Why are you wasting your time on a man that creates a lost to weigh his options of bring with you? Do you want to marry and carry the children of a man who won't commit? You deserve someone who won't stand for anything less than giving you everything and bring with you.
I say go for it. At least once. Open your mind. It's not gay. It's your gf. I've never had any butt stuff but I've always heard good things from the straight friends that were daring enough to try.
You chose to see it that way and that's probably a fairly bigoted view. It would be the same way if I said poly people are non-committal and unable to be loyal. You rant about bigoted views against poly people but you have bigoted views against monogamous people
This isnt a double standard .. this is a pteferance thing also the guy didnt bring up the 3sum she did and she specifically said a chick and then mentioned a guy which her bf wasnt okay with. This is all on her
Oh yeah, my bad, I forgot to put the age in there, but we're both 21 years old and in University. She is taking a gender/queer class right now, but I think she's had these thoughts for a few years now already.
Nah you never get over it completely, you can choose to ignore it but it will always come up in arguments and then you’re seen as in the wrong for dredging up old shit.
It would be hard to deal with his family and his mother if you were totally in your court and cut up ties with them. But you don’t have that you have somebody that doesn’t even understand where you’re coming from. I think you had to stay away if you’re in a safe place where you can figure out what to do in another few months you’re going to start feeling like yourself again and be able to move about in the world. You could coparent to be friends the problem is that mother-in-law will have more access to your child if you’re not around. Meaning if he has custody, he can take that kid right around her. That’s a lot to think about before you do anything.
This is beyond relationship advice, you need legal advice.
Do you know where your legal papers and social security card are in the house, and can you retrieve them?
Please find someone to guide you through how to block her from both your and your siblings accounts now, ask at your school for free legal advice or make some calls to the local social services to find out what is there. You seem to have a healthy support system around, ask them for help as well.
I Hope it’s the injury thing! He never offers to do anything to me either. I asked him a few times but it felt pointless to keep having to demand it every time. I figured the chronic pain might be why he doesn’t feel like doing much.
I Hope it’s the injury thing! He never offers to do anything to me either. I asked him a few times but it felt pointless to keep having to demand it every time. I figured the chronic pain might be why he doesn’t feel like doing much.
Basically what are you getting from this relationship OP??
What she is contributing to the couple and your home? What she is doing to change things now.
That lack of self control is a huge red flag OP and her spending habits are very worrisome, she doesn't care about the financial wellbeing of the couple and you has been enabling this kind of behavior, looks like you just keep your mouth shut up just to avoid problem and keep the peace.
You deserve better than this, seriously rethink this relationship.
I go along to events and grin and bear it to keep everyone happy, and if I'm not up for staying as long as people need me to stay, I say that I'm not feeling well to make it clear it's not a problem with them.
Your in-laws might just think that you dislike them, not the crowd factor.
How often do you invite them out?
Might be worth specifically spelling it out that you get overwhelmed by crowds, but really appreciate that they still invite you, and hope they know that you like and care about them as people.
He needs to be spear heading this search. If you are the one making it happen, it will fail.
How come you are on Reddit searching for ideas and he’s not? Reddit is 24/7, so it’s not a time issue.
A man with low effort and ambition will always make you feel vulnerable. You need to choose wisely. He’s 28 and he’s not really different than he was at 18.
The drive has to come from him. Not you trying to figure it out for him.
I never said that he can't change, I just warned you that if he has a history of cheating, and has regularly told you how difficult it is to stop himself from cheating on you, then you shouldn't be surprised if it does happen. The risks and dangers are right there on the tin and you are acting like I am picking out the next trillion dollar company or next world cup winners. I hope he changes, I really do, and I know that he is fighting a massive uphill struggle, but ignorance and denial will only hurt you and make it harder to support him.
She asked me one time if we thought similarly about major things like politics and religion, and it was a very strange conversation and it ended with her saying how she and her husband agreed on everything.
I left being like, okay? So then why do my views matter? It was very weird.
Why are you wasting your time on a man that creates a lost to weigh his options of bring with you? Do you want to marry and carry the children of a man who won't commit? You deserve someone who won't stand for anything less than giving you everything and bring with you.
No you didn’t.
I say go for it. At least once. Open your mind. It's not gay. It's your gf. I've never had any butt stuff but I've always heard good things from the straight friends that were daring enough to try.
You should maybe stop procreating ? the fact you’re even entertaining the idea is crazy to me
You chose to see it that way and that's probably a fairly bigoted view. It would be the same way if I said poly people are non-committal and unable to be loyal. You rant about bigoted views against poly people but you have bigoted views against monogamous people
WOW that's some over think. If it bugs you this much break up with him so he can find somebody who isn't going to waste his time.
