I know a LOT of people who use 'insecurity' or low confidence as an excuse to act shitty. As though it makes them better than if they did it because they felt above the other person
He ruined his own marriage and now he's complaining about you being distant? What an idiot. “Hey, let's fuck other people.” Marriage implodes shocked Pikachu face
If he's your friend, then he'll let you go completely because that's what's necessary for your psychological health. You need to completely cut yourself off from him. It can take up to a year and a half to completely get over somebody, and based on how tangled and confused your feelings are for him, I'm guessing it's going to take at least a year or more of no contact with him to completely move on.
You were tired, you had a headache, and you were not told that you were to expect a guest.
Starting with the guest – as a good host, SHE should have informed you that the guest was there, a quick text to you saying xyz stopped buy and we’re having coffee (wine, beers etc) and a chat.
She didn’t, so any ‘failure’ is on her as well as you.
As for being tired and having a headache, if she doesn’t except that as an excuse, then neither should you, so I say remind her of it every time she uses it to not have sex.
“Sorry can’t tonight I have a headache/I’m too tired” “Sorry those are not excuses anymore, remember you said so on xyz date”
And sorry, but this friend is her good friend, not yours. And as a good friend, they are not a guest, but part of the furniture, and as such, saying what did is perfectly acceptable.
Nah, if he gets to it he gets to it. After reading the replies and talking with him about some stuff I’m feeling a lot better.
I know a LOT of people who use 'insecurity' or low confidence as an excuse to act shitty. As though it makes them better than if they did it because they felt above the other person
He ruined his own marriage and now he's complaining about you being distant? What an idiot. “Hey, let's fuck other people.” Marriage implodes shocked Pikachu face
Love your selfishness OP.
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His texts. Clearly. I’m such an idiot.
If he's your friend, then he'll let you go completely because that's what's necessary for your psychological health. You need to completely cut yourself off from him. It can take up to a year and a half to completely get over somebody, and based on how tangled and confused your feelings are for him, I'm guessing it's going to take at least a year or more of no contact with him to completely move on.
Tell her to pull her head out of her arse.
You were tired, you had a headache, and you were not told that you were to expect a guest.
Starting with the guest – as a good host, SHE should have informed you that the guest was there, a quick text to you saying xyz stopped buy and we’re having coffee (wine, beers etc) and a chat.
She didn’t, so any ‘failure’ is on her as well as you.
As for being tired and having a headache, if she doesn’t except that as an excuse, then neither should you, so I say remind her of it every time she uses it to not have sex.
“Sorry can’t tonight I have a headache/I’m too tired” “Sorry those are not excuses anymore, remember you said so on xyz date”
And sorry, but this friend is her good friend, not yours. And as a good friend, they are not a guest, but part of the furniture, and as such, saying what did is perfectly acceptable.