You’ve been living with this awful trauma for about 20 years. You tried to push the trauma away but it didn’t work. Unfortunately your body keeps that trauma and your efforts to ignore it makes it come out in weird, and unhelpful ways.
What happened to you was absolutely awful. You didn’t deserve it at all. You don’t deserve the pain that you went through then, and the haunting memories that you’ve had every single day since.
But you do deserve to heal. You deserve to take control of your mind and your life.
You have to accept the trauma and how it affected this relationship. All of it is real and all of it did happen.
You can move through this and find more love than you ever dreamed possible. But you have to do the work. You didn’t do the work prior to meeting her and now you know what a mistake that was.
This was the purpose of her in your life. To shine a bright light on your issues. Get help and the true love of your life will come into your life and you’ll now know how valuable she is.
Yeah, that’s cheating. Even the intention of nothing actually occurred is very hurtful. I’m going through something similar in which my wife is talking to another married man. They aren’t sexting but what they are saying to each other hurts me. It sounds like you guys dodged a bullet but the trauma of almost getting shot is hard to deny
So he said this or his mum said he said it? If he said it, that to me would suggest he is looking for reason to hit you. That would be a NOPE out time in my opinion
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You’ve been living with this awful trauma for about 20 years. You tried to push the trauma away but it didn’t work. Unfortunately your body keeps that trauma and your efforts to ignore it makes it come out in weird, and unhelpful ways.
What happened to you was absolutely awful. You didn’t deserve it at all. You don’t deserve the pain that you went through then, and the haunting memories that you’ve had every single day since.
But you do deserve to heal. You deserve to take control of your mind and your life.
You have to accept the trauma and how it affected this relationship. All of it is real and all of it did happen.
You can move through this and find more love than you ever dreamed possible. But you have to do the work. You didn’t do the work prior to meeting her and now you know what a mistake that was.
This was the purpose of her in your life. To shine a bright light on your issues. Get help and the true love of your life will come into your life and you’ll now know how valuable she is.
Yeah, that’s cheating. Even the intention of nothing actually occurred is very hurtful. I’m going through something similar in which my wife is talking to another married man. They aren’t sexting but what they are saying to each other hurts me. It sounds like you guys dodged a bullet but the trauma of almost getting shot is hard to deny
OP, this has MURDER SUICIDE written all over it.
Leave him now and don't tell him.
So he said this or his mum said he said it? If he said it, that to me would suggest he is looking for reason to hit you. That would be a NOPE out time in my opinion