This isnt a double standard .. this is a pteferance thing also the guy didnt bring up the 3sum she did and she specifically said a chick and then mentioned a guy which her bf wasnt okay with. This is all on her
Oh yeah, my bad, I forgot to put the age in there, but we're both 21 years old and in University. She is taking a gender/queer class right now, but I think she's had these thoughts for a few years now already.
Nah you never get over it completely, you can choose to ignore it but it will always come up in arguments and then you’re seen as in the wrong for dredging up old shit.
It would be hard to deal with his family and his mother if you were totally in your court and cut up ties with them. But you don’t have that you have somebody that doesn’t even understand where you’re coming from. I think you had to stay away if you’re in a safe place where you can figure out what to do in another few months you’re going to start feeling like yourself again and be able to move about in the world. You could coparent to be friends the problem is that mother-in-law will have more access to your child if you’re not around. Meaning if he has custody, he can take that kid right around her. That’s a lot to think about before you do anything.
He’s jealous, probably. I would just cut him out or, at least, set hard boundaries
He told you he wouldn’t care so leave him. Why stay with someone who doesn’t love you.
If he has trauma he should get it fixed fefore getting into any relationship.
This is beyond relationship advice, you need legal advice.
Do you know where your legal papers and social security card are in the house, and can you retrieve them?
Please find someone to guide you through how to block her from both your and your siblings accounts now, ask at your school for free legal advice or make some calls to the local social services to find out what is there. You seem to have a healthy support system around, ask them for help as well.
I Hope it’s the injury thing! He never offers to do anything to me either. I asked him a few times but it felt pointless to keep having to demand it every time. I figured the chronic pain might be why he doesn’t feel like doing much.
I Hope it’s the injury thing! He never offers to do anything to me either. I asked him a few times but it felt pointless to keep having to demand it every time. I figured the chronic pain might be why he doesn’t feel like doing much.
Sounds like ego stroke for him. The fact that he didn't shut it down immediately speaks volumes.
Sounds like ego stroke for him. The fact that he didn't shut it down immediately speaks volumes.
Basically what are you getting from this relationship OP??
What she is contributing to the couple and your home? What she is doing to change things now.
That lack of self control is a huge red flag OP and her spending habits are very worrisome, she doesn't care about the financial wellbeing of the couple and you has been enabling this kind of behavior, looks like you just keep your mouth shut up just to avoid problem and keep the peace.
You deserve better than this, seriously rethink this relationship.
I wish I was braless at 21. They are the most uncomfortable thing to wear. Tie an elastic around your balls then sticky tape them to your leg.
You concern is that the nipples are visible due to the clothing she wears. Buy her nipple covers and let her be braless.
Amazing
You’re 27 years old. You can control yourself, you just don’t want to.
I know, we were so happy and I was able to look past it at first! But we are in LDR now I guess that’s why these things are creeping up to me
I go along to events and grin and bear it to keep everyone happy, and if I'm not up for staying as long as people need me to stay, I say that I'm not feeling well to make it clear it's not a problem with them.
Your in-laws might just think that you dislike them, not the crowd factor.
How often do you invite them out?
Might be worth specifically spelling it out that you get overwhelmed by crowds, but really appreciate that they still invite you, and hope they know that you like and care about them as people.
You are not asking her to choose, but she is telling you that she has already made a choice. If it comes down to you are the best friend, you loose.
Deal with it by breaking up with her and finding someone that will put you first.
You are not asking her to choose, but she is telling you that she has already made a choice. If it comes down to you are the best friend, you loose.
Deal with it by breaking up with her and finding someone that will put you first.
He needs to be spear heading this search. If you are the one making it happen, it will fail.
How come you are on Reddit searching for ideas and he’s not? Reddit is 24/7, so it’s not a time issue.
A man with low effort and ambition will always make you feel vulnerable. You need to choose wisely. He’s 28 and he’s not really different than he was at 18.
The drive has to come from him. Not you trying to figure it out for him.
Your husband takes 50mg or more total throughout the day? 50mg alone is above what's considered safe for heart health in an adult. Sorry to hear that.
I never said that he can't change, I just warned you that if he has a history of cheating, and has regularly told you how difficult it is to stop himself from cheating on you, then you shouldn't be surprised if it does happen. The risks and dangers are right there on the tin and you are acting like I am picking out the next trillion dollar company or next world cup winners. I hope he changes, I really do, and I know that he is fighting a massive uphill struggle, but ignorance and denial will only hurt you and make it harder to support him.
Yeah this sounds like she is cheating. Gather your evidence.
She asked me one time if we thought similarly about major things like politics and religion, and it was a very strange conversation and it ended with her saying how she and her husband agreed on everything.
I left being like, okay? So then why do my views matter? It was very weird.