There is no easy way to solve it completely, as is a mental problem, is easier to be strong when there is no attachment, when there is attachment is often the weakness for anyone. The best suggestion I can apart from therapy or talk to professionals is talking to your boyfriend so he can give you more trust and feel safe and less worried even when he is not here, is also better for your relationship long term
Ugh. What a mess. I'm not sure what advice to give you there.
I think just share your thoughts, and ask him why he hangs out with him. Is it because of his friend group or what? Is it really just because they have to get on in classes?
I think the word you were looking for is difference in hobbies. So your gf doesn't want to do the same thing you do. It's healthy to have different hobbies. My fiance is a drummer. He doesn't post on Reddit about how he's worried I can't play the drums. I read books, he's more into comics. Shocker. We still have a great relationship.
You sound kind of like you have somev “know it all” type tendencies though, so that can sour any relationship really fast. Watch out.
You are in limerence stage. This is not love. Love is paying bills together, when sick or healthy, doing good or bad. You will move in together, 6 months later the song composition will stop for you and start for another woman and you will be left with nothing. No kids, husband, relationship. Hope I am wrong, but healthy relationships don’t start like this.
I'm not super concerned. This has it became an issue recently as things have come to ahead. If it's something I feel as though I can't work through post communication with her, I'll definitely seek something, thanks!
If he’s done it before, he will do it again. Maybe he DUD have to test from the army but he ALDO knows/suspects he has something & this is his sick, twisted, adultering-ass way of breaking it to you gently. He tells you something came back, he might accuse YOU of giving it to him… if this is the case, get your shit together and walk. Men like that do not change and only get worse.
I know this has been resolved through your update, but I knew your story already because his girlfriend came to this sub for advice on the situation as well. I think she had the thread removed, but she seemed to have some resentment toward you, and I told her all the resentment should go to her boyfriend because he's absolutely harassing you and you're likely holding off on standing up to him for all the reasons you listed. I know it's the same story because her boyfriend had lifted his neighbour's number off the group chat as well. I'm sorry this ordeal has lasted so long, and I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself.
Any updates yet? Did you talk to him or the wife?
There is no easy way to solve it completely, as is a mental problem, is easier to be strong when there is no attachment, when there is attachment is often the weakness for anyone. The best suggestion I can apart from therapy or talk to professionals is talking to your boyfriend so he can give you more trust and feel safe and less worried even when he is not here, is also better for your relationship long term
My mom has offered and she never really had a problem with my mom, so i think that can work, but I'll look more into it.
Don't trust em.
Ugh. What a mess. I'm not sure what advice to give you there.
I think just share your thoughts, and ask him why he hangs out with him. Is it because of his friend group or what? Is it really just because they have to get on in classes?
I think the word you were looking for is difference in hobbies. So your gf doesn't want to do the same thing you do. It's healthy to have different hobbies. My fiance is a drummer. He doesn't post on Reddit about how he's worried I can't play the drums. I read books, he's more into comics. Shocker. We still have a great relationship.
You sound kind of like you have somev “know it all” type tendencies though, so that can sour any relationship really fast. Watch out.
You are in limerence stage. This is not love. Love is paying bills together, when sick or healthy, doing good or bad. You will move in together, 6 months later the song composition will stop for you and start for another woman and you will be left with nothing. No kids, husband, relationship. Hope I am wrong, but healthy relationships don’t start like this.
I'm not super concerned. This has it became an issue recently as things have come to ahead. If it's something I feel as though I can't work through post communication with her, I'll definitely seek something, thanks!
If he’s done it before, he will do it again. Maybe he DUD have to test from the army but he ALDO knows/suspects he has something & this is his sick, twisted, adultering-ass way of breaking it to you gently. He tells you something came back, he might accuse YOU of giving it to him… if this is the case, get your shit together and walk. Men like that do not change and only get worse.
That’s exactly what my first thought was. “His parents weren’t home” and security cameras off? Dude is 100% married and lived w his wife.
A is using S as an excuse. And he is probably using you for a weekly bootie-call. Until he finds someone else and breaks up with you for good.
I know this has been resolved through your update, but I knew your story already because his girlfriend came to this sub for advice on the situation as well. I think she had the thread removed, but she seemed to have some resentment toward you, and I told her all the resentment should go to her boyfriend because he's absolutely harassing you and you're likely holding off on standing up to him for all the reasons you listed. I know it's the same story because her boyfriend had lifted his neighbour's number off the group chat as well. I'm sorry this ordeal has lasted so long, and I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself.