She has already decided to not stay with you by cheating. There nothing else to talk about with her. You will never trust her in the future and you shouldn’t trust her now.
Go see a lawyer and get this done. Get to a good therapist too. It’s going to be ok. You will be ok.
I am really sorry for all of what you and your brother are enduring. So sorry. Find some sort of support group and if you can still afford therapy, get it. You deserve to have someone be your ally and a constant source of stability. Set some boundaries to take care of yourself too. Hopefully he will be connected with mental health resources so that he can begin healing too. If he refuses to seek help, you may have to make a very hard decision about taking care of him. He can’t take you down with him. You both deserve better. Good luck.
I am really sorry for all of what you and your brother are enduring. So sorry. Find some sort of support group and if you can still afford therapy, get it. You deserve to have someone be your ally and a constant source of stability. Set some boundaries to take care of yourself too. Hopefully he will be connected with mental health resources so that he can begin healing too. If he refuses to seek help, you may have to make a very hard decision about taking care of him. He can’t take you down with him. You both deserve better. Good luck.
U didnt throw away anything she did…. shes lied to you cheated on you and went through a pregnancy termination all while pretending to love u. Dont let her talk u into staying…. Tell her you wont be her 2nd choice and that u know of her other man and the pregnancy and youre done. Find someone who wont treat you like trash. Shes made her decision and she cant take it back… She lied and manipulated you to the point u were unaware of all this so she WILL do it again even if she stops w this particular guy F her Make sure everyone u know as a couple knows why u left bc she will play the victim and try to get people to tuen against u when she realizes youre done
A part of growing and maturing is understanding that genitals and their fluids don’t smell like a field of flowers. If you are both such total virgins, your boyfriend might not have realized that himself yet. He might have expected something much more…. Floral scented. When in reality both male and female sex organs and their fluids have their own type of scents and those scents aren’t bad things. Musk is just the natural smell of human. Natural odor. Not sweaty or bad odor. That’s just how they smell. Unless there is a STRONG pungent smell you can also smell coming from there, then that maybe worth a dr visit. But it is very immature of your boyfriend to constantly be bringing it up with other people. Tell him to stop. What if you brought up how he gagged and acted like a baby being asked to eat vegetable? Would he think it’s funny then?
He's been doing small fixes, changing lightbulbs etc, moving heavy furniture, installed the washing machine. He also arranged our new wifi installation, which I didn't volunteer to do, because we already have good wifi and I didn't think it was necessary; but if he wants to get better wifi I won't tell him not to.
You tell her no.
She’s already married to you, already has a child on the way, and this isn’t the 1800’s when asking for approval for those things was a requirement.
What she probably wants to do is rub his race in how well she is doing. And your reply that is the same. No.
You tell her that lowering herself to that level is horrible, and it shows disrespect to her ex, to herself, to you and to your relationship.
Kinks are common enough for it to be pretty normal.
Watch out, maybe she has a kink for their partner snooping!
She has already decided to not stay with you by cheating. There nothing else to talk about with her. You will never trust her in the future and you shouldn’t trust her now.
Go see a lawyer and get this done. Get to a good therapist too. It’s going to be ok. You will be ok.
I am really sorry for all of what you and your brother are enduring. So sorry. Find some sort of support group and if you can still afford therapy, get it. You deserve to have someone be your ally and a constant source of stability. Set some boundaries to take care of yourself too. Hopefully he will be connected with mental health resources so that he can begin healing too. If he refuses to seek help, you may have to make a very hard decision about taking care of him. He can’t take you down with him. You both deserve better. Good luck.
I am really sorry for all of what you and your brother are enduring. So sorry. Find some sort of support group and if you can still afford therapy, get it. You deserve to have someone be your ally and a constant source of stability. Set some boundaries to take care of yourself too. Hopefully he will be connected with mental health resources so that he can begin healing too. If he refuses to seek help, you may have to make a very hard decision about taking care of him. He can’t take you down with him. You both deserve better. Good luck.
U didnt throw away anything she did…. shes lied to you cheated on you and went through a pregnancy termination all while pretending to love u. Dont let her talk u into staying…. Tell her you wont be her 2nd choice and that u know of her other man and the pregnancy and youre done. Find someone who wont treat you like trash. Shes made her decision and she cant take it back… She lied and manipulated you to the point u were unaware of all this so she WILL do it again even if she stops w this particular guy F her Make sure everyone u know as a couple knows why u left bc she will play the victim and try to get people to tuen against u when she realizes youre done
A part of growing and maturing is understanding that genitals and their fluids don’t smell like a field of flowers. If you are both such total virgins, your boyfriend might not have realized that himself yet. He might have expected something much more…. Floral scented. When in reality both male and female sex organs and their fluids have their own type of scents and those scents aren’t bad things. Musk is just the natural smell of human. Natural odor. Not sweaty or bad odor. That’s just how they smell. Unless there is a STRONG pungent smell you can also smell coming from there, then that maybe worth a dr visit. But it is very immature of your boyfriend to constantly be bringing it up with other people. Tell him to stop. What if you brought up how he gagged and acted like a baby being asked to eat vegetable? Would he think it’s funny then?
He's been doing small fixes, changing lightbulbs etc, moving heavy furniture, installed the washing machine. He also arranged our new wifi installation, which I didn't volunteer to do, because we already have good wifi and I didn't think it was necessary; but if he wants to get better wifi I won't tell him not to.