I'm sorry dude I don't see you saving this. Honestly you shouldn't want to. Dead bedroom for 8 months but she gets purposely high and hook up with someone else?
It's probably time for you to move on. Realistically she probably didn't even tell you the whole truth.
I mean, I'm obviously going to talk with her all about it again if I bring up an open relationship so maybe just me bringing that up makes her realize how I feel the situation is.
It could be about your pubic hair comment or not. People who are overly clingy and who overly compliment are sometimes trying to convince themselves things are working out while knowing they’re not really into their partner.
Maybe she was never that into you and seeing her friends and family back and home and talking to them convinced her you weren’t the one.
I’d still ask her for a chat, to clear the air and make sure there’s no bad blood between you guys as you’re classmates
Why do I say that? Because according to your post he:
-descended on you without much notice or even really consulting you -honked at you like crazy -screamed at you -didn't let you get your coffee -seems to have been lying about his phone -demanded money -owes you money -essentially commanded you to work for hours and give him the money you earned -gave you the silent treatment -hits you -bites you – acts like a (“lovable”) jerk -is bossy -told you to shut up – was rude about your “disgusted” joke -was generally cold to you, especially when dropping you off -gave you your stuff back without explanation, despite clearly knowing that you'd have questions -is ignoring you -is homeless and sponging off you -is not someone you trust.
I don’t want to cause trouble in their relationship. I do agree though that this is my ex’s decision, and I absolutely don’t feel like I have or want any ownership of her. And I even regret not making up names for this post so that I don’t have to constantly refer to her as “my ex”, because I don’t even feel like that’s the most accurate label. We are friends more than we are exes, if that makes sense. And I feel like the gf is uncomfortable with ~the idea~ of us hanging out and if she knew how we really are when we’re alone, she wouldn’t have an issue with it and see it for what it is – a friendship.
I'm sorry dude I don't see you saving this. Honestly you shouldn't want to. Dead bedroom for 8 months but she gets purposely high and hook up with someone else?
It's probably time for you to move on. Realistically she probably didn't even tell you the whole truth.
I mean, I'm obviously going to talk with her all about it again if I bring up an open relationship so maybe just me bringing that up makes her realize how I feel the situation is.
It could be about your pubic hair comment or not. People who are overly clingy and who overly compliment are sometimes trying to convince themselves things are working out while knowing they’re not really into their partner.
Maybe she was never that into you and seeing her friends and family back and home and talking to them convinced her you weren’t the one.
I’d still ask her for a chat, to clear the air and make sure there’s no bad blood between you guys as you’re classmates
You don’t own this man. You’re not married or engaged he’s almost a free agent especially if you keep acting like this.
Why do I say that? Because according to your post he:
-descended on you without much notice or even really consulting you -honked at you like crazy -screamed at you -didn't let you get your coffee -seems to have been lying about his phone -demanded money -owes you money -essentially commanded you to work for hours and give him the money you earned -gave you the silent treatment -hits you -bites you – acts like a (“lovable”) jerk -is bossy -told you to shut up – was rude about your “disgusted” joke -was generally cold to you, especially when dropping you off -gave you your stuff back without explanation, despite clearly knowing that you'd have questions -is ignoring you -is homeless and sponging off you -is not someone you trust.
I don’t want to cause trouble in their relationship. I do agree though that this is my ex’s decision, and I absolutely don’t feel like I have or want any ownership of her. And I even regret not making up names for this post so that I don’t have to constantly refer to her as “my ex”, because I don’t even feel like that’s the most accurate label. We are friends more than we are exes, if that makes sense. And I feel like the gf is uncomfortable with ~the idea~ of us hanging out and if she knew how we really are when we’re alone, she wouldn’t have an issue with it and see it for what it is – a friendship.