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By your SO not being a raging maniac.
Idk why people are attacking you for you word choice but you’ll attract what you are.
To answer your question; no it’s not too late. Maybe expand the places you go to meet people.
Does sound sus. Who would take a FaceTime call with the partner in the bed. And who would say that the job requires them to sleep with their boss. If it is true, wow.
You're allowed to feel your feelings-they're valid. I'm just wondering if you've been honest with how you're feeling in the counseling sessions?
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Have you spoken with your Husband at all? Do you undergo Therapy, Counselling or any service which allows you access to talk to someone about this?
What in particular is it that you miss? Is it knowing he's there? Talking to him? Doing things for/with him? The more we know the more we can potentially advise.
There's a few things that could help in general – one of which is friends, family and just “other people” so you aren't scoped to one person as a source of interaction. Being able to enjoy time with others may help to alleviate some of the feelings of missing him and allow you to spread your wings some, so to speak.
Second is a means of coping mechanism – if you know you'll feel down due to not having him around, what do you find helps already, if there is something? Does it help (or would it) to prepare ahead for it at all? Such as giving yourself an itinerary of things to do, tasks to fulfil, places to go or people to be around so it's not so impactful?
Some of it could be helped by distracting yourself from what's bothering you, some could be helped if you can be in contact with your Husband so you know he's “there” if you need him (such as Facetime, messages etc) but it's important to bear in mind he needs his own space to work and focus as well, so won't be able to do it immediately in all likelihood.
So, I'm already prepared for the downvotes because this won't be popular.
But please be aware that I'm simply offering an opinion to be helpful… not to troll.
I'm also not excusing or defending him.
Obviously he's in the wrong, and obviously you should leave him.
However,
Again, I'm not saying its your fault… but…m certain things you stated in your post hinted at things to me that make me worried that you have behaviours that may contribute to that happening again with someone else…..
I'm generalising and simplifying massively here but
Men hate being nagged, and hate being told what to do or feeling trapped.
So the more you made an issue out of him talking to her and gaming etc in the early stages, the more he felt that he couldn't talk to you and started associating you with stress and negativity, which makes him more likely to dive deeper into gaming and interacting with other people so seek out positivity and encouragement elsewhere.
This became a spiral overtime.
My mother in law actually made this comment once at Christmas a few years ago and it stuck with me
“Men are easy once you realise they just want to feel special and needed. If you want him to stop doing something, you just tell him that's he's so amazing and special, why is he wasting his time doing xyz like the loosers do”
That's how she got her husband to quit smoking, quit going to the bar after work every night etc
And my sister in law immediately used it on her bf at the time and got him to quit gaming
Fundamentally most men don't get much validation in life, so if they find anything or anyone who gives them validation, they get addicted to it
That's where the emotional cheating comes from, that's why men become obsessed with work, or develop a random hobby etc, because that's where they feel most needed and most validated
Again, I'm not defending him. I'm not justifying him. He's still an adult, who made decisions, and he could have chosen to make different decisions.
But I thought an explanation of the underlying psychology may be useful.
But he isn’t even a student, if he were he’d mention it. And just because they are didn’t mean they’d vibe with 21 year olds who are in the childless, carefree parting stage in their lives.
There's different ways of pronouncing things within the US. Did he live a very sheltered life?
Thank you. How long should pass without contact until I message him?
I knew it would go with this way for him. Men aren’t allowed to have insecurities or feelings.