It sounds like he is a good friend but that special IT Factor isn’t there. I’d likely end it before moving. Moving to a new country is amazing and fun. Especially when you aren’t attached. I did it 3 times before getting married and they were some of the best times in my life.
She met you when you were 19… how much “abuser history” does she think you could have possibly racked up by age 19? Or that there would be a background searchable record of it if you did?
If she has this little trust in you after 6 years of knowing one another and 5 years of dating, I don't see that this relationship has anywhere to go. She and her friend can be single together, but I bet if you leave, she's going to call your refusal to participate in her nonsense proof that you were an abuser and pretend to be a victim like her friend.
Sounds like he wants you to be his only fwb while he plays the field. He gets to use you and sleep around.
Tbh, this should be a deal breaker for you. Seems like he has some expectations for you but not for himself. Especially if he's going to have this kind of reaction about it.
Lol. Sounds like either he thought he was leading you on or maybe felt a bit led on. Either way this fwb is most likely gone. But hey do you.
Do you give a shit about your kid? Or just asking what if her dad did it? Having no other talking points makes you look like a damn idiot. Which you are, so I shouldn’t be surprised. If you had considered this when her dad wanted more time with her you would maybe have a chance at an argument. You only considered because of a man. Without that man being in your life shed live with you. Therefore, you’re picking a man over your daughter. It’s not even a debatable point. That’s a fact. Man said he didn’t want to live with you with her there. Now daughter isn’t going to be there because of man. See how that works? Not so hard to understand. Read it a couple times if you need.
I think this is part of it, a very sociable person would be finding someone to do those things with, by joining a club or something. Or they would do something else instead rather than do things alone. I'm more like your boyfriend where I'd rather do my own thing than compromise but I think it's harder to make friends.
It probably didn't happen here either. Sex workers know that they can get a lot more money for providing a girlfriend experience or as a sugar baby than with one-off encounters. She probably has a sense that OP has money and is susceptible to this sort of emotional manipulation.
That's why he needs to be wary. It's not impossible for a sex worker to genuinely develop feelings for a client twice her age just because the sex was good, but it is extremely unlikely so he should be prepared for it to be a more elaborate financial arrangement.
No, and exactly, i have been thinking about this and it makes me think:
I end up feeling like an asshole if i leave her and at the same time i am an asshole if i stay 🙁
It sounds like he is a good friend but that special IT Factor isn’t there. I’d likely end it before moving. Moving to a new country is amazing and fun. Especially when you aren’t attached. I did it 3 times before getting married and they were some of the best times in my life.
If you are not a woman, proceed to step 3. Shake your head, say ‘bro’ and run fucking far away.
Exactly.
She met you when you were 19… how much “abuser history” does she think you could have possibly racked up by age 19? Or that there would be a background searchable record of it if you did?
If she has this little trust in you after 6 years of knowing one another and 5 years of dating, I don't see that this relationship has anywhere to go. She and her friend can be single together, but I bet if you leave, she's going to call your refusal to participate in her nonsense proof that you were an abuser and pretend to be a victim like her friend.
Sounds like he wants you to be his only fwb while he plays the field. He gets to use you and sleep around.
Tbh, this should be a deal breaker for you. Seems like he has some expectations for you but not for himself. Especially if he's going to have this kind of reaction about it.
Lol. Sounds like either he thought he was leading you on or maybe felt a bit led on. Either way this fwb is most likely gone. But hey do you.
Do you give a shit about your kid? Or just asking what if her dad did it? Having no other talking points makes you look like a damn idiot. Which you are, so I shouldn’t be surprised. If you had considered this when her dad wanted more time with her you would maybe have a chance at an argument. You only considered because of a man. Without that man being in your life shed live with you. Therefore, you’re picking a man over your daughter. It’s not even a debatable point. That’s a fact. Man said he didn’t want to live with you with her there. Now daughter isn’t going to be there because of man. See how that works? Not so hard to understand. Read it a couple times if you need.
I think this is part of it, a very sociable person would be finding someone to do those things with, by joining a club or something. Or they would do something else instead rather than do things alone. I'm more like your boyfriend where I'd rather do my own thing than compromise but I think it's harder to make friends.
Could she be developing a condition?
It probably didn't happen here either. Sex workers know that they can get a lot more money for providing a girlfriend experience or as a sugar baby than with one-off encounters. She probably has a sense that OP has money and is susceptible to this sort of emotional manipulation.
That's why he needs to be wary. It's not impossible for a sex worker to genuinely develop feelings for a client twice her age just because the sex was good, but it is extremely unlikely so he should be prepared for it to be a more elaborate financial arrangement.
What do you mean by he didn’t do anything though?