First, you two don't sound like you have anything in common, don't communicate well, and are together just because you told her you wouldn't break up. There is no connection there, you seem to be still with her just because neither has ended it. Her short one word replies shows she isn't emotionally involved with your conversation, yet she is the social butterfly?
Two, the “dating prank” excuse is bullshit. She got caught and said it was a prank, she isn't the first one to pull that excuse. Big red flag there. People that love each other don't pull dating pranks, nor go behind their partner's back and to out with a guy in secret. I'll bet you found it out, she didn't actually come out and reveal it, and she tried to say nothing happened. Typical cheater excuses. The reason she isn't jealous towards you is because she is not wanting you to be that way and find out what she does.
You told her you wouldn't break up, she wanted you to make that prmoise because she knows she deserves it and is worried. You made that promise, but she didn't uphold her end when she lied to you and went out behind your back, quit communicating, and isn't putting in the effort.
Yea, it's time to end it. Quit delaying the inevitable.
Lol everyone’s commenting on graduations being boring but the point is being acknowledged for even sticking to it and getting your shit done enough to be part of that…OP she clearly doesn’t care towards the future of this relationship and all these people here that are siding with her clearly put themselves before others and it shows…I agree it’s not her fault that events landed on the same day but if you really support and love someone and want that future you make the effort to be there for them when they accomplish something they put their time and effort in…it’s a concert people there will be more concerts…
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Mate you’re coveting a baby that’s not even out of this woman’s body yet?? Do you know how fanciful, insane, and downright entitled that is? What kind of father introduces a new step parent from birth? You sound like a baby snatcher get a grip
You need to go to a therapist you find on your own. Your husband groomed you when he was your teacher, and now that you are starting to think for yourself he is trying to get you to go to this therapist as another way to control you. Find your own therapist.
Thanks for the advice. I’ve been up all night trying to figure out the root of it and how I could fix the problem. The only issue is therapy is out of my budget, but I’m going to try and find some online or something. And I am going to tell him, it’s only right and I couldn’t continue in a relationship I am not being honest in. He deserves better than that.
Truth: this is going to affect your relationship and might even end it.
Truth: either way you chose, it will affect your for the rest of your life.
Truth: this is your choice.
I wish you the best. As excited as he us about the pregnancy? He will be that upset or more that you want to about the baby. You’re in a tough place and I really feel for you.
I’m sure you’ve thought about keeping the baby. Reality is, if he doesn’t understand, and he might end up hating you for it, you may have to adjust in starting your family sooner than what you thought in order to keep him and have a family with him. I really wouldn’t wish you to be in that situation either.
Yehaaaa…… If you're getting beat up in front of your friends and they decide to film it instead of helping you…. Kinda says a lot about you and your relationships. I wonder how “toxic” you actually were in the relationship with your ex.
Some parents care more about what is important to them than what is good for their child. It sounds like this might be the case here. Parents sometimes see issues that the child in the relationship doesn't see, so it's good to think about what they are saying, but if what they're concerned about is just their own preconceived idea about what your partner should be rather than something that could really be a problem for you, then I think you need to ignore them and let them know that whatever concerns them doesn't matter to you and your partner makes you happy so you are going to continue dating them.
Well you’ve already told him to make up his mind so leave it there. When he comes back to you, you can always tell him it’s too late and that ship has sailed.
Maybe practice saying how you really feel. If you’re feeling nervous say you’re nervous. Then tell her she’s beautiful. You can even play it off like it’s not a big deal at all.
I sometimes stutter in those moments and I just say things like ‘see you got me so nervous’, ‘idk why I can’t find the words rn’. Usually I get a warm smile in response and a little support and then I have enough time to figure out how to say what I really feel about someone.
Don’t put pressure on yourself to be a poet. You don’t need fancy words-just honest words. Also, her weight and body issues are her personal battles.
There’s no magical words you can say that are gonna fix how she feels about herself. If it’s really bad maybe she can go to therapy and read some books to help her with her self-perception so she can accept herself better. All you can help with is helping her realise how you feel about her.
Yeah, this is one of those relationship problems that can be worked out with communication if you both really love each other. I advocate for breaking up 100% if there’s any type of infidelity or abuse. These types of problems are not necessarily break up problems, but breakdown in communication problems. Good luck.
“Why didn't my brother personally invite me himself instead of the woman he's literally about to make a life-long commitment of mutual love and affection with?”
is a whole new level of entitlement.
It's in London so presumably this is the Royal Family, based off her highness' reaction, I can never keep track of those silly people. /s
“Why didn't my brother personally invite me himself instead of the woman he's literally about to make a life-long commitment of mutual love and affection with?”
is a whole new level of entitlement.
It's in London so presumably this is the Royal Family, based off her highness' reaction, I can never keep track of those silly people. /s
u think best solution is to ask the friend right ?
This is funny because you don't know me at all? although I can confirm my life is certainly less boring than yours ?
woah this is such good advice. thank you so much. this is all about helping him and nothing else. i really appreciate it.
A year and three months
Two things:
First, you two don't sound like you have anything in common, don't communicate well, and are together just because you told her you wouldn't break up. There is no connection there, you seem to be still with her just because neither has ended it. Her short one word replies shows she isn't emotionally involved with your conversation, yet she is the social butterfly?
Two, the “dating prank” excuse is bullshit. She got caught and said it was a prank, she isn't the first one to pull that excuse. Big red flag there. People that love each other don't pull dating pranks, nor go behind their partner's back and to out with a guy in secret. I'll bet you found it out, she didn't actually come out and reveal it, and she tried to say nothing happened. Typical cheater excuses. The reason she isn't jealous towards you is because she is not wanting you to be that way and find out what she does.
