0 views
Ahegao [Multi Goal]
Date: December 5, 2022
![](/cs/camsoda2500.jpg")
WeekendPussy
Promo Code
200_FREE_TOKEN_SPRING_SURPRISE
WeekendPussy
Promo Code
Ahegao [Multi Goal]
I just mean some guys kind of take control of situations more than others and it’s weirder to ask them out idk how to explain it
Can you point me to some that don’t? I haven’t encountered that
A year and a half and you are taking him back? She wasn’t a mistake or a mistress. She was his other girlfriend and he was forced to make a choice (that’s if he actually ended it and that’s doubtful). You were closer location wise so you are his pick. Why are you giving him the power to choose? Why are you happy playing the pick me game? It’s you that has the power and you aren’t taking advantage of it buy throwing him out on his cheating ass. He will continue to cheat because there are zero consequences for him. You just get more hurt. You discovered his other relationship, he didn’t feel awful enough or remorse to confess. I didn’t know doormats could type but here we are.
Message me her cashapp…I will send her $25 …make sure it's her cashapp and not yours
Definitely, man hating
life isn’t black and white, this is a really difficult thing op is going through.
and she’s stated she wants to tell him, she just doesn’t know how or when. she isn’t stopping the child from meeting their father
No I don’t trust him, and I told him. But he insists I will be safe in a hotel. And then after I told him I don’t want to spend the weekend there he said maybe I could come for a day then. Meet in the morning, have something to eat, do some activities and then I leave. But I told him that means I’ll be driving 4 hours. And he said I was being unreasonable and looking for excuses to not meet up. Then I suggested we meet halfway and he told me about his job, so I told him about my job too (I actually have to work on the weekend but I won’t) and he said missing 1 weekend of work isn’t serious and he’ll pay me the money I’ll lose. So I told him it’s not about the money, I don’t mind not getting paid this weekend. So he said I’m just making excuses. That’s why I’m thinking maybe I’m being unreasonable? But in my head what I’m saying makes sense.
Maybe he knows this too and so he isn’t taking your current financial state too seriously.
I am an older guy – I feel sorry for younger people as you have “ideal “ looks pushed at you 24/7 and if you vary from this unattainable “ideal” it’s easy to be convinced you are not attractive . I agree with the other comments – a warmth and inner glow of being comfortable in your own skin together with a genuine interest in others are very attractive qualities . So accept who you are, don’t look to others to validate who you are and embrace the many wonders that the world has to offer with kindness and curiosity- there are wonderful surprises in store if you stop looking inward and open your eyes to possibilities .
If you don’t know, then that’s your answer. You should only commit if you really know that’s what you absolutely want, without a doubt
Funny enough, you’re the one dating the child, even though you’re half his age.
You’re the mistress, there’s no future with this man, find someone better, ideally within a few years of you.
Yes, he has no boundaries and is breaking your trust. This is the moment to leave. I’m sorry.
I don't think you're understanding me.
She could be flipping burgers at McDonalds and STILL not be required to be doing 100% of the household labor.
Income isn't the reason why people divide domestic labor.
That's not how this works. That's not how any of this works.
Yeah, it's just strange. I guess I just can't comprehend that mindset since I could never do that to someone I care about. C'est la vie I guess.
Bahahaha i had the same reaction in my comment before realizing this wasn't r/AmITheAsshole. But if it was, YTA all the way OP lol
Hello /u/PalpitationFar4027,
Your post was removed for the following reason(s):
Your title did not include at least two ages/genders or was not formatted correctly
Posts must:
include details about the involved parties including ages, genders, and length of relationship, and
request advice in real situations involving two or more people
We are enforcing the two rules listed above by making all titles use the following formatting:
[##X][##X], [## X][## X], or [##-X][##-X] where ## is the age and X is the gender (currently M, F, T, A, NB, FTM, MTF but more can be added). You can have more than two ages/genders listed, but you must have at least two. Here is an example:
[34NB][88-F] We are two people in an example post
Please resubmit with a corrected title.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
It's not superficial to want one's partner to be active and healthy and a normal part of a relationship. It's only superficial if that's the only thing you like about them.
Are you living together? Start cooking and learn to cook healthy. Start taking walks and invite her to come along. If receptive, start going to a gym together.
She might not want to, but that's on her.
I think you're being a bit paranoid here. There's no reason to believe he would want to catch up on “lost time”. Why would he do that if he has the greatest time with you?
And plus you are guiding him into this first relationship, trying to make it as healthy as possible. You're amazing you know that?
You seem to be made for each other , who knows! Just make the best of it!
If I was sure, I wouldn’t be asking for advice.
