Ok thanks for the clarification. Either sheās lying or sheās allergic to latex- which; there are other options always. Latex free condoms, an IUD if sheād be comfortable getting thatā¦. Idk; sounds like an excuse from her. Unless she genuinely is allergic to latex. But Iād be cautious and honestly; Iād avoid having sex with her until you get this sorted out.
Just a different thought than a lot of these responses: maybe he's mentally not well (e.g. Depression). It sounds a lot like he made stuff up in his mind and is incapable of talking to you about it.
Maybe it's possible for you to go over to his home (please don't go alone) to check on him.
You know damn good and well that there are going to be women there especially if they are single men . Who will you kiss at midnight? It's not going to be your GF. Just saying, don't be surprised if her new years resolution is to dump you. Why can't she party with you and your new found friends? If you truly don't want her with you, it's for a reason, sorry my opinion. Unless, you and your buddies are really close for a reason.
This relationship was over long before this Christmas argument you had. Heās been withdrawn from the relationship, and I think this was just the final straw. If it wasnāt this Christmas argument, it would have been something else.
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Echoing this as well. My friend is sleeping with a man that has a girlfriend, she knows this. Iāve countlessly tried to tell her to do X and she does Y. At the end of the day she will do whatever she wants and quite frankly, thatās not my life so who am I to judge? Is it wrong? Yes. Does she know this? Yes. Weāre all adults here.
Do the three of you hangout? Has she made an effort to get to know you? It might come down to being incompatible with your values. After a healthy conversation, see what his actions show you and then go from there. If it makes you uncomfortable, youāve voiced it, and he still chooses their friendship then I think youāre right to break it off.
In your other post, you admit to cheating twice. Was it with the same woman or two different women? Additionally, as of 24 hours ago, your partner was unaware that youād cheated on them!
Well there is nothing wrong giving her a chance if you are the type who is able to forget and rug sweep the cheating. But you know that once trust is gone, it takes a lot of effort and time to rebuild it. When you see that she is capable of lying and cheating even after you gave her an ultimatum for her inappropriate behaviour, you will never be sure that if you need to spend time apart in the future for work or studies, she will be trustworthy partner.
For those who normally read such matters, you will understand that we are sceptical that all that happened was a kiss. Your gf could have gaslit you easily that that was all that happened. Did you read that no sex happened in their communication?
At 20, she already has the ability to cheat. Do you think she will not do it again? Do you have an open phone policy in place? Do you want to be with someone you don't trust?
The only one I was convinced was real was the Jewish lady in uhā¦ Arkansas? maybe who was being harassed by one of her coworkers and posted on legal advice, where someone found a post on a different subreddit from said coworker that matched and included details she said she left out. The writing styles were totally different and it seemed plausible.
Most of the rest of these are just blatantly obvious.
Based on the title I thought her demands were gonna be all over the place and over the top but after reading the body shes right and reasonable.
You're 25 and about to become a father which is the path you've chosen, time to man up and act like it. Getting swayed by your friends this severely after a night of heavy party and drug use is embarrassing at your age in this situation tbh regardless of what you guys end up doing with the pregnancy. I had a cousin die like this at your age and leave behind a son btw.
By that logic, calling what the majority of people commenter here ājudgementā is completely off as well. Being pedantic just completely dismantles what you were complaining about to begin with.
āYouāre acting entitled and should get over itā is the advice the majority dished out. You have to use your ājudgementā to dish out āadviceā that aligns with your morals. My judgment is this comment was stupid and a really weird way to argue. My advice would be not to attempt to use literal meanings of words when coming to the defense of someone whoās acting like a jackass.
Sometimes the advice is truly to get the hell over it and take the moment to reflect on the reality check that was dished to you by strangers online.
