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Date: October 16, 2022
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He's over heels with a guy who lied, stole/embezzled, while frittering it away on junk, and leaving OP to pay off his debt.
Nice.
Get it in writing, with a repayment plan, and witnessed, or via email. Txt etc.
That goes some way tp cover yourself.
Then decide where you're moving to, without him.
Best of luck.
No, the only time I reached out was Thanksgiving to greet him. I haven’t tried again after that nor before that.
Ugh, it’s eating me alive though that he won’t respond. But I know I just need to love in front his and stop holding on to hope that he will hear me out and reconsider our relationship.
Fucking sucks, and the worst part is this was all MY doing, I could’ve easily prevented this.
Thank you friend.
She did cheat on you, you aren’t being paranoid. Don’t be petty about it, you just gotta move on.
+1 for the old fucks. Hilarious dude.
One night stands, friends with benefits, or finding someone else who actually wants to do short term I guess. Idk I wouldn't want sex or closeness with someone if they don't actually want me so I never gave it much thought
It’s good you’re leaving and for reference in the future psychologists say that people can only pretend for about 6 months so I’d wait in your next relationship till a lil over there 6 month mark to make a strong opinion about your partner. If anyone has dated someone and all of a sudden around the 6 month mark of the relationship the person completely changes this odd why. Be careful out there
Wait ‘til he hears about the gynecologist.
Throw this one back, OP.
Okay so simple reason – its the distance it takes its toll on the relationship
this doesn't sound like it's going to end well. this is an affair waiting to happen. Idc what anyone says there's no amount of justification that is going to allow me to think it's okay for my man to text another women that much and personal. We try to justify to not be “crazy or controlling” but idc that's just flat out disrespect and has nothing to do with control, it's a total lack of disregard for his wife. He doesn't even care to ask her these things she said? This is so inappropriate and what I find more concerning is he thinks he can just do this and get away with it? like what is that saying about how he views his own wife. He could give two shits less to even care about her feelings after married for 12 years? no I'd kick his ass to the curb. idc how dramatic that sounds, but this guy has zero boundaries and it's sick.
i’m w the gf on this one
Do you think that lub helped at all?
I didn’t go to mine.
???? Where does the comment say you plan dates and encourage her to have a life outside of motherhood? Don’t tell me I’m going blind
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Did you read it right? Because it is 13/1000 Women over 5 years.
And OP can always get tested to make sure her tubes have not re-attached if she is really that worried. Then she could have 100% certainty.
Not deleting it. Both of us are reading the replies and seeing how people here are very extreme personalities.
Expectations aren't universal. What you want from a partner other people wouldn't necessarily want, esp. around being ill and taken care of. You can't check with others to see if having hurt feelings is valid because you do have hurt feelings- that's not something people telling you are invalid is going to lessen the feeling.
I'd just tell her, I am glad you had a good NYE, but I was hurt that you didn't seem very concerned when I had a high fever and I felt neglected.
People need to clear the air more, it does a lot to remediate resentments.
He’s using you to make the Ex – jealous. He’s not into you. End things and find someone what will be delighted by you. The next time you date someone that talks this much about their ex you will know they aren’t ready for a new relationship. There are so many red flags here. I hope you have family and friends you can confide in. Maybe spend some time thinking about why you don’t value yourself more and have put up with any of this crap. Please take care of yourself and have fun!
Wow very cruel…
Just don't let anyone hurt you against your will. You have said no and he still makes you cry of pain and has the audacity to get angry at you. I get furious just by reading this.
Exactly this. OP's lack of life experience shows up to me in a way it never will to him until he's older. I (34f) have estimated that the oldest I would have wanted to be to date a 22 year old is 25 but that is absolutely stretching it and based on the 22 year old being very mature for their age, and nearer 23 than 21. Anyone below 25 years would have been out of the question since I was around 27-28 years. Now wouldn't go anywhere near someone below 30. And they'd really have to have their shit together. I'd still much prefer a guy who is same age or older than me.
Four and a half hours to get yer freak on with some girl who is trying hard af to make relationship happen? Small potatoes. Lie and ask for more time? That cost nothing and gets you in the sack.
Lady, I have two questions to ask.
Is this the last man on the planet? When you were little, did your momma drop you on your head?
Walk away from this dude. He is trying to get some and you are too dumb to see it clearly because you are on some demented “i-can-change-him” powertrip that is oh so very popular with the ladies since we came down from the tree.
Oh and the rest of the angries out there – if you do not like what I have to say – block me and go drama elsewhere.
