I’m(F20) tired of pretending that I’m not happy that I’m pregnant with (M25)s baby.

I am 28 weeks pregnant with my first child and you know what? I’m HAPPY, but I’m not “allowed” to express this. My older sister (F27) has fertility issues and was told in her teens that her chances of having kids is very slim. Unfortunately she has miscarried twice, with one of those times being this year.

I found out I was pregnant shortly after her miscarriage. No one really had anything positive to say and I was advised by many family members to wait a while until I told my sister. I told her when I was around 16 weeks. Even after I told her, I was still advised to keep things private. One day, I just decided to post on instagram that I was having a baby. My cousin messaged me shortly after telling me that that was so insensitive of me to do and I need to take it down and shit like that.

Thanksgiving was like a week ago and I decided to spend it with my side of the family (and I was alone because my boyfriend decided to spend it with his family). Mind you, I’m in my 3rd trimester, so anyone can practically tell that im pregnant regardless of what I wear. When I showed up, my aunt told me that I needed to change before my sister got there because my bump was too "showy".

And not only that, but while we were all together, all the focus switched to me and I just kept getting told I’m too young, and I should focus on other things, not a baby. They went as far as to suggest that I give my baby to my sister.

When I spoke up, I was told that they were just trying to look out for me and help me considering I’m young and pregnant. I call bullshit, because if they were really just trying to support me, wouldn’t they try their best to be by my side rather than keep trying to take away from my pregnancy? Is it just me, or is this going beyond protecting my sister/worried for me since I'm younger?