You asked why would someone not just leave? My partner's ex was like this. She kept him hanging on, basically a roommate with benefits, until he realized she was just using him while looking for someone “better”. So he ended it, like you’re doing. I also have a friend who is poly, but their partners all know and agree up front, so there's no expectation of monogamy and no lying. So it's possible your GF needs a poly relationship, and isn’t being honest with herself or you. But it's not possible to figure that out for her.
If she had total access, I would never know when she’s looking or what her motivations are.
We are talking about intrusive thoughts. If she wants to check a bank statement while she’s having a mini panic attack, go right ahead.
Humans aren’t perfect. They can’t always control their thoughts or anxiety. If it’s such a small thing as checking a bank statement every once in a while or swabbing a baby’s cheek, go right ahead.
He has crossed into sexual harassment. You have a dean of student affairs. Take whatever texts you have and make an appointment to go talk to the dean about being sexually harassed by this guy.
Ok let me explain some things in my comment people are saying it wasn't an accident but it was an immediate reaction I didn't really mean to actually kiss him and no I wasn't waiting for this moment to eventually happen so that I could kiss him.
Daniel is like someone you'd consider “conventially” attractive if you saw him you'd find over him too but he also has a good personality which is why I fell for him even more I wasn't being “boy crazy”
I do feel bad for what I did, but I'm afraid to hurt both guys which is why I'm afraid to tell the truth because I have grown to deeply love both
Because i have no reason to believe she'd lie about this. I'm taking what she said at face value.
You asked why would someone not just leave? My partner's ex was like this. She kept him hanging on, basically a roommate with benefits, until he realized she was just using him while looking for someone “better”. So he ended it, like you’re doing. I also have a friend who is poly, but their partners all know and agree up front, so there's no expectation of monogamy and no lying. So it's possible your GF needs a poly relationship, and isn’t being honest with herself or you. But it's not possible to figure that out for her.
Whatever her reason, leaving is the right choice.
Yeah I ain’t touching this
She is lying to you and/or herself.
I did this for an entire first marriage.
I promise you, it does not get better. It only gets worse, more sporadic, and more excuses as to why she doesn't want sex.
She's just not that into you.
Sounds like a very unhealthy attachment style in a sense, therapy would help
Date your friend and find out
Don’t invalidate his gut feeling, take it seriously. Ask questions about it. Does he usually have gut feelings and how do they work out for him?
If she had total access, I would never know when she’s looking or what her motivations are.
We are talking about intrusive thoughts. If she wants to check a bank statement while she’s having a mini panic attack, go right ahead.
Humans aren’t perfect. They can’t always control their thoughts or anxiety. If it’s such a small thing as checking a bank statement every once in a while or swabbing a baby’s cheek, go right ahead.
He has crossed into sexual harassment. You have a dean of student affairs. Take whatever texts you have and make an appointment to go talk to the dean about being sexually harassed by this guy.
Ok let me explain some things in my comment people are saying it wasn't an accident but it was an immediate reaction I didn't really mean to actually kiss him and no I wasn't waiting for this moment to eventually happen so that I could kiss him.
Daniel is like someone you'd consider “conventially” attractive if you saw him you'd find over him too but he also has a good personality which is why I fell for him even more I wasn't being “boy crazy”
I do feel bad for what I did, but I'm afraid to hurt both guys which is why I'm afraid to tell the truth because I have grown to deeply love both
I can hold myself accountable