You told her you wouldn't break up, she wanted you to make that prmoise because she knows she deserves it and is worried. You made that promise, but she didn't uphold her end when she lied to you and went out behind your back, quit communicating, and isn't putting in the effort.
Yea, it's time to end it. Quit delaying the inevitable.
Lol everyone’s commenting on graduations being boring but the point is being acknowledged for even sticking to it and getting your shit done enough to be part of that…OP she clearly doesn’t care towards the future of this relationship and all these people here that are siding with her clearly put themselves before others and it shows…I agree it’s not her fault that events landed on the same day but if you really support and love someone and want that future you make the effort to be there for them when they accomplish something they put their time and effort in…it’s a concert people there will be more concerts…
Don’t reach out. Not worth it. Better off without her. Find someone more suitable for you.
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You already don't. Your father stopped being a parent the moment he abused you.
Mate you’re coveting a baby that’s not even out of this woman’s body yet?? Do you know how fanciful, insane, and downright entitled that is? What kind of father introduces a new step parent from birth? You sound like a baby snatcher get a grip
True. Sounds like OP was working and she was staying at home which I guess would almost guarantee this dynamic.
You need to go to a therapist you find on your own. Your husband groomed you when he was your teacher, and now that you are starting to think for yourself he is trying to get you to go to this therapist as another way to control you. Find your own therapist.
I didn’t want to choke her, i really didn’t. I really love her but she’s very combative when she drinks.
I am going to. Thanks for the advice.
Thanks for the advice. I’ve been up all night trying to figure out the root of it and how I could fix the problem. The only issue is therapy is out of my budget, but I’m going to try and find some online or something. And I am going to tell him, it’s only right and I couldn’t continue in a relationship I am not being honest in. He deserves better than that.
Truth: this is going to affect your relationship and might even end it.
Truth: either way you chose, it will affect your for the rest of your life.
Truth: this is your choice.
I wish you the best. As excited as he us about the pregnancy? He will be that upset or more that you want to about the baby. You’re in a tough place and I really feel for you.
I’m sure you’ve thought about keeping the baby. Reality is, if he doesn’t understand, and he might end up hating you for it, you may have to adjust in starting your family sooner than what you thought in order to keep him and have a family with him. I really wouldn’t wish you to be in that situation either.
You have to do what you can live with.
I’m more upset that you’re such a buzzkill for something as innocent as loving Disney.
Echo chamber of truth**
Lol just because y’all downvote and continue to bury your head in the sand – doesn’t mean the truth won’t continue on being the truth.
Refreshing to see this point of view on here. This comment is another of those that I wish more people could see.
What specifically do you think you will “destroy” if you leave your current partner for your ex?
Romantic relationships end. Maybe you would have to move to a new place, negotiate joint custody with your ex, etc. That's all do-able.
What exactly are you afraid will be destroyed?
Ask him to shave .
Hell no.
Physically picking someone up against their will is an assault. There’s no question about that.
Thank you. I truly appreciate this
Yehaaaa…… If you're getting beat up in front of your friends and they decide to film it instead of helping you…. Kinda says a lot about you and your relationships. I wonder how “toxic” you actually were in the relationship with your ex.
Some parents care more about what is important to them than what is good for their child. It sounds like this might be the case here. Parents sometimes see issues that the child in the relationship doesn't see, so it's good to think about what they are saying, but if what they're concerned about is just their own preconceived idea about what your partner should be rather than something that could really be a problem for you, then I think you need to ignore them and let them know that whatever concerns them doesn't matter to you and your partner makes you happy so you are going to continue dating them.
Well you’ve already told him to make up his mind so leave it there. When he comes back to you, you can always tell him it’s too late and that ship has sailed.
Just say no.
How do you even know that? There’s no interest in any regards?
Maybe practice saying how you really feel. If you’re feeling nervous say you’re nervous. Then tell her she’s beautiful. You can even play it off like it’s not a big deal at all.
I sometimes stutter in those moments and I just say things like ‘see you got me so nervous’, ‘idk why I can’t find the words rn’. Usually I get a warm smile in response and a little support and then I have enough time to figure out how to say what I really feel about someone.
Don’t put pressure on yourself to be a poet. You don’t need fancy words-just honest words. Also, her weight and body issues are her personal battles.
There’s no magical words you can say that are gonna fix how she feels about herself. If it’s really bad maybe she can go to therapy and read some books to help her with her self-perception so she can accept herself better. All you can help with is helping her realise how you feel about her.
Yeah, this is one of those relationship problems that can be worked out with communication if you both really love each other. I advocate for breaking up 100% if there’s any type of infidelity or abuse. These types of problems are not necessarily break up problems, but breakdown in communication problems. Good luck.
Oh I totally agree with that.
“Why didn't my brother personally invite me himself instead of the woman he's literally about to make a life-long commitment of mutual love and affection with?”
is a whole new level of entitlement.
It's in London so presumably this is the Royal Family, based off her highness' reaction, I can never keep track of those silly people. /s
Oh I totally agree with that.
“Why didn't my brother personally invite me himself instead of the woman he's literally about to make a life-long commitment of mutual love and affection with?”
is a whole new level of entitlement.
It's in London so presumably this is the Royal Family, based off her highness' reaction, I can never keep track of those silly people. /s
Because its almost his 40th, that would be mean /s
He sounds like a jerk. He came in and blew you off completely. Are you sure he is your boyfriend?