as to all of this, then you are delusional.
Same with the surgery, it would be an unnecessary risk to the pregnancy.
Stress can cause a spontaneous abortion. You really want to risk it, over a scar?
Go back to therapy. See another therapist if you like. Don’t put your issues on your wife. Figure out how to be a better person & support her through the pregnancy & birth. It is literally the very least you could do.
She was a bad girlfriend that had also that huge red flag that you didn't want to see. Someone that doesn't keep their life clean from drama is a walking talking red flag.
Fingering HURTS HER. She said it hurts every time no matter what. She should not have to give up that boundary and go through a painful sexual experience she does NOT enjoy to preserve his fragile ego. No means no.
That 10% should far outweigh the 90%. Just the money is bad enough let alone the rest
Yikes. Big time creepy.
Well, tell him that you tested him too and he failed and you would never date him anymore.
It’s not a problem unless he ONLY has friends that are women
I definitely did not grind on him. I agree I shouldn’t have drank that much but we’ve had so many fun times drinking together. I drank too much but I did not realise until I had blacked out. To me we were all dancing together including the ladies that man was with and my boyfriend
Therapy. You need to learn how to exist without being an energy/emotional vampire.
Try friends and family for meeting some of your social needs – spread your need for human contact and socializing around among several dozen different people so that you're not overwhelming a single person by demanding hours of emotional labor daily.
All that said, I'm not understanding why you're in this relationship in the first place. You don't seem to be getting anything you want out of it, and neither of you seem to like you are all that interested in the other.
this. i think you need to look deep down and figure out if you can A. trust her and B. help her process what happened. If you cant do either, I say go your own separate way. It sucks but you wont be happy if youre worrying about this for the rest of your life.
Would just like to say that her sisters/friends are horrible for allowing that to happen…
Okay, so anyway, it's normal to inform people that you are closing an account if it's a joint account. I'm not sure why you're questioning that.
Yeah. Friend could have absolutely supported OP in a way that OP would have been more comfortable, but he pretty much says “I'm too lazy for that.”
He is the one on fire. You think anyone chooses to have obsessive delusions?
Stress could harm your unborn child.
Just from a selfish standpoint, because clearly you aren’t capable of much else, do you want to risk the pregnancy just to ask her to get surgery, or to “give you a hall pass”?
If you think that wouldn’t be a distressing conversation for her, to give your reasons as to all of this, then you are delusional.
Same with the surgery, it would be an unnecessary risk to the pregnancy.
Stress can cause a spontaneous abortion. You really want to risk it, over a scar?
Go back to therapy. See another therapist if you like. Don’t put your issues on your wife. Figure out how to be a better person & support her through the pregnancy & birth. It is literally the very least you could do.
Oh thanks. I guess the 'no couples in relationships' reason stands true. It's really hard for OP then, understandably devastating.
He was I agree – I should have specified. The other things he said were just based about women and how they had no worth beyond being used for sex.
She was a bad girlfriend that had also that huge red flag that you didn't want to see. Someone that doesn't keep their life clean from drama is a walking talking red flag.
Because that person is an insecure fuckhead? Keep the dog, re-home the boyfriend.
Fingering HURTS HER. She said it hurts every time no matter what. She should not have to give up that boundary and go through a painful sexual experience she does NOT enjoy to preserve his fragile ego. No means no.