As the parent of a kid questioning their gender, I take complete offense that your BF would be so callous and cold to you by first not letting you know until it was “time to do the deed,” but also that they still pressured you to have sex after that came out. This person is not mature enough to have a relationship with and is not worth your time. You deserve better. You can’t drop a bomb the size of Hiroshima on someone and not expect some fallout. You need to run. I’m so sorry kiddo.
Thank you for your comment and advice
Up until the part where he’s actually subscribed and not only that, but to an 18 year old that you both know, I was thinking okay he’s stupid but he’s also entitled to his privacy.
But subscribing, especially to someone you know, while in a relationship is not something I’d be comfortable with. It’s as close to cheating that it makes no difference (or could be cheating for some people).
I’d tell him that his subscription, while you are propping up the financial side of the relationship because money is tight is wrong. That subscribing to someone who you know while in a relationship with someone else is a breach of trust that you don’t know if you can get over. His lying about it in the first place is even more damage to the trust in the relationship.
If you want to try to continue with the relationship, then tell him that you want him to delete the account in front of you. And he needs to not do anything like that again.
If you don’t want to continue the relationship, then end it.
Edit to add: In my example I was not saying I should not have told my husband that a man kissed me. I was explaining that at the time my guilt clouded my ability to accurately describe the situation, and I made it seem like I was a willing and active participant.
If it happened to me today, 12 years later, I would be able to say “I was having fun and being flirty at the office party, and was flirting quite a bit with coworker x. I feel a bit guilty for flirting which is why it's difficult for me to describe what happened next. Later in the evening they were outside when I left. I thought we both happened to leave at the same time but I'm not so sure. It was freezing and they offered their cab to me as we were both headed in the same direction. In retrospect I recognize this was a dangerous situation to place myself in with a man I don't know very well who has been drinking. The fact that he was a respected coworker should not have impacted my judgment but it did, and having a driver there was not the protection I thought it would be. He took advantage of my closeness and did x, y and z. I pushed him off of me and left immediately. I want to tell you this not because I think you can't trust me but because I need your support in processing what happened to me.”
That is not at all what I said or how I said it, my guilt of thinking it was me who led the person on because I had been flirting with them led me to blame myself for the situation and it took a year before I was able to reflect on the evening and recognize that a superior took forceful advantage of me.
I'm not saying your situation is identical, but I'm not sure what you could have done much differently? When the innocent flirting started to turn into his Ocean 11 plans I guess you could have stood up, say “no! I'm married! Good night!” and walk away? Honestly that could have been very dangerous in a hotel environment where he could have followed you. The only safe way to leave that situation is to be sure that he was gone before you did anything.
While a lot of people advocate for dating/marrying people who are like you; there is a lot of truth in the opposites attract saying. Both have their benefits and drawbacks.
Perhaps she's good at communicating, but does it so well and often, that she's burnt out at the end of the day and she takes great comfort in not having to be 'on' verbally with you.
A man who expressed himself by actions might be exactly what she wants because she dated a smooth talker once who treated her shittily and she lost faith in what men say and likes that you just do instead of talk and make fruitless promises.
Maybe she is into you because your dick game is so good, she decided communication was a secondary desire.
I can't tell you, no one here can.
But women are not a monolith and each develop their own things they like and is heavily dependent on past experiences she's had.
Don't stress too much about the age difference. 11 years isn't that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things. If you're feeling a connection with this girl, then go for it. Don't let societal norms or other people's opinions hold you back. Just make sure that you're both on the same page when it comes to what you want out of this “relationship” or whatever you want to call it. If she's down to hang out and explore things further, then you should be good to go. Just be upfront and honest about your feelings, and make sure you're both on the same page. Don't be afraid to ask her what she's looking for or what her intentions are. But most importantly, bro, just have fun and enjoy the moment.
I mean, that's one interpretation. But if that is how OP feels about it, she never bothered to say so. In what way do you think making such an accusation would help the OP's issue?
I kind of agree with your first point.
I absolutely do not agree with the comment that because it's her husband it's any different. The vast majority of rape is done by a person's partner, not a stranger.
Oh I’m so sorry, I absolutely misread that.
The childhood crush is one thing, so as long as it stays that. To answer your previous question, it’s worse to masturbate to the thought of someone as a child.
She is never going to improve unless she keeps working on finding a medication to help her mood instability. Her therapist is telling her what she wants to hear, hence why her behavior has not improved.
She has decided that the way she acts “just can’t be helped” and refuses see her behavior as a problem because of this. If she will not admit that she has issues that she needs to work on and improve, she never will.
She doesn’t do work around the house, she won’t take a job, and she abuses you but because medications didn’t work for her once or twice, this is just “how she is” in her mind and has decided to have to accept it. I might get downvotes, but as someone with a PD and parents with PDs, this has always been my reality. My father did not become stable in his adulthood until he got on medication and in CBT in his 40s and your girlfriend will likely be the same.