Yep!. Im a mother and if any girl came to me with info like this, i would make my childs life a living hell till he learned to respect women because I raised him better than to be an asshole.
Get your kid to a hospital. Ask if he can have his hair/blood/ whatever examined. This may not have been the only time.
If mom doesn’t use, they will drug test both parents and if mom doesn’t test pos for anything it’s pretty clear what happened.
What did happen? I'm curious about the “not even given peace in the afterlife” part.
YUP. If he really wasn’t attracted to you, he wouldn’t keep coming back for more. Since you’re not in an official relationship, sex is all you have. Your relationship is sex.
Do you think he’d have a sex-only-but-no-romance relationship with someone he wasn’t even attracted to?
He doesn’t want to have a fat long-term partner because of what people would think. But he’s been happy to fuck you all this time. Think about what that says, OP, about his character. It isn’t good.
Well something needs to change drastically, for better or for worse.
Keeping yourself in this mental state is only going to be damaging long term.
Sounds like you're the one keeping things together by a thread… its too much weight on you.
Not a surprise that this is her behavior, the environment she was raised in reflects that. Its lazy. And being in that messy of an environment, does take a toll on people. That's why therapists say “start small, by cleaning your room”… its a simple task, but you keep your environment organized and tidy, and your life will follow.
Either way, she needs to step up and participate. And she needs to let go of her jealousy. Like seriously… everything about her sounds like she is sucking the life out of you. You can't have a life outside of her, but the life inside of her is depressing.
Yeah, if you two didn't have a child, I would 100% say leave, no questions asked.
However, with a child in the mix, its worth making an honest, hard attempt at correcting things before you call it quits.
Teenage relationships are hell.
Okay, so there's 5 motherfuckers with dicks in that house. And you immediately want to jump and blame the one who doesn't have one?
Is your sister on the sleep meds too? Do you really need them or did your parents insist you need them? Sorry, I always think the worst!
Yeah I agree, most of my friends are autistic people who drink to much (I’m also pretty sure I’m one of them lmao), and they’ve never said anything out of pocket like that. I understand not understand social cues n stuff like that, but straight up insulting people like that isn’t okay.
Thank you for the advice, I’m definitely feeling weird about everything now haha.
Yeah I agree, most of my friends are autistic people who drink to much (I’m also pretty sure I’m one of them lmao), and they’ve never said anything out of pocket like that. I understand not understand social cues n stuff like that, but straight up insulting people like that isn’t okay.
Thank you for the advice, I’m definitely feeling weird about everything now haha.
Tell him goodbye and go shopping.
Well 10 out of 10 I'm making it a big deal. I won't be quite and I would say exsactly what I would do is it happens agin. “If this happens agin I will go to the cops with the evidence and pictures one of you is gross”
The fact that mom is trying to downplay it makes me think 2 things. She's protecting someone or she can't believe it happened.
You have been dating cheater since you were a teen. There is so much more to life than her.
Wait?? You want to tell his wife something that has nothing to do with her? Something that didn’t effect her at all? You’re only going to cause doubts & bring more questions like “why is she telling me this now? Does she actually have feelings for him?”
You really think asking her back to the gym is asking her out?
Has there ever been or is there a possibility of infidelity? Has she changed her routine as far as change in makeup, more revealing clothing, weird calls or texts? New coworkers, excessive girls nights, working late or odd hours etc? Anything to make you question her loyalty?
I do not understand why people have to try in a relationship. If it’s not easy, it’s not worth it as far as I’m concerned. A relationship shouldn’t be work
1: never have i made a motion to limit her or keep her from her friends, 2: im asking as in is this normal for bi girlfriends in a straight couple situation, 3: i trust her fully, i dont trust woman and understand personally on how they manipulate other woman
He won’t answer this question!
As someone who has had a lot of emotional instability due to my childhood and other things…. she isn't sensitive.. she manipulative. You allow this, so she thinks it's okay. She will “get sad and sensitive” because you called her out. So, do it one on one and BEFORE going to the restaurant. All you need to say is,”hey it's cool if you want to bring people along but I can't pay the bill for everyone. As long as you can cover it or they can, they are MORE than welcome. I'll see you at 8″ Even with all my issues, I would never cry over my mother saying she isn't paying for my friends or whatever… it's b.s.
Honestly, to me, that's a lack of maturity. How is she gonna fuck up then give YOU the silent treatment?? She's pouting because she's in the wrong.
If most of your disagreements go down this way, I'd have a long conversation on why that's not acceptable and how you would like to talk through it.
