Take the sugar for example. If she takes 10 packets every time she goes to get coffee but only uses 3 – 4 packets that means that she's bringing home 6 – 7 packets of sugar every time she had coffee.
Does she ever use those packets? Otherwise that's a whole lot of sugar being stashed.
Let's say she goes for coffee once a week for a year and that she uses 4 packets every time. That means that she brings home 6 packets of sugar every week.
There's 52 weeks in a year so that's a total of 312 packets of sugar taking up space just because “you never know if you might need them”. And that's just one year's worth.
The “just in case” mentality could be hoarding tendencies, having grown up poor or with parents who were poor, or a combination of both. Either way that can become a serious issue if you have a hard time letting go of things and not knowing when to stop.
So my go to thing has always been ‘can the place/lifestyle we want to live be doable here with each partner only committing 50% to bills’- if one partner wants to go beyond that? Then that partner should pay the overage.
If 50/50 would be 1.5k a month for each of you but your choices are causing the total bills to be 4k? You should pay 2.5k to her 1.5k. Over the 50/50 of what you both make, you made the choice for it to be more expensive, hypothetically speaking, so you cover the extra k.
Bro we are the same age. We don't have the same history in love relationships, my longest was 4 years.
But man, we have a whole life still to come. We might see ourselves as “old young”, but we do not. We have so much more things to come, some wonderful, some awful, so much more life changing experiences. And we both do not want to live them unhappy, or unable to live them 100% because of some regrets or bad decisions or anything.
I can't really understand how strong you two are tied together, 10 years when you are 28 means you have been spending 1/3 of your life with someone. But it gives another perspective on what you say : if you are currently unhappy, do not commit. For both of you, do not commit on something you are not sure is going to make, again, both of you happy.
Yet you can't abandon her, since she's pregnant with your child and you have responsabilities over that child. That need hours and hours of discussions with her, she probably “opened the door” during that cake testing, or at least you know she is questioning herself.
Exactly. It really comes down to how much.
Take the sugar for example. If she takes 10 packets every time she goes to get coffee but only uses 3 – 4 packets that means that she's bringing home 6 – 7 packets of sugar every time she had coffee.
Does she ever use those packets? Otherwise that's a whole lot of sugar being stashed.
Let's say she goes for coffee once a week for a year and that she uses 4 packets every time. That means that she brings home 6 packets of sugar every week.
There's 52 weeks in a year so that's a total of 312 packets of sugar taking up space just because “you never know if you might need them”. And that's just one year's worth.
The “just in case” mentality could be hoarding tendencies, having grown up poor or with parents who were poor, or a combination of both. Either way that can become a serious issue if you have a hard time letting go of things and not knowing when to stop.
It's over, nothing you can say can convince him now.
So my go to thing has always been ‘can the place/lifestyle we want to live be doable here with each partner only committing 50% to bills’- if one partner wants to go beyond that? Then that partner should pay the overage.
If 50/50 would be 1.5k a month for each of you but your choices are causing the total bills to be 4k? You should pay 2.5k to her 1.5k. Over the 50/50 of what you both make, you made the choice for it to be more expensive, hypothetically speaking, so you cover the extra k.
If you think your being used for sex you probs are
We don't know it was pornographic. Would revenge porn laws apply to other areas?
why are some people like this? its so weird the i dont care attitude is annoying.
i was placed in a group with her
Bro we are the same age. We don't have the same history in love relationships, my longest was 4 years.
But man, we have a whole life still to come. We might see ourselves as “old young”, but we do not. We have so much more things to come, some wonderful, some awful, so much more life changing experiences. And we both do not want to live them unhappy, or unable to live them 100% because of some regrets or bad decisions or anything.
I can't really understand how strong you two are tied together, 10 years when you are 28 means you have been spending 1/3 of your life with someone. But it gives another perspective on what you say : if you are currently unhappy, do not commit. For both of you, do not commit on something you are not sure is going to make, again, both of you happy.
Yet you can't abandon her, since she's pregnant with your child and you have responsabilities over that child. That need hours and hours of discussions with her, she probably “opened the door” during that cake testing, or at least you know she is questioning herself.
Good luck brother.