How she responds to you breaking up with her is not your responsibility. You have taken care of her for almost a decade and she has taken advantage of that. Her threatening suicide is another abuse tactic. If you’re worried about her, call a wellness check and maybe she’ll be taken in-patient somewhere get the help she actually needs.
I would recommend creating some distance from her. Try to maintain a friendly work relationship, but limit the emotional conversations and contact outside of working hours. By maintains this level of emotional closeness, you are setting yourself up for pain and disappointment as you become further and further invested. If she is truly unhappy in her marriage, she can pursue a divorce and you can pursue something with her at that time if you still have feelings. But admitting your feelings or pursuing a relationship now will likely end in heartbreak for all involved.
I would recommend creating some distance from her. Try to maintain a friendly work relationship, but limit the emotional conversations and contact outside of working hours. By maintains this level of emotional closeness, you are setting yourself up for pain and disappointment as you become further and further invested. If she is truly unhappy in her marriage, she can pursue a divorce and you can pursue something with her at that time if you still have feelings. But admitting your feelings or pursuing a relationship now will likely end in heartbreak for all involved.
You're right here.
Oh eff her. I say that as someone who was abused by a woman.
I’ll give him props for at least being consistent. I think people who believe life starts at conception but think abortion is okay in cases of rape are ridiculous. Either it’s a life or it’s not.
This would be a dealbreaker for me because of the horrible, even possible legal, issues if I were to get pregnant. But, is it a dealbreaker for you? That’s the only thing that matters.
She also cheated with people in committed relationships which means commitment means NOTHING to her. OP may not know exactly why he checked those messages, but he did it because on some level he knew she was shady AF.
You need therapy for your self esteem.
Great post…I'm glad you are finally happy. Best of luck
I have a pixel 6. You do not get notifications from apps you dont have currently installed
I told him to me he’s like a breath of fresh air and no matter what happens in life he’ll always make it trough with his hard work. I let him know the things I love. I also never said anything about being upset with him not spending money on me I mentioned he’s struggling and I fully support him. Maybe I wasn’t clear enough, but by I wished he did more, I meant put more effort into finding little things for us to do together, do research and find new spots.
The sooner you dump him, the sooner you can get him out.
You may want to save the marriage, but it doesn't seem like he feels the same.
Tbh you don’t know what they were. Just cause they were holding hands doesn’t mean they were officially dating, nor does it mean that she knew this guy before the breakup and dumped you for him. Chances are that she rebounded, and was on a date with this guy.
If it still bothers you, talk to her about it. Tell her how what she said about him makes you feel, and that you feel like she settled on you when she wanted to be with him. Hopefully she settles your mind
Don’t joke about it, talk to him straight about what you want.
so women who can’t breastfeed shouldn’t be encourage to breastfeed because skin-to-skin is still encouraged for bonding for mothers? and i do say mother’s because that is generally a mother thing. and a trans woman, people who suffer from dysphoria and feeling the gender they express themeselves as, would disproportionately feel the need to validate their gender to themeselves and the world around them?
it isn’t weird. being he partner of someone who is trans is about that: not calling them weird for finding ways to express, cope, and find comfort in themeselves. that’s why i said what i said: you aren’t a trans woman, you aren’t (i assume) in a relationship with a trans person )and you have no obligation to be in one) but being in a relationship with a trans person does involve having a level of empathy towards them as they view the world and experience things differently. the OP does need to understand that and needs to come at this empathetically. not just say they are uncomfortable with something with no reason to back it up.
if they have a reason, such as feeding confusion, that’s one thing. but they didn’t. they just found it uncomfortable with no reason to cite to their trans partner.
op is in a RELATIONSHIP. if their partner is suffering then they do have some semblance of needing to take matters like this seriously. a mother feeding heartbreak because she can’t breastfeed, and that mother being her partner: that’s something she should have been showing more empathy for from the get go, but she only showed she was uncomfortable by it when the mother did something she didn’t like? why didn’t she tell her to go to therapy? why didn’t she comfort her? why didn’t anything else happen to make sure her wife was okay? if it was my partner i would have told her to check with her therapist or instructed her to be in a different room than me or something to avoid triggering her. the OP did none of that because she seems to only care when her partners identity bothers her.
but i guess you just want to paint it as gatekeeping. sure.
“In the criminal justice system, sexually based offenses are considered especially heinous. In New York City, the dedicated detectives who investigate these vicious felonies are members of an elite squad known as the Special Victims Unit. These are their stories… dun dun!”
OP was 12 and he was a 19 yo Pedo ??
I dont know how to contact her bc idk her information ?
