This is extremely typical of abusers, they keep up the nice act until they get what they want, once married the real them comes out. You seriously need to run, not walk, away from this relationship.
He is stomping all over your boundaries to try to manipulate you into an open relationship. This is a classic example of emotional manipulation:
Make the victim (you) feel vested in the relationship. Agree to certain boundaries. Push the boundary until manipulator gets pushback from the victim. Reel back just enough to maintain the relationship. Repeat steps 2, 3, & 4 until manipulator gets what they want.
You can either live it and say at some point 'huh, psychRNkris was right' or end it now. Sorry.
You tell him NO! He is manipulating you and pushing you into something you do not want and/or are not ready for. Are you even into this friend? Are any of you prepared for when this blows up in your face?
how do you plan a future with someone like this?
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What do you mean “how”? Personally, I would not even THINK of planning ANY kind of future with someone like your bf.
I would never choose a bf over my dad.
If he doesn't like my dad just because he doesn't get “space” for ONE night a month, then guess what? We're done. Overs. Relationship over. Period.
Nothing wrong with that.
In the OP, she says the ex took the photos.
Given your 18 years difference how old were you when you and your husband met?
Has your bf said she has been flirty or anything?
This is extremely typical of abusers, they keep up the nice act until they get what they want, once married the real them comes out. You seriously need to run, not walk, away from this relationship.
How is this a question. Run and never look back.
No wonder they hate him… He's bad. Run girl.listen to your parents.
When you marry a man 14 years your senior thinking he's mature and he turns out to be a walking red flag but you're colorblind
He is stomping all over your boundaries to try to manipulate you into an open relationship. This is a classic example of emotional manipulation:
Make the victim (you) feel vested in the relationship. Agree to certain boundaries. Push the boundary until manipulator gets pushback from the victim. Reel back just enough to maintain the relationship. Repeat steps 2, 3, & 4 until manipulator gets what they want.
You can either live it and say at some point 'huh, psychRNkris was right' or end it now. Sorry.
If you aren't in therapy, please get some. And maybe don't date for a while.
Bro… go with your gut on this one.
You tell him NO! He is manipulating you and pushing you into something you do not want and/or are not ready for. Are you even into this friend? Are any of you prepared for when this blows up in your face?