Two things.
She chose to marry you, not those other guys. You can either get over it or dream of being one of the fuckboys. Or you grow up and accept that you're the one she wants to spend her life with. Not those other dudes.
Second thing: if the sex doesn't satisfy you, if she doesn't keep her promises and doesn't make you feel happy, desireable and wanted, then don't marry her. Deeds speak louder than words.
If you're feeling like it's toxic, then it probably is. Just by this example, sounds like a mismatch of communication and like maybe she struggles with FOMO in regards to you. I guess the most pressing question would be: what do you want to do? Is this something you would like to work on, or is this you deciding this relationship isn't right for you?
Two things.
She chose to marry you, not those other guys. You can either get over it or dream of being one of the fuckboys. Or you grow up and accept that you're the one she wants to spend her life with. Not those other dudes.
Second thing: if the sex doesn't satisfy you, if she doesn't keep her promises and doesn't make you feel happy, desireable and wanted, then don't marry her. Deeds speak louder than words.
How can I confirm he’s cheated without accusing him?
Leave this will only get worse. And it’s possible he’s cheating at projecting – that’s what my ex husband did…
Your first point is all that and a bag of kettle-cooked BBQ chips. I really dislike when people like OP come on here all, “I'm such a bad person, I deserve this” because it feels like a weird kind of fishing. Like he wants us to say, “No, no, sweetie, you're not a bad person.” Idk, I could be wrong, maybe I've just personally dealt with too many toxic people like OP, so my immediate reaction to that crap is, “You're right. You are a bad person, and you deserve much worse.”
Here is the thing. I honestly get it. However they way you view he pretty much had no right thing it was either he was selfish for telling or scum for not.
I read the original post and thought he was genuine in his post. I think the way people act here I starting to be alarming people can’t come and ask for advice on how to be better and be told they are even more shitty.
Eventually people will begin saying fuck it people will crucify me anyways and stop actively trying to be a better person
Then maybe try dating one of the millions and millions of other women in the world that your good friend hasn't dated. That would be my advice.
Yes.
Yes you are an idiot.
He will never change. He will cheat on you just like he has cheated on everyone else.
Yes.
Yes you are an idiot.
He will never change. He will cheat on you just like he has cheated on everyone else.
Are you sure you are not the side piece?
Prenups are not bad. Having one for a child's education is ludicrous. Marriage is a team.
My boyfriend didn’t like me cuddling me friends, so I stopped doing it. Just tell her, she’ll understand:)
Can you be viewed as liable for their debts? If not, don't worry about their bad credit and overuse of credit cards. Eventually they just default or declare bankruptcy. On the other hand, if you are liable, then you need to close those accounts and make an issue about their spending.
I would also point out that if they're capable of going online and placing orders, they may be capable of at least a modest part-time job. Work from home, etc.
For saying a single dad?? No
Bro what a piece of fucking garbage. Good riddance.
If a grown ass man can't get sex without emotional blackmail, then he's more illiterate than I, the man who has not dated in six years.
Worse though is that the emotional blackmail is likely deliberate. He likely wants “nubile.” He sees you as a piece of meat ready to devour. Degenerates like him belong on a cross.
Stop inviting him to these outings. Sounds mean but yeah. If he can't respect your time that you want to have with your friends then they have to be kept separate.
Best advice for you, and her, is to break up with her.
You can care/love for someone and not be the right person for life.
She will be grateful it didn’t last longer eventually.
you're finally getting ahead
But it shouldn't be at her expense. She saved more while earning less. She shouldn't be penalized for that. He should pay an equitable share of their expenses, in proportion to his income. It has nothing to do with savings.
she might take you as being soft and push for more concessions
This is a slippery slope fallacy. Right now, she's just asking for what's equitable. If she pushes for more, then he's free to say no.
Also, do you have advice? Do I just not say anything?
Wow, one month and this is his ask, and to have it wrapped up as a present to you? That is some great gaslighting.
Although, I am curious what his actual medical doctor states is the problem. A 33 year old usually isn't having erectile dysfunction yet, so medically, what is causing the issue? And why wouldn't his medical insurance cover it if it is medical?
I mean, do as you can but could have spared me the details lol that was hard to read
Hopefully you will find someone you love and value more in time
If you force that acknowledgement of other women you're only to put those thoughts into his head. He may not even be thinking about all of that. I agree that therapy would help but what you can do is not use any of your coping mechanisms because they aren't doing you any good.
Have the two of you gotten physical? Have you gone on dates? Have you discussed what each of you are looking for?