This was so painful to read. I feel like you’ve been gaslighted into feeling that what he’s saying and doing is normal. It’s not. And while most issues I see in this sub revolve entirely around the lack of communicating with partners, this one’s the opposite: he communicated exactly how he is both verbally and physically MANY times! Nothing he said was a joke. None of it was funny. Sleep play, drug play, etc. are all things but they revolve around both partners being into it, not forcing someone into things or even taking advantage of them against their will. What he’s doing is showing you that he doesn’t care about you — he cares about himself. And then gaslights you when you start to question it. He will likely try to come up with a way to explain why you’re wrong or misunderstanding again. But that’s his manipulation tactic; he has to come up with ways to trick you into staying, whereas you need to run, and fast. Don’t even look back!
Just say no.
It's Ashley now, it will be Sarah in a few months
There are two sides to it that I can't completely resolve, so I'll just give both, then try to find middle ground. As you'll see, I'm also big on making an informed decision.
One side is that love shouldn't be offered conditionally. That real love makes it unnecessary to have to watch your weight, under threat of losing your lover.
The other side is that love shouldn't be offered when you expect to make zero effort, compromise, or sacrifice for your partner's happiness. That, while you can and should draw boundaries around your 'essentials,' real love doesn't let you put yourself first in all things.
Your BF plainly wants a partner who won't neglect self-care, and he's not satisfied that you fit that description. I'm afraid your reservations may be feeding his doubts, but where those doubts spring from, I can't begin to guess.
OTOH I don't care one bit for his bringing it up repeatedly without cause!! And I would say so, and persist until I was clear as to just why he does that!! OTOH I give him a little credit for bringing it up before swearing his love, and proposing marriage and children. He's presented you with a choice, not a fait accompli. Listen, learn, and consider carefully. Best wishes, whatever you decide.
I mean it’s super annoying when someone gets that drunk….but yeah he didn’t handle it well
Do you even want to go out and do anything? Wtf lol
Most importantly who do you want to dance with? Or maybe do a half and half and include both, but only if you want to. You are not obligated to dance with anyone. Regardless it will a short few minutes of your hubby and MiL dancing and then it will be over. Don’t stress this much over something that is only a few minutes out of your entire life
At least she waited for OP's son to turn 18 before spilling the beans. Also doubt OP would have ever told him the truth. I think her sister sucks, but her suckage doesn't absolve OP of her own suckage. The cat is out of the bag, and now OP has to try to rebuild trust which will be hard since the entire story is fucked up. OP dumped her childhood sweetheart / current husband to marry a rich man while still banging her now husband and then tried to play off their affair babies as the rich man's and then lying to her son who remembers his first dad to an extent. I think what OP did is every man's worse fear and to know his parents are like that will be a hard thing to get over.
I’m not really sure when it comes to him. It feels like a financial thing sometimes (he’s oddly secretive about his financials. I’m not sure why). He’s never said anything about our sex life lately. Sometimes it’s just out of nowhere with his stress. I could say almost anything that could make him upset sometimes.
This is maybe the most disturbing post I have read in this subreddit. You are in danger. Its hard for you to see how bad the situation is because you slowly got used to your husband's increasingly abusive and bad behaviors but please listen to everyone here who see your husband for what he is, an abusive and very dangerous man.
Looking for an apology is not the right action. Getting to safety and divorcing this man is.
Alright! Thanks for giving me some hope. I just hope it doesn't stay like this forever, hearing your story makes me a bit more optimistic though.
We're trying to just have fun… And I'd say it's working, still, that desire to make him cum is in my head.. I try not to show it. And it's hard to hide the disappointment when he doesn't haha..
Move on and continue living your life (don’t wait for her).
If she decides to reach out down the road, and if you want the same thing, then game on.
> The guy was saved under a different name, and almost all messages were deleted
Leave, for good
Again, not an answer and just hanging out in the same friend group doesn't mean she owes you shit and you know it.
They where not even dating and you think just because he looked at her she owes him healthy or some shit
This is good advice. I like you. I think I probably need to be put in my place by her really but you doing it for her is a good start
I know this got a comment, but cannot see it. 🙁
ok so get a divorce
You're fiance has been raping you. Think about that.
He has said things like he wants to just put the tip in her, wants to include her in our bedroom, says hes already slept with her ,and if they both really did sleep together he wouldn't tell me and neither would her. They are jokes to him but I don't find them funny but annoying.
Tell him this
Then break up
He isn't going to change anytime soon
Then just tell him you want to let her know why you are distancing yourself from her but promise not to let the drama catch up to him. You shouldn't agree to unfair type of promises.
You have main character syndrome.
Believe it or not, you don’t have to accept it. You shouldn’t accept it, honestly. I know 5 years feels like a lot of time to throw away but you should never stay with someone who treats you like this just because you’ve already spent so much time with them. You deserve someone who actually cares about you.
You don’t. That isn’t acceptable.
Are you in one of those phases now, in which you can't see the good things, because aerodynamics is pretty…cool. If you must use that word.
Hinge