Exactly. I believe this is what leads to women fighting over men. He’s telling one woman one thing while telling the other something totally different. Sometimes the girlfriend doesn’t even know he’s married just like the wife doesn’t know anything about her and if she does, all she is hearing is his side about the other woman. She in turn believes his lies and is so quick to turn on the other woman who has no clue that she even existed.
And the “I assume the younger generation does better”. At what? An orgasm? ? If the younger generations are having more orgasms, it's probably due to toy play, oral, ect. Which doesn't change the statistic
You say you don't want to be naive but you are. He didn't say he would quit drinking, just he wouldn't drink to that level. You're both being naive. He's obviously an addict and has an additive personality. He was a cocaine addict now he might be an alcoholic. He's just trading one substance for another. Alcoholics can't just drink a little bit. Once they have one drink they won't stop. He probably drinks more then you know he does. I know because I did it myself when I was younger. I would drink before I went out or home by myself. No one knew how much I was drinking. And no, you can't always tell when someone has been drinking. Especially if you've built up a tolerance to alcohol. It's going to take more of it to get you drunk. When I did go out most of the time no one knew I had already been drinking. I watched an interview once with a rock star, I forget who, but he said he would be stone drunk but he could act sober and no one knew it or how bad he was. You seem to make a lot of excuses for him. You also say “as far as she remembers” they didn't do anything but neither she or he remembers so you don't really know that. Most of the time being drunk or on drugs gives us the courage to do things we want to but don't have the courage to. When he says in his texts he's been thinking about this women for a long time, believe it. When he tells them he loves them it's not ridiculous and he does know them. He works with them which means he spends quite a bit of time with them and may talk to them quite a bit actually. Did you never have a friend or someone you knew that you had feelings for but were too scared to tell them?
Its a flame, you don’t know what he is like after work, you don’t know his faults, you like the image of him. Haha, its very naïve. But you seen the worst in your bf, and still love him. You been through the highs and lows with your bf, and still love him and he seen the worst and best in you too.
Sure, lets say you date this new guy, ohh wait, a few months later and you meet his friends and one of them is even better than him! You go from infatuation to infatuation, and you wake up alone.
Love is a choice, yeah you know your partner and it is exciting to meet someone new. But set boundaries, keep it friends only, don’t do things out of work with him. Invest the effort into your relationship not with him. You are setting yourself up to cheat.
Things are perfect with your man, but you still are tempted. If you are not content with stability and need drama, that is a deeper issue.
Exactly. I believe this is what leads to women fighting over men. He’s telling one woman one thing while telling the other something totally different. Sometimes the girlfriend doesn’t even know he’s married just like the wife doesn’t know anything about her and if she does, all she is hearing is his side about the other woman. She in turn believes his lies and is so quick to turn on the other woman who has no clue that she even existed.
And the “I assume the younger generation does better”. At what? An orgasm? ? If the younger generations are having more orgasms, it's probably due to toy play, oral, ect. Which doesn't change the statistic
honestly, wouldn’t be surprised
You say you don't want to be naive but you are. He didn't say he would quit drinking, just he wouldn't drink to that level. You're both being naive. He's obviously an addict and has an additive personality. He was a cocaine addict now he might be an alcoholic. He's just trading one substance for another. Alcoholics can't just drink a little bit. Once they have one drink they won't stop. He probably drinks more then you know he does. I know because I did it myself when I was younger. I would drink before I went out or home by myself. No one knew how much I was drinking. And no, you can't always tell when someone has been drinking. Especially if you've built up a tolerance to alcohol. It's going to take more of it to get you drunk. When I did go out most of the time no one knew I had already been drinking. I watched an interview once with a rock star, I forget who, but he said he would be stone drunk but he could act sober and no one knew it or how bad he was. You seem to make a lot of excuses for him. You also say “as far as she remembers” they didn't do anything but neither she or he remembers so you don't really know that. Most of the time being drunk or on drugs gives us the courage to do things we want to but don't have the courage to. When he says in his texts he's been thinking about this women for a long time, believe it. When he tells them he loves them it's not ridiculous and he does know them. He works with them which means he spends quite a bit of time with them and may talk to them quite a bit actually. Did you never have a friend or someone you knew that you had feelings for but were too scared to tell them?
It's weird. Why does she need to be updated about your life without her?
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Its a flame, you don’t know what he is like after work, you don’t know his faults, you like the image of him. Haha, its very naïve. But you seen the worst in your bf, and still love him. You been through the highs and lows with your bf, and still love him and he seen the worst and best in you too.
Sure, lets say you date this new guy, ohh wait, a few months later and you meet his friends and one of them is even better than him! You go from infatuation to infatuation, and you wake up alone.
Love is a choice, yeah you know your partner and it is exciting to meet someone new. But set boundaries, keep it friends only, don’t do things out of work with him. Invest the effort into your relationship not with him. You are setting yourself up to cheat.
Things are perfect with your man, but you still are tempted. If you are not content with stability and need drama, that is a deeper issue.
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I’m a little confused by one thing, you call him your fiancé and your husband. Which is he?
Okay, so can your boyfriend be the bigspoon for a female friend of his? Aslong as he doesn't get a boner, right?
Due to the genders involved it is taken far less seriously. The op isn't horrible for being concerned.