You have rights, if you live in the states you should be ok. I felt the same fear when the divorce happened between my ex and I. However, with the help of two good lawyers (I realize this is always the case and in this respect maybe I got lucky) who had our interests in mind we arrived at the 50/50 custody split I have now. Yes it sucks to not have my daughters for a week, but then I get a full week with them. In some ways the week they are gone allows me to recharge, I am a better dad when they are here now then I was when I was also dealing with a toxic marriage. Kids are aware of much more the. We frequently give them credit for. She will probably still be quite young when she realizes something isnāt right between you two. You canāt stay in the marriage for the kid,she will have a better life with you happy and whole. If you can demonstrate you are safe parent who has been actively involved in her care and upbringing, she canāt take the baby from you, you are entitled to 50% of her time. Consult a lawyer about moving forward, there are things you can do to ensure it happens like this. Good luck OP, I hope you find some peace.
You donāt have to be sensitive about it. Sit him down and tell him that this behaviour is unacceptable.
Let me ask you, if your sister told you her bf was like this, what would you say to her?
This man is 33 and I doubt heās going to change. Do you want to be anchored to this for the rest of your life? Because if you marry him, this is what you are getting. It doesnāt get better and you canāt āfix himā.
You're not alone brother, it's a serious question.
My wife and I had been anti kids for a while, we eventually moved to fence sitters and now we're are pro kid with an understanding that if it doesn't happen we'll be perfectly happy knowing how we can live our life to the fullest because we explored a life without kids š
Really glad you decided to investigate further in a clever way. Most would treat her like shit and break up and/or contribute further to her ruined reputation at work/socially. Itās true video quality doesnāt transfer well between android/iPhone-Iāve had both. Itās always glitchy and the resolution is heavily pixilated. People can be horrible & itās worse when you think they are friends. She will find new, mature friends in time.
If you can try to acknowledge that to him it was just meaningless sex that can help.
Ok thanks for the clarification. Either sheās lying or sheās allergic to latex- which; there are other options always. Latex free condoms, an IUD if sheād be comfortable getting thatā¦. Idk; sounds like an excuse from her. Unless she genuinely is allergic to latex. But Iād be cautious and honestly; Iād avoid having sex with her until you get this sorted out.
Just a different thought than a lot of these responses: maybe he's mentally not well (e.g. Depression). It sounds a lot like he made stuff up in his mind and is incapable of talking to you about it.
Maybe it's possible for you to go over to his home (please don't go alone) to check on him.
You know damn good and well that there are going to be women there especially if they are single men . Who will you kiss at midnight? It's not going to be your GF. Just saying, don't be surprised if her new years resolution is to dump you. Why can't she party with you and your new found friends? If you truly don't want her with you, it's for a reason, sorry my opinion. Unless, you and your buddies are really close for a reason.
The Wi-Fi move was hilarious. Absolute legend.
This relationship was over long before this Christmas argument you had. Heās been withdrawn from the relationship, and I think this was just the final straw. If it wasnāt this Christmas argument, it would have been something else.
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Theyāll get over it
Echoing this as well. My friend is sleeping with a man that has a girlfriend, she knows this. Iāve countlessly tried to tell her to do X and she does Y. At the end of the day she will do whatever she wants and quite frankly, thatās not my life so who am I to judge? Is it wrong? Yes. Does she know this? Yes. Weāre all adults here.
I agree that your fiancĆ© went too far to say youāll be done if you interfere with their friendship.
Do the three of you hangout? Has she made an effort to get to know you? It might come down to being incompatible with your values. After a healthy conversation, see what his actions show you and then go from there. If it makes you uncomfortable, youāve voiced it, and he still chooses their friendship then I think youāre right to break it off.
In your other post, you admit to cheating twice. Was it with the same woman or two different women? Additionally, as of 24 hours ago, your partner was unaware that youād cheated on them!
Well there is nothing wrong giving her a chance if you are the type who is able to forget and rug sweep the cheating. But you know that once trust is gone, it takes a lot of effort and time to rebuild it. When you see that she is capable of lying and cheating even after you gave her an ultimatum for her inappropriate behaviour, you will never be sure that if you need to spend time apart in the future for work or studies, she will be trustworthy partner.
For those who normally read such matters, you will understand that we are sceptical that all that happened was a kiss. Your gf could have gaslit you easily that that was all that happened. Did you read that no sex happened in their communication?
At 20, she already has the ability to cheat. Do you think she will not do it again? Do you have an open phone policy in place? Do you want to be with someone you don't trust?
The only one I was convinced was real was the Jewish lady in uhā¦ Arkansas? maybe who was being harassed by one of her coworkers and posted on legal advice, where someone found a post on a different subreddit from said coworker that matched and included details she said she left out. The writing styles were totally different and it seemed plausible.
Most of the rest of these are just blatantly obvious.
Based on the title I thought her demands were gonna be all over the place and over the top but after reading the body shes right and reasonable.
You're 25 and about to become a father which is the path you've chosen, time to man up and act like it. Getting swayed by your friends this severely after a night of heavy party and drug use is embarrassing at your age in this situation tbh regardless of what you guys end up doing with the pregnancy. I had a cousin die like this at your age and leave behind a son btw.
Agree. But just donāt think itās normal or healthy to have 3 month dry streaks in your young 20s.
yeah, there is no coming back from that in a relationship
By that logic, calling what the majority of people commenter here ājudgementā is completely off as well. Being pedantic just completely dismantles what you were complaining about to begin with.
āYouāre acting entitled and should get over itā is the advice the majority dished out. You have to use your ājudgementā to dish out āadviceā that aligns with your morals. My judgment is this comment was stupid and a really weird way to argue. My advice would be not to attempt to use literal meanings of words when coming to the defense of someone whoās acting like a jackass.
Sometimes the advice is truly to get the hell over it and take the moment to reflect on the reality check that was dished to you by strangers online.
You have rights, if you live in the states you should be ok. I felt the same fear when the divorce happened between my ex and I. However, with the help of two good lawyers (I realize this is always the case and in this respect maybe I got lucky) who had our interests in mind we arrived at the 50/50 custody split I have now. Yes it sucks to not have my daughters for a week, but then I get a full week with them. In some ways the week they are gone allows me to recharge, I am a better dad when they are here now then I was when I was also dealing with a toxic marriage. Kids are aware of much more the. We frequently give them credit for. She will probably still be quite young when she realizes something isnāt right between you two. You canāt stay in the marriage for the kid,she will have a better life with you happy and whole. If you can demonstrate you are safe parent who has been actively involved in her care and upbringing, she canāt take the baby from you, you are entitled to 50% of her time. Consult a lawyer about moving forward, there are things you can do to ensure it happens like this. Good luck OP, I hope you find some peace.
You donāt have to be sensitive about it. Sit him down and tell him that this behaviour is unacceptable.
Let me ask you, if your sister told you her bf was like this, what would you say to her?
This man is 33 and I doubt heās going to change. Do you want to be anchored to this for the rest of your life? Because if you marry him, this is what you are getting. It doesnāt get better and you canāt āfix himā.
Well somehow he has money for investments and he owns a house debt free.
So looks like he is doing pretty well?
No problem. Definitely would make the most sense if he was a virgin
You're not alone brother, it's a serious question.
My wife and I had been anti kids for a while, we eventually moved to fence sitters and now we're are pro kid with an understanding that if it doesn't happen we'll be perfectly happy knowing how we can live our life to the fullest because we explored a life without kids š
Really glad you decided to investigate further in a clever way. Most would treat her like shit and break up and/or contribute further to her ruined reputation at work/socially. Itās true video quality doesnāt transfer well between android/iPhone-Iāve had both. Itās always glitchy and the resolution is heavily pixilated. People can be horrible & itās worse when you think they are friends. She will find new, mature friends in time.
He gave you a sincere reactionā¦. Itās just not the kind of reaction you wanted. You want to be coddled and have your bad behavior excused.
Whoever told u that is dumb af. Im the same age & was diagnosed in 4th grade.
overdramatic
It was a tiktok of a cat and he readily showed you the messages – he doesn't view that as “talking